Celso999

Glosha, I would not go schocking her. You said there is some fetish going so I would use this as a proposal for you to use heels in front of her, in a private place, of course. Good Luck!

Those are men boots. No problem using them at the office. I have one similar with 3 inches heel and I never had any bad comment here at the office.

This is the kind of high heeled shoes I would like to find in my size (12 US). They look really masculine!

That's good news but I would never buy something with this ugly heel.

Hi Mick, That's a good idea. It's exactly the same procedure used on those "elevator shoes", although I think that the real thrill is to use the boots without disguise. I also have one pair of wedge boots similar to yours. I went out with them once but I found that they look really ugly hidden by normal jeans, as the size of the appearing feet was too small. They must be used over the jeans but I still haven't had enough confidence to use them properly. Enjoy your outings and good luck. Best Regards, Celso

Hey Skirtedvik, My wife thinks the same as you stated: "woman in male apparel or social role - heroic, man in women's apparel and so on - hilarious,gay and etc.". Regards, Celso

