SwtPam

You are right about one thing--this thread has drifted way off track and it's time to close it. And let me also make it very clear that any negative things I've said about persons are NOT pointed at anyone in this forum. As far as posting goes, I'm not into censorship. Giving an answer to another person's judgement about your behavior or my behavior regarding our use of footwear is, in my humble opinion, appropriate for this forum. For example, if you were a man who likes to dress up in women's clothing, or simply wear women's high heels, and someone says that your behavior is "perverted" and "abnormal", then you have every right to answer. My point in the last post is that I detest hypocrisy. For me the hypocrisy comes in when someone makes a judgement about you, me or another that his or her use of high heels is morally wrong or sexually perverted because they get sexual titillation by stepping on something. I agree that insects should be the limit, but I am not going to put down another since I do not stand on higher moral ground than you or others in this forum. As much as anyone may wish to pretend otherwise by masking it with an aire of sophistication and somekind of intellectual investigation, this is a shoe fetish site, and shoe fetishism often includes pornographic attraction and sexual addiction. If anyone, especially a man, tells me I am morally deficient by what I enjoy doing with my high heels, and then he spends hours on a computer, or acts out his addiction to high heels in ways that deprive his wife or children of his time and affection, then that man is a hypocrite (and I'm not saying that this applies to anyone here). Wives who suffer as victims of husbands with sexual addictions would find the term "hypocrite" too kind and might prefer a term like "slug." I have every right to post on THIS site when someone implies that my use of high heels is not morally correct or mentally disturbed. I will not take moral judgements from any animal rights activist who supports abortion; or any teacher, coach or clergy who is a pedophile; persons who have sexual turn-ons that are considered "strange" or "abnormal" (e.g., men dressing in women's clothing); or sex addicts in denial who act out with shoe fetishism and then tell me MY use of footwear is "wrong."

If one believes life is precious (and we do), how can one condone the violent destruction of life for mere titillation?

Sounds good....As long as YOU and anyone else who objects to stepping on bugs, etc., for "mere titillation" is not one of those hypocrites who believes that abortion is a choice for an unwanted pregnancy or an acceptable method of birth control, believing that killing a baby by having its skull crushed and its brains sucked out is fine as long as it's legal.

I'm just sooooo dam*ned tired of hearing all these righteous hypocrites defending animal rights but saying it's okay to kill human babies. I'm not saying that YOU do; in don't mean to insinuate this. Unfortunately, there are those who love animals (I do too), but do not treat unborn babies and old people half as well.

Okay....I'll put on my white gloves, cross my legs properly, make sure the silver is set by correct table ettiquette, and shut up. At least until I detect more self-righteous hypocricy being spewed out.

Yep! I agree. Excess = Defect. And sometimes even a little of something is too much. But insects are insignificant to me. "Sicko" -- Depends on your values. Golden showers and scat are a pleasure to some, but may be "sicko" to me (I can't even stand being in the next stall to some gal whose p--p makes my eyes water, let alone have her do it in my face--now that's "sicko" for me!) "Ya, but you're crushing an insect to death!" True...but they have no significance--I'm not referring to the ecology of plant Earth here. And Animal Rights -- don't freak out! I have limits. This won't lead to dogs and cats. And no "trample" fetishists need call. I'm a BBW and would probably injure or kill any guy I would stand on barefooted, not to mention wearing my spike heels! The only casualty of my spike heels have been wooden flooring and linoleum.

Thanks for the advice: setting limits. Don't we have to do that with lots of things in life--eating, money, work, etc? But, yes, I know what you mean, especially with a fetish. If things get too weird, I'm not that attached to cut things off, believe me. I enjoy being a bit dominant, and crushing something under my high heels adds to the pleasure. But no way am I going to let it go too far. What do you think "too far" would be in this fetish? I've got my opinion, but curious to hear yours. Thanks again.

Well Ladies, I decided to stay with him, and we've been having a wonderful time together. He's a real gentleman and treats with with respect--and romance (love it!) Yeh...like some have said, the crush thing really is not a big deal. In fact, I've begun to step on some other things for him--it's just a turn-on, like if he were turned on to my nylons, skirt, panties--and high heels, of course. In fact, I kinda enjoy this crush stuff--gives me a bit of a power rush. I've always enjoyed mild forms of dominance. Like I've said previously, that's part of the reason I wear heels--stand taller, and I like the way my "spikes" press holes and dents into certain things I walk and stand on.

I went out with this really cute guy last weekend for dinner. He's a real gentleman, soft-spoken, respectful, but I'm still a little unsure. There's a park across from the restaurant, and when my date asked if I wanted to take a walk, I said "Okay", even though I was wearing a pair of mules with five-inch spike heels. I don't mind walking in them because the soles are thicker and good-quality leather--soft to my feet but solid to step with. They also cradle my feet nicely. All-in-all not a bad pair of heels for a stroll around the park. But, it wasn't my feet that worried me after we got about half way around the area. We were standing together, looking at a fountain, when this fellow looks down, sees a dark-colored beetle about the size of marble; it was crawling across the cement by our feet. "Would you mind stepping on that?" he asked politely. Without another thought I said, "Oh, okay", put my shoe sole on it, shifted my weight and heard the intruder "crunch" under my step. I don't like bugs and they don't bother me, so I just did it without another thought. But then he said, "I find that SO sexy!" Now, THAT comment did worry me a bit. I've never heard a guy say something like that--it was so sexy when I crushed an insect under my shoe. Several times since this happened, he has told me how beautiful I look in heels--my legs, feet, etc.--and how sensuous it was when I squashed the insect. I'm not so sure about this guy now. What do you think?

I hate sun-warmed asphalt the most. My heels sink in a bit and come out easily, but the oil stains the tips of my "spikes."

I wore 5" heels to a wedding, not knowing that the reception afterwards meant a "lawn party." I tried to stay sitting or on the pavement, but I had to do a certain amount of socializing, which meant walking and standing on the grass. My feet and ankles can only take so much before I start sinking. I felt like a teenaged girl without any practice walking in heels--sinking into the ground all over the place. At work I sometimes wear sandals with low spike heels (peg or kitten). We have a few picnic tables for breaks on the grass areas behind the building. I don't mind driving those heels in, but it's embarrasing with five-inch heels.

Maybe this has been covered before--I'm a newbie. Does anyone enjoy feeling "dominant" or "powerful" because you're wearing heels? How so? Confession: I like to show a bit of the "Domm" -- No leather, whips and chains, but subtle. Like standing taller (I'm 5'9" so heels put me over six feet). Heels sculpture my calves--muscular legs. Heels give me an aire of confidence. Anything kinda "kinky"? Well....gotta admit I do get a rush when I feel my heels sink in. Hey--there's lots of pressure under the tip of my stilettos! I've punched my share of "heel holes" and crunched things--that's life! How do you feel in heels?

I usually wear stiletto heels and some have steel tips so anything that is not made to withstand the pressure under my "spikes" gets pressed with a hole or dent, but I figure this is not my problem. As mentioned above, CD cases don't stand a chance and I've accidentally spintered a few of these (well...not always an "accident"). I did have one woman complain to my husband that my heels pressed holes into her linoleum flooring (so much for me ever wanting to see that #*#$* again!) Of course, I avoid walking on the lawn or soft asphalt since my heels sink in like a knife into soft butter.