antha

I've been in a reasonably good place for a number of years now, especially after I took the decision to wear heels out in a manly way.

I made a point of collecting together outfits that enabled me to wear the boots I wanted to over jeans, as wearing heels under trousers is easy. I love the 70s 80 and early 90s Metal/Rock music and style so it wasn't too difficult getting something together, although I made a point in doing it in a more 'British' way, as that's where I live.

It's not until you try to get something together that you realise how bad the men's clothing choice is now, getting the right style jumper or coat even, it's dire out there. No wonder men dress down these days, anything good has been sold to the women's department!

 

The WOMEN'S BIKER BOOT is a pet hate of mine, us men wore them in the 80's on our (you guessed it) motorbikes, and now it's WOMEN ONLY!! 

 

The problem is always access to the RIGHT style boots in a EU43, and access to the right clothes in the right cut and with men's shoulders even harder. 

So even if you have got several looks that work really well, the inappropriate cut of the women's clothes makes it very difficult.

There are a few coat's that are a men's or unisex design that i want to finish outfits off, BUT they are in the women dept in a women's cut and too small in the shoulders and arms too short.

 

As you can tell i'm really one for getting the whole look right, i feel it's alright to be outrageous, but you best look damn cool in the process. 

 

If i go for an evening out in a long black full length,figure hugging skirt, wait cincher and very feminine top. . .yes it may well look good on me, but going out in my local town cinema is going to be too much for many, so not really an enjoyable night out for me.

Added to that no-one (including the rest of my family) wants to be ridiculed on a facebook picture gone semi viral!

Wearing make-up can give you some anonymity, but i just can't be doing with putting it on an taking it off.

Hi all

For me it all started with my mums block heel leather boots, I think, as I can't remember a time when I wasn't infatuated with leather boots. I'm pretty sure I was born with it.

My mum has never been fashionable and the boots went quite early on, so to my dismay by the time I was 7ish I had nothing to try on the quiet.

I spent the next 15yrs repressed. Until in eventually bought a pair of thigh boots which took 4months to turn up?!

Anyway after moving in with a girlfriend, once when she was out I tried on a skirt, the flood gates where opened after that.

 

Now i'm married (different girl), and wear heeled boots out in the cooler weather in what I consider to be a manly way. However I would love to be able to go out in the evening in what's considered to be full women's wear, as trousers and shirt is SOOO boring.

We tried me going out once in the full TV thing once, but I just struggle with the make up and I just want to be me.

Although I may do it again once more before all my long hair falls out!! lol

Used to be into cars and had a '76 vette many years ago but cars are just too expensive for me now. So just a Yam R1 and TZ250 now, oh and a van.

Weather they're supposed to be 'OTK' or not, they look just right to me. Next where the only ones selling anything like that in a 43, and their boot range in 43 is almost non-existent in the last 2 yrs. I emailed and complained. I'd love a pair like that.

Oh for my feet to be a size smaller.

My metal head outfit is, my chemical jacket, metal t-shirt (black of course) skinny black jeans, and 3" or 4" heeled dull black leather boots. I wear the 3" heeled boots with that lot shopping, out for the day in London or similar, cinema. It's not unusual to get a positive comment on occasion either. I reckon the Metal/heel look works really well if you get it right, although mine's less of a glam thing and more of a fusion of era's, well er maybe.

Cool Al Ilk you are probably right there Up till the last 150 years mens fashion has been quite flambouyant, if you could afford it, since then it''s got stuck in a rutt. The 60's wasn't too bad. . .missed that. The 70's Ugly fashion (in my opinion) but great oppertunity for heels. . .missed that too. However after those brief moments we're back to boring again. As you say though, we actually have more freedoms now but we choose not to exersise them. If we want more change we have to do something about it. So i best stop complaining.

Cheers Bluejay

Here in the uk it's comonly known that builders/roofers wear tights in the winter to keep warm, so oddly enough there seems to be some kind of acceptance here. They are only thin socks/leggings in reality.

I did the same thing with some 3" cowboy boots in Primark with a similar reaction, i.e. none.

If the western boots look good, I guess women find it understandable that us men would want to wear them too.

I reccently got a pair of ladies cowboy ankle boots. They have a 4" heel and are easily passable as mens boots.

Nice one

I reckon if we could as a community could 'get men wearing at least 3"+ cowboy type boots' even partially mainstream or popular, i think we'd have well and truely got the ball rolling, AND then familiarity would take over. . .

Oops i'm daydreaming again

I've worn 4" black heeled (half way between cuban/stilleto) knee boots to Alice Cooper, Motorhead, Steve vai etc concerts, together with an appropriate black outfit. Absolutly nothing to report.

