verisimile

Welcome! We'll be awaiting more lovely pictures. Great style! Obviously thought out and practiced. Wonderful.

Dear Fellow Heelers:

While I share the idea that freedom should mean in practice exactly what it means idealogically, and I agree that wider acceptance of "differences" among all type of people is an optimum environment, this will not occur by government edict. A government can only respond to the culture, not lead it. The civil rights laws in America came into being in the 1960's because of the pressure brought to bear on American society by protestors of all backgrounds. The scale, after more than 200 years of shameful practice, finally tilted in the direction of freedom and against discrimination.

Did those and subsequent laws cause discrimination to magically disappear from American society? No way. And it has taken decades to make progress, and the process is far from complete.

"Discrimination" on one level, means simply distinguishing one thing from another. Observing that one person has red hair and another has brown is not a form of discrimination but simply a recognition of characteristics that might distinguish one from another. Taking some form of ACTION based on such distinguishing features is where the ugly form of discrimination arises.

Among our members, the men who act on their fascination with heels are possibly creating a distinguishing characteristic that, at this time and place, goes against commonly held stereotypical expectations. As many of us have experienced, for a range of possible reasons, society has become somewhat more accepting of those of us who act (dress, shoes, hair styles) outside of those stereotypes.

Nonetheless, as Dr. Shoe points out, we are firmly trained into our gender identity and it is often difficult, even terrifying to contemplate pushing the comfortable boundaries.

As I often remind people I care about "You cannot MAKE anyone do anything." All we can do, as so many members report, is go about our lives with confidence and openness and set an example for those who interact with us.

V

The standard notion of sex, then, must be replaced by the more malleable concepts of sexual orientation and gender identity. And I do mean must. Here in Quebec a recent government white paper promises to wipe society clean of both homophobia and heterosexism—that is, of any “affirmation of heterosexuality as a social norm or the highest form of sexual orientation [and of any] social practice that conceals the diversity of sexual orientations and identities.” Douglas Farrow, “Blurring Sexual Boundaries,” First Things

SleekHeels, Those look really great and quite comfortable. Could we get the maker, style and size, and even where you found them? Thanks.

I'm a man 13, pretty much woman's 13W is what I need to look for. I had some recent luck with a Naturalizer 12W boot. So I sort of agree that people might be able to look at one size down and find something that fits. Besides looking for shows that naturally aren't as restrictive (sandals, mules, etc), I'm sure some shoes are just little more generously sized that others of the same size.

If you're a size 8 or 9, there's probably no reason to do this, since pretty much every shoe is already available to you. However, if you're a size 12 or 13, being able to look at some 11's or 12's can significantly expand the selection of shoes available to you.

I also am usually a woman's 13W, though there is some real variation. So far, I haven't looked in a store for shoes for myself, but my wife warmed immediately to the idea of the two of us going shoe shopping together (for her.) Though it may not come to be, I'm at least mentally primed to ask her "Any for me?" or "Should we get a matching set?" My size will likely be a big obstacle to such an idea.

So far, only when home alone, which isn't all that often. I rotate my small collection as the mood strikes me. This forum has also allowed me to think about going further, heeling in public, perhaps some style photos. Got to lose some weight first!

You are a fortunate man, indeed. Enjoy!

This post was original on For Everybody, but I realized it is really aimed at the men. Sorry for any confusion. V There are many threads and hundreds of posts about why members wear heels. I'd like to offer a view I haven't yet seen in a post. When I put on heels, of course the first sensation is to my feet. Following naturally is the erotic excitement, due, no doubt to the "forbidden" aspect of heeling, and because I, like most men, have come to associate beautiful legs, feet and high heels with sexual excitement. Pretty natural for a man, it seems to me. But there's another sensation I've experienced (and would like to know if other men have.) Recently, I've been under quite a bit of stress, work, finance, deadlines, kids, to the point where I got really wound up tight. One afternoon, after all had left the office, I slipped on a pair of heels for the drive home. Suddenly, a serious calm spread over me, as if the stress had suddenly dissolved. A few steps in my heels, over my dark business socks, and I became, in a way, at peace. It was clearly a very pleasant feeling, and more than a bit disconcerting: how did wearing heels bring on this feeling? Is there something deeper in me that wearing heels allowed me to touch? I read in these forums that heels allow a man to expose or connect with his "feminine" side. Is that threatening to my masculinity, in some way? Or is it largely the titillation that arises from the intoxicating combination of the sexy and the forbidden? What do you think about this phenomenon? I'm pretty new to heeling though my affinity for high heels goes back many years. I even made a pair way back when, perhaps 30 years ago, because I was thoroughly intimidated by the idea of trying on women's shoes in a store, and there was no internet. Heels have come and gone in my life but now I think they're here to stay. I'm a very traditional guy, in many ways: married over 30 years, children, completely monogamous, a regular guy you'd say. At the same time, I spent many years in the live entertainment world and that experience really opened my mind to virtually any and every type of person, relationship and lifestyle. Though it may not be my preference, whatever consenting adults wish to do is none of my business (violence prohibited.) So far, my heeling has not extended beyond heels alone. Have you men found that expanding your heeling has led to increased fascination with women's hosiery, clothing or style? How does this manifest itself in your daily life? A dialogue would be just great. Have a wonderful, heeling day! Verisimile PS: Hope I haven't inadvertently broken any forum rules.

