tcollins

I thank all of you for posting your experiences and hope other will add to this thread. So if I'm correct, the trend goes that the more subtle you present yourself, the less reaction you will generate, and therefore, the more "shocking" you look the greater the chance for a negative encounter. Either way, what I am noticing is most negative encounters only generate a moment or two of awkwardness (when people stare) or slight embarrassment (when people actually voice a comment) and then it's over as they and you move on. And the best way to handle the awkwardness/embarrassment is to "face it" directly (by not running away) and make the issue the other persons problem, not yours. Does this sound right to everyone? Am I missing anything? Thank you all so much for your input. Knowing what to expect really makes all of life's encounters much easier. TC

I thank all of you for posting your experiences and hope other will add to this thread. So if I'm correct, the trend goes that the more subtle you present yourself, the less reaction you will generate, and therefore, the more "shocking" you look the greater the chance for a negative encounter. Either way, what I am noticing is most negative encounters only generate a moment or two of awkwardness (when people stare) or slight embarrassment (when people actually voice a comment) and then it's over as they and you move on. And the best way to handle the awkwardness/embarrassment is to "face it" directly (by not running away) and make the issue the other persons problem, not yours. Does this sound right to everyone? Am I missing anything? Thank you all so much for your input. Knowing what to expect really makes all of life's encounters much easier. TC

Hi All, I, along with most everyone else on this forum, have read many encouraging stories posted by fellow members while out in heels. This has been very encouraging as I continue to explore new places while wearing heels, however always in the back of my mind I constantly wonder what is the worst that can/will happen if and when I am noticed. Fortunately, I have had only two encounters, both with women and both positive. What I would like to hear about is the negative reactions some of you have had and how you reacted. I hope this will help prepare me (and maybe other) for that inevitable encounter. Thank you in advance. TC

I wonder if we might be confusing sexual orientation (Straight, Gay, Bi) with Gender Identity ( a broad spectrum self-identification based on numerous degrees of Masculinity and Femininity)? Based on the online tests, I personally fall near the middle (with a mix of Feminine and Masculine traits), however I consider myself to be Straight. Just a thought. TC

I too agree with Magickman. Regardless of the topic posted at Yahoo answers, you'll always get a lot of immature answers. Just read through all the "I Hate" and the "That is Gay" until the intelligent answers pop up. As for EMO, maybe it's the catalyst that will eventually lead to acceptance of heels for all. TC

Nice look Sim. I don't understand the anger issue this waitress or anyone has with heels. Is it because they (the angry people) are trying to exert control over us (your basic control issue)? TC

I too believe that RonC is correct. I believe we are being noticed more often than we think. It wasn't all that long ago that I remember seeing someone dressed in out-of-place attire (the first guys wearing earrings, the girl with the cool-aid pink hair, the goth/emo guy with the dark eyes and Mohawk, etc). At the time these people were considered by society as unusual, or rebellious, or just plain weird. Like many of you, I noticed these people, thought of them as unusual and weird, and then without saying a word, went about my business. I may have mentioned it to a friend (especially if I new the person) or more than likely just filed it away. But as time when on, more and more guys started wearing earrings, girls (and guys) died their hair, and the goth/emo groups continued to dress in dark clothing, wear dark eyeliner with strait dark hair and sport multiple facial piercing. And now that same guy from the 80's wearing an earring is considered completely normal, more and more women (and men) are highlighting their hair with non natural coloring (reds and black/blond are popular here), and the goth/emo image (although curtailed) has become quite commonplace with men, now more than ever, wearing eyeliner (Russell Brand, Robbie Williams, Brandon Flowers, Alex Zane, etc). These are just a couple of many examples, however the point remains. Yes, I do agree that unless we are "street heeling" in complete stealth, we are being noticed. And just like with our predecessors, people are either to polite or non-confrontational or just don't care enough to say anything. And just like our predecessors, eventually with enough exposure and time, men who wear high heels will become commonplace.

I guess I'm pretty lucky as the wife does not care either way. It's never been an issue or even talked about. It just is...in the same respect as her thoughts about me wearing hiking boots. TC

Hi all, I've been following the site for some time and decided now I too should participate. I look forward to sharing and learning with all of you. TC