I think the general vibe on here is that most us do our own thing, so whatever you do it must be right for YOU. Remember we have all been 'wearing what someone else wants' by wearing men's flat shoes for years. So my advice (for what it's worth) is this:- Start off with the LEAST extreme stuff that YOU WANT to wear, and try to match your footwear to your clothes, walk so it fits in with what you are wearing. Movies, bands (musicans), historical outfits are great to get idea's from and it's familiar to Joe public. Most of all wear what you like, NOT what you don't, it will show. Do not wear sky high heels first time out, you'll most likely fall over and hurt yourself, remeber you have PLENTY of time. Getting yourself comfortable with styles that enable you to wear heels will probably take quite a while to get right, it has with me and i'm still refining. Finding the right shoes/boots and finding the right clothing may take alot of internet searching, but getting it right makes a big difference. You are YOU, be YOU. So explore who YOU are, then you'll look good.

I hope i'll be as you fortunate with these i've just ordered from topshop

http://media.topshop.com/wcsstore/TopShop/images/catalog/32B04CBLK_large.jpg

not sure if i'm gonna get into EU42s from here though, but never tried.

Oh definitely, FreshinHeels. However, at such a young age, I doubt they would be able to understand. In time they will know about it, and learn acceptance and tolerance with it, as they have in other aspects of life.

I have a different take on it.

My lad is 3yrs and he is quite used to dad wearing boots/heeled boots as i frequently wear them inside my jeans and outside my jeans(with the right outfit) on days out and shopping etc. However, although he's seen me wear some of the boots i don't wear outside the house, he hasn't seen me wear anything of the type that mum wears. (Mum wears REALLY fem stuff only.) I'll wait till he's older, maybe, see how he thinks as he gets older.

The problem that you get by introducing heels later is after letting your offspring get programmed by what he sees around him, you then have the problem of explaining to him why you're doing something that only women do or only men 'seem to do in movies or TV etc, he or she isn't probably going to understand the deeper issues of why your doing it.

By exposing them from the word go they just accept it, like the presenter on BBC's CBEBBIES channel with the deformed arm, the kids don't give a S**t, they ask why once and that's it they understand. In my case with the boots, weather snow, 2", 3", nicely tapered 4" heels, if you get the style right they may probably seen something similar before, so it looks, well, er right.

If you can tap in to a style/styles that look good on a man, it will look good on a man, end of.

May i just say my lad loves his black cowboy boots and has wanted to wear them to school many times, but he can't.

We have made a point of not imposing or steering him onto certain music or clothes, he just seems to like my/our kind of stuff, and asks for (demands sometimes) it.

A baby/small child is a clean sheet of paper they see things and say things as they are, if you get it right, they won't bat an eye lid, if you look daft, they'll tell you.

I just won't wear anything to school that may cause bullying.

Al

racing bikes, don't get me started

I'm the second group. . .sort of.

I def have the need for wearing heeled boots, and i used to bodybuild many years ago so jackets and shirts are always baggy at the waist.

Got long blonde hair too, had it short several times, but too high maintenace getting it cut every 5 mins, ultimately i prefer my long locks. Trouble is it's starting to get a bit thin at the front and i really want my thick head of hair back.

I would love to be able to 'dress up' for an evening out, i'm totally fed up with shirt and trousers, like Al, i really hate the lack of choice.

So had my life taken a different path i'd be similar to Ilk, just would rather not be skinny again, i prefer having some muscle shape to me instead of being up and down as i was.

I'm afraid it's the times we live in, it ain't a good time for people like us.

There's a picture on the wall of a staircase in Dunster castle in Somerset, that really took me, http://www.1st-art-gallery.com/Edward-Bower/A-Cavalier.html it looks out of proportion but it was painted to to be looked at from a staircase. The real one is BIG! it's worth a vist if you're on holiday there.

If we all had this freedom, as men did, we would have few issues.

Skinny jeans and boots are a great combination. So what do you wear with them from the waist up that completes your 'look'?

Yes it's about time i posted a pic, i'll go find. . . .

Just a shame they don't sell them in leather or suede

Had to go into the local town today and while i was there i thought it might be a good idea to try to get some more skinny fit black jeans to go with the boots i wear. For the last few years i've had to wear womens skinny fit, as the mens either weren't in fashion or like last winter only went half way up my arse. . not good.

A month ago i bought something that fitted really well at Topman £30 (slim fit apparently but tight around my legs) but they only had one in stock, i left it too long so now theres none online either. Found some at Primark of all places, £10 each and they had lots in my size WAHOO (said like Homer Simpson).

I digress,

While i was there i had a quick look at the shoe dept, like you do, the tags on quite a few said said sizes 3-9, not seen that before, but i couldn't see any 9s.

Now i'm a definite 9/43 especially at Hush puppies and Next stores (not happy with Next they've stopped doing half their styles in 9/43, so i complained online), however there is one pair i have from Next that are 8/42 that fit well, but these are a one off, as ordinarily i wouldn't get mny foot in

Primark had some very much like these http://www.ebay.co.u...=item337e3d624c except they had a couple of studded straps on, same colour brown. I spied 2 pairs of UK8/EU42 that didn't look particularly small, so off came my 3" heeled western Black knee boots and i tried them, WOW they fitted!! God knows how big the UK9s would have been and they were around £20-£30 too without being discounted.

