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For me my reason is I just like them, however I don't jsut wear high heels I als o prefer to wear women's clothing as well but for the same reason, that being I like them, I like the styles they have to choose from and they are comfortable. I have brought some heels that can be uncomfortable but on the whole most of them aren't. As a guy, I just don't like the choices we have. Go out any where and women go out in many styles of clothing and shoes where's guys have a very limited choice. Most guys are ok with that, and there is nothing wrong with that. But I don't like it and I want to wear what I feel comfortable in. Until a few years ago I was too afraid to go anywhere in public but due to my job I have been able to give myself confidence and it has opened my eyes to what is really important to me, so now I where heels and the clothes I want most of the time.

To be accpected by others you really need to accept who you are, and need to be comfortable with who you are. That's what gave me a lot of confidence to be myself wherever I went. I spent to much time hiding myself from the world and family, worrying about what other people would think and trying to tell myself that it was wrong to wear heels, and wear the women's clothes that I like. When I realised that I was watching my life go past and not living it the way I should, I realised I need to accept the fact that I do like these things and that it is who I am and that there is nothing wrong with it. Yes I admit the first time I went out in public I was scared but after a few times I realised that yes, you get the odd look from people, and it can be funny to watch, and yes the toilet is even harder to do, but on the whole when going in to the shops to try on shoes or clothes or just shopping in general I got a lot of nice comments from staff and shoppers and never really had anything negative. Not even a guy getting into my face, well not yet but if it does, his day won't be sparkling for to long. I'm now at a point where my confidence allow me to wear the clothes I want all the time and no longer afraid to go to local shops and have even told work mates and nothing negative has happened. At the end of the day, there is no switch that is going to be tripped that is going to make society all off a sudden accept guys that wear or want to wear heels or clothing from the opposite sex. Although Lady Gaga's movement is a positive step in to trying to get people to accept everyone for who they are in the end it is up to the individual to accept themselves and to be confident, and then those around you will accept you. Just my 2 cents though.

As a guy with skinny calfs I try on everything I can to find a close enough fit but I have ordered fro www.duboots.com a couple of time which make boots to your calf size and find them pretty damn sweet.

Wow mate thats a lot of highs and lows to go through. Like you, for me it's not just the shoes but clothes as well and I remember telling my parents. I was scared as hell and had no idea how things would turn out. Mum was totally ok with it, but my dad with his somewhat of a religious back ground took a while to get use to it but after 2 years appears to be pretty good with it. Unlike you though the one thing I regreat the most is not doing it earlier. I was 28 when I decided that I wanted to wear what I've always wanted to but thought that I couldn't and I personally have so much respect for you for being so open at your age and I think most of us are on here. Advice I can give, dads are dads and it will take some time to fully be comfortable with it but remember he'll always love you for you.

Well just an update on my previous post in this thread. I was chatting with my dad the other day and he came out with "I know you have your issues, but I still love you" to which I replied...

"I don't have issues, YOU have issues with me"

I've taken a massive stand in sticking 1 big finger up to everyone who doesn't like me for who I am, and i'm opening my arms up wide to everybody who does! After a complete admission openly on Facebook about who I am, I have had many people message me saying how inspiring they think I am and how proud of me they are. And so far, nobody has said a bad thing to me about it

Seriously guys come on, be yourselves! stop caring about others and live your life the way makes you happy! Also if you want acceptance in your heels then you're going to have to show people you don't care what they think of you in them!

I for one totally agree with you, who cares what other people think or say live your life your way. But one thing I have learned is that if you don't accept yourself for who you are than how do you expect others to accept you.

I remember when I told my parents. my mum was really good with it and she told my dad for me. At first he was a little uncomfortable with it but now is totally ok with it. As posted in another thread my fiancee is ok with ot all now and there a re a few people at work that know and friend who know and I must say i feel so much happier just wear the clothes i want and my heels.