While I may not have done this correctly, this post is moved to For the Guys, How heels feel to me. I hope

There are many threads and hundreds of posts about why male members wear heels. I'd like to offer a view I haven't yet seen in a post. When I put on heels, of course the first sensation is to my feet. Following naturally is the erotic excitement, due, no doubt to the "forbidden" aspect of heeling, and because I, like most men, have come to associate beautiful legs, feet and high heels with sexual excitement. Pretty natural for a man, it seems to me. But there's another sensation I've experienced (and would like to know if other men have.) Recently, I've been under quite a bit of stress, work, finance, deadlines, kids, to the point where I got really wound up tight. One afternoon, after all had left the office, I slipped on a pair of heels for the drive home. Suddenly, a serious calm spread over me, as if the stress had suddenly dissolved. A few steps in my heels, over my dark business socks, and I became, in a way, at peace. It was clearly a very pleasant feeling, and more than a bit disconcerting: how did wearing heels bring on this feeling? Is there something deeper in me that wearing heels allowed me to touch? I read in these forums that heels allow a man to expose or connect with his "feminine" side. Is that threatening to my masculinity, in some way? Or is it largely the titillation that arises from the intoxicating combination of the sexy and the forbidden? What do you women think? How about the men? I'm pretty new to heeling though my affinity for high heels goes back many years. I even made a pair way back when, perhaps 30 years ago, because I was thoroughly intimidated by the idea of trying on women's shoes in a store, and there was no internet. Heels have come and gone in my life but now I think they're here to stay. I'm a very traditional guy, in many ways: married over 30 years, children, completely monogamous, a regular guy you'd say. At the same time, I spent many years in the live entertainment world and that experience really opened my mind to virtually any and every type of person, relationship and lifestyle. Though it may not be my preference, whatever consenting adults wish to do is none of my business (violence prohibited.) So far, my heeling has not extended beyond heels alone. Have you men found that expanding your heeling has led to increased fascination with women's hosiery, clothing or style? How does this manifest itself in your daily life? A dialogue would be just great. Have a wonderful, heeling day! Verisimile PS: Rereading this, I realized that it might better belong in For the Guys. But I'd really like to hear everyone's views. V.

Those Mary Jane pumps are cute!!

I agree, Johnnie! Round toe, D'Orsay style, closed heel, solid, all very simple, clean, and sexy! Well done! What did you search on e-bay? What size are these?

I live in a relatively rural/small urban area, where public is the customary big box and strip mall stores. If I lived in a large city, I'm sure I would be more courageous about being "spotted" wearing heels. Perhaps I'm still insufficiently confident in these or any heels. I'm open to suggestions from anyone more experienced than I.

I'll have to work on that. The only photo I have is here, from a sales site. I have no photos of me wearing them. I'll want to comply with forum rules about interesting pictures. Perhaps it is another hurdle to overcome.

http://www.payless.com/store/product/detail.jsp?catId=&subCatId=&skuId=064232100&productId=61519&lotId=064232&category=&catdisplayName=Womens

I hope I did this correctly.

Love strappy, especially ankle straps. My very first pair were 5.5 inch ankle straps and at that time I couldn't balance on them, so they went away. I think black or dark colored strapping is set off against the skin and is very sexy. I'll have to get back into them.

Definitely yes. See my post Beginning Heeler in For the Guys. It would have taken me longer to go public without this forum. Thank you!

Like StarCrossed, I am 13W. I've tried some 12WW and even some 13, and Ouch! On the other hand, a couple of my 13W are pretty loose. I just got a pair of Mary Jane pumps that, so far, are just right. That said, they're the feet I've got to work with.

I told my partner one evening a while ago. We've been together over 30 years so the gay query did not come up. I was asked if I wore hose, which I don't, and that was about it. Since then, I've kept it private and not in the face. Can't say I like the sneaking around much and I hear many of you talk as if it were cheating. Since I'm a newbie, I guess I've got much to learn. I do own 5 pair so it's a start.

After spending an hour or so reading posts by open and courageous heelers, I was inspired to summon the strength to go out in public wearing heels. Not real high (3"), not very long (20 minutes), not very public (buying gas), and at night, but it was an exciting, if timid start. Thank you for posting.