Don't know why i tried them, wishfull thinking, as i would have been disapointed at Newlook. I didn't end up buying them as they weren't in leather and my feet would most likely 'pong' after a while, added to that i've haven't bought the Next version that is in leather. They had some really nice more traditionally feminine styles (can i say that) that would have fitted too, but they wouldn't have gone with my 'Look', although i'd love that not to be the case. Already got several pairs like that.

Anyway if anyone here is a uk9 or 10 give them a try, as i know too well how hard it it is to buy fashionable heeled boots in those sizes that aren't fetish.

Thanks dude Went to shopping today.... but better start a new thread Looks like i'm on a posting roll

Hi Freshinheels, Meganiwish, and SF

Sorry, that sounds a lot like me. I've been registered on here for quite a few years, but rarely post anything.

I'm afraid life is rather busy with kids, hobbies, part time work (i'm the one that had to give up the day job), added to that i'm not that good at posting pics on the net, although i ought to.

Where are they? Good question. I have NEVER seen another guy out in heels - or any other type of gals shoe. Sometimes I feel like I am the only guy out here that wear heels. It's a lonely life... sf

I know what you mean though, i don't think i've ever seen another guy wearing heels out, (not counting cowboy boots, or TV/TG's) but i'm convinced there are many wannabees out there that need some encouragement.

I take the opinion that if my wearing heels out encourages at least one other to wear their heels out, it's worth the effort.

Having said that i do it cos i want to and life is too short, or i'm getting older too fast.

Made a mistake, What i meant to say was:-

If most youngsters were wearing cowboy boots most of the time, i doubt a moderate cuban heel would be an issue.

Knee highs

Agree totaly

I do tend to push the limit (my limit ) only when i'm with my wife.

I took the decision a couple of years ago that if i was going to wear heels out as daytime wear, i had to do it with the right clothes and more important, in a positive way.

If by being seen out, i can encourage one other person to wear heels out too, it's been well worth it.

But that's just me. We all have our own perspective.

Which almost brings us back full circle, If people generally dressed better, i'd think moderate hight heels on men would be far more easily accepted. But compared to trainers or supposedly fashionable work boots, sports wear and blue jeans etc it's far too much of a leap for most to handle. If most youngsters were wearing cowboy boots most of the time, i doubt a moderate cuban heel wouldn't be an issue.

Don't know weather this is the right section but i've spotted these on ebay UK, item No 270982168362 I was going to bid on these, but i've got enough western type boots with the same heel as these that i wear out most of the time with the family in the winter. So i thought i'd spread the word. Makes a good balance between smart mens/riding/with heel i reckon. Love to hear some other opinions/comments on the style.

Happy in heels

Good point.

Going out in heels with a girl by your side can often change the 'he's a bit of a wierdo' thought to a 'am i missing something here' or 'oh so he's not odd, just an out of the box thinker' from onlookers minds especially if the girl/woman is well dressed too.

Having 4 sisters-in-law i've had a good few candid honest thoughts about my heeled boots and outfit that goes with it, getting the whole look right is essential they say.

In my determination to go out in heels (with the family more often than not) i often have the 'THIS IS ME, SO LIKE IT OR LUMP IT' mindset coupled with 'IF MY WIFE AND I THINK THIS LOOK GOOD THEN SO WILL OTHERS', other thoughts don't often get their way in.

Although, going out heeled by myself, i haven't had any more negative reactions than when i'm with my wife.

Heelster

Yup its like that around here

However a visit to london. . . .

Perhaps if more of us as heel wearing men went out with more of a 'look', with a girl/women by our side perhaps it may lead by example?

I do feel though with so much going on behind closed doors, there is a tidal wave bubbling under.

Wrong analagy probably.

Ultimately i reckon that if every man who owned heels wore them out for 1 day at the weekend (by themselves or with someone), for a month or 2 - the ball would be rolling for GOOD

Oh dear enthusiasum out of control again.

Although Shafted said something similar: Some years ago i had a conversation with Steve from 'Divine', the kinky boot factory, he was telling me that many models bought shoes from him as he was told 'good quality leather UK10+ stilletos were, impossible to get on the high street' Apparently UK11 is not uncommon in these circles.

That's exactly what i find, i take a 43/44 and guess what, NEXT don't stock them in their shops and CLARKS don't either, so stuck with the internet. BTW i'd love a pair of those Sam Edelman boots in Long Tall Sally but i'd need a uk10 for those

I was pretty freaked out when i opened this thread. Had some time to think and came to a decision what i'm going to do. Comments from everyone here helped a lot.

I have a feeling that when the subject comes up, your parents are very likely to say 'yeah, we suspected as much' and that will probably be about it. You'll be expecting a long explanation/chat and there won't be one.

Your parents have known you for a long time. . .