Not so fast, guys. It's time for a full-face serious discussion with her. While this sudden change in her attitude is certainly encouraging, we are talking about a lifetime commitment from both of you. A commitment that could eventually involve children which complicate the situatio further. So, time to get things talked through to insure that somewhere down stream your family relationship won't come unglued and actions taken by both of you now could result in harming some very innocent children that have no choice in the matter except that of having the bad luck to have parents that weren't thinking straight when they chose to make babys.

So true Bubba so true. And I too have been wondering about the change at first. We have had a talk about and it would seem the the stress from the previous job, the mistreatment from the boss and just being angry 24/7 made her really negative about anything. When she went to the interview for this job, for some reason we had abig talk about everything, which all statrted from how she liked being able to wear nice clothes to work instead of the god aweful uniform she had and how she felt really good in them, which I told her is how I feel when I wear my heels ad so on. And that tal went on from there to be really positive. from the other talk we had we found out the she doesn't like what I do but she does accept it but had trouble trying to say that the understood how how feel. One of the silliest thing we talked about was how she hates people that judge other people or how women still can't find on the frontlines of battle ( she come from a military family.Her parents know about everything and are ok and still love me anyway ) and pointed out to her how she was judging me all the time.

As for children, which we plan to have is a good point. The relationship as a whole is strong minus my awewsome heels at one point. Now of the past few months there has been alot my peace and relaxation. I am aware that if we do have kids and things go bad between us then this could afffect the kids, but thats the future and who knows what will happen. We both have the ideals of bring up any children we have to be accpeting of everyone one no matter what.

Last year I posted a topic on wanting general advice on how to deal with a my partner who was unwilling to accept my like of heels and women’s attire despite the fact she was aware of this early in our relationship. Many of you gave great advice and a lot of it I took on. After lots of self-reflection and thinking, in the end I knew that things would never change with my partner and even though I loved her I was not willing to give up my happiness. I knew hell would freeze over before she would accept me and allow me to wear the shoes and clothes I wanted around her, especially at home. I got to the point where I thought getting married was a bad idea. I have read so many posts from other guys on here, who live with their wives or partners and they were not so accepting also and I was not willing to live like that. But I thought I would be patience and see what the year would bring. Recently my fiancée got a new job, which I was happy about because the one she had was making her down right angry and depressed. Well it’s been feeling slightly cold, freezing even since she has been at this new job and I’m damned if I know what’s happened here but she has done a 180 degree flip. Since her new job she has been happier and seems to accept my clothing choice and shoes. I now wear what I want at home with no complaints, expect for the odd remake about my dress sense. I was even more shocked when we went out for dinner and I was in my skinny jeans with my heeled boots over and nothing was said, hell we even went shopping afterward and got ice-cream and turned out to be a really great night. I couldn’t be any happier than I am right now and so happy that I can truly be me, and am now looking forward to getting married in October.

If you have any levels of stress or anxiety then that could raise you blood pressure. But also it depends when you took your blood pressure. If you took it as soon as you got home then you could give yourself a false reading. when you do take your blood pressure after heeling give your self 30mins before taking. Also your blood pressure is constantly changing due to numerous reasons.

I have noticed that for some strange reason things need to be named or labeled, which I think is wrong and can find some labels highly offensive, for example heels for guys why are they called 'meels' and handbags for men are 'manbags'... I mean what the ... But to the question. I would not like to be called a CD, or transgender or a transvestie as I them offensive. I am a guy who likes to wear heels and certian women's clothing not because I want to be feminie or female but just because I like the style. Nothing more than that, yet people find theat hard to understand.

( Satyr folks! I just cant hold back! This is for fun over a typo! )

Not if they still have their arms/legs and can hang on! It wouldnt be hard.. wait.. It would be.. OH MAN! Umm.. it wouldnt be too difficult at all, the woman would be doing all the work!

Im sure if I had clothing made out of women, I would resemble one too endless the wonen were put in a blender or something before hand to make the material!

You look like a woman without clothes? Dude! HIDE! They might round ya up and try and make a skirt out of ya!

This is why one should never be on any forum typing anything after a night shift... it never looks good. I do appologise for my terrible gramma.

I was a bit like that at first but as i have stated in previous posts I work as a paramedic and realised really quickly that life is short and I wanted to live my life the way I wanted too live it so started telling everyone that mattered and most were ok with my clothing choices. At the end of the day you can wear women's clothing styles, you can wear high heels, you can wear make up and all of those thing but you have to be prepared for the negative feedback that may and can come with it. If its something you really want to do,.... well do it. The last thing you want to do is be old in your 80's, 90's and looking back at your life and wondering why you didn't do the things you wanted too. As for you g/f well by the sounds of things I don't think she will really mind if your open to her and tell her how you feel abouth these things. If she rejects it, well thats apart of life. You really can't live your life in the eyes of what other people want you to live it other wise it will send you insane.

As everybody I guess has pointed out wearing a skirt made of women can be very hard to do, however I'm one of the lucky few who can pull it of mainly because as a guy I can look some what femine with out the clothes. But if you want to pull it of try getting one tailor made as it will fit you perfect. Other things too is although you don't want to look femine do look at there tops and try and find things that look unisex. There is one store I go to alot where the manager helps me find clothes that go with my style and will let me know of future products that are coming in.

Hello fellow Brisbane heel lover.

I recently about a month ago decided that it was time to get my hair cut and wore my knee high boots over my skinny jeans. Had no problems from my stylist. To be honest he was impressed with my ability to walking in them.

I don't know but i hate war. I highly doubt that most men would want to go to war these days to be honest. But to add something to amandas post, here in Australia there current debate about letting female's in the armed forces on the front line with the men. So how can war be the Last Bastion. Anyway with all the horrible things I see in my job I say to people be yourself, do what makes you happy as at the end of it you might as well be happy and if seeing women in heels or wearing heels makes you happy well then who is it hurting?

Well it’s been a very long time since I’ve been in this thread so I thought I might do a quick update.

My fiancée as changed much, but I knew that would be the case however it would seem that she has become so much more tolerant of it all. Still can’t be me in front of her but lately have been wearing nail polish and nothing was really ever said of it. I still go out with friend wearing my heels and other attire and now she no longer gives me the silent treatment which is also a plus thing.

Other big things that happened is that at the end of my last holidays I told my supervisor at work who has been so supportive and helped my find a psychologist who specialises in this are (well gender identity anyway) and who I think would be more appropriate than your average psychologist. I’ve had one appointment due to roster conflicts so hoping to go to another one soon. When I went I decided to just be me and wore my black boot with skinny jeans, like I have shown in another thread. The session was really productive and I have to say thank you to everyone for your help with that one. We talked about why I wear what I wear and how it makes me feel and what the attraction to it is, which a lot of it is comfort. There was some small talk about my fiancées opinion and my fear of getting married next year with her being so negative about it all. My fiancée is also very happy that I’m talking to someone but as she had stated though she is hoping that he will make me see things from her side.

Anyway as I keep going to my appointments and with anything that may help other I will defiantly keep you all updated.

Unfortunately for me here in Brisbane, Australia, when its summer it is also extremely hot and humid so boots are best left at home in summer unless it it wet like it was at the begining of the year but not as wet as it was where you need a boat to get any where.

Readig through the comments its the same old hateful negative comment from the internet community that we normally expect to see. Unfortunately these type of comments are always going to be here due to most people not really thinking about what they say or type.

Thought I'd post some quick pics of the boots for you all.

Hey All, Well I have been out and about again this week, well mainly yesterday . Went out for coffee and some hunting for a pair of heels to go with my skinny cargo pants that I had brought a few months ago. Because of where I go for shopping and the fact I don’t go there very often I ended up wear what I have wore the past few times which are my black stiletto knee high boots, skinny jeans, cream top and black jacket with a scarf. Boring I know but .. Well can’t be help as I have lost a bit of weight of a lot of the stuff I had doesn’t me that well anymore, but anyway. First up was meeting a friend whom I had a coffee with wear we sat down and talked about work ( both of us are paramedics and can’t help but see who has done the best jobs). After coffee is was time to find some heels. I had been doing a bit of research on the net and had found a pair of ankle boots that I like which were on sale so we went straight for that store. Once there I managed to find my boots which were black ankle boots with a stiletto heel, laced up the front but with a side zip to get in and out of with 2 other zips on the other side for show. I asked that sales assistant for my size and was able to help and got me a pair that I could try on. I proceeded to try them on and fell in love with them. While I had them on a lady that was in the store looking at shoes saw me in them and made the comment at how good they look on me. I smiled and said thank you with my friend I was with also stating that she loved them and wanted them. With that I purchased the boots and continued looking/ walking around the shopping centre. After a while I went to a women’s clothing store called portmans which I have been to several times to say hello to a staff member who has been so helpful and so positive towards me with what I wear. She has practically dressed me so I try to say hello when I’m there. While there we had a quick chat, she loved what I was wearing and my new purchase. Afterwards it was time to head back home, so said goodbye to my friend and went home. This is always the part of my day I dislike and that is 20mins prior to my fiancée coming home from work it time to get out of everything as she is not so approving. Anyway a few hour later I decide to go see my parents so I was able to get back in to my favorite clothes and went and saw them . All of my family are aware of what I wear and have no problem which is nice. After 2 hours there It was getting late and need to get home. All in all it was a pretty good day and look forward to my next outing.

I've had to think about this question before posting my vote and have voted for no. It is a really question as the answers appear as if thed women was a partner of a man who like to wear heels yet it not asked in that way or maybe the answers given could have been a bit different. Looking at it from one point in that I think there are some women out there who don't mind if men wear heels and really couldn't careless if they do. I'm lucky enough to have several female friends who don't mind that I wear heels or the clothing choice that I make. But all have said though it would be a bit difficult to accept if that man was there partner with only 1 of them really sayig that they dont mind regardless which brings me to the other point. That is looking at a partners point of view. From what i can tell and from what I have seen and researched most women don't want there partners/SO/husbands to wear heels or anything related to female fashion. It would seem most women would rather have there men be a sterotypical man where they dress in mens clothing wear mens footwear and take interest in things that men do (that's not me so I kinda can't give reall good examples) like drink beer and watch sport??

I regret wasiting so much money on shoes or boots that I have brought from ebay or other online stores that didn't quite look that good or fit me too well. Looking back that could have been money spent on other things. However I don't regret purging everything twice as it made me understand that this is who I am and that it's not a phase.

Well I've been out and about again. I wore what I wore last time with my knee high boots. Went out to catch up with a friend and had some coffee. Once done there did a bit of walking around and shopping. First on the agenda I needed to by my fiancee a new set of Ipod earphones as our lovely puppies thought the ones she had tasted good. Next was a new game (yes I am a gamer as well) for my xbox. And finally brought a new top which is a nice grey colour 3/4 sleeve top with some ruffles/frills down the front. Also while walking around with my friend I couldn't help myself but check out some shoe shops but really didn't anything that I could buy that I liked. I am noticing the more I go out in heels the more my confidence grows and less i care about what other people think. My friend loved seeing some peoples faces adn there reaction to me. she asked how I deal with it and asked her who do you think is happier me or them? My friend I should point out I have only know for 2 months. She is 20 years old and is a university student doinga paramedic degree and got placed with me 2 months ago for six weeks. For some strange reason after knowing her for a few days told her about what I wear jokingly adn she thought that it was in her words "awesome." In short it is good to see that there are people who are so open minded and being so young as well. Well hope you enjoyed the breif read and will continue to keep posting.

Thanks to everyone for your comments. It has taken a while to get the style right and I can say there have been many fails at it.

Any chance of a photo of what you wore. I'm just trying to figure out what the dad thought the big deal was. It sounds like you were very stylishly dressed.

Here is a couple of photos of what I was wearing. Sorry if they're not that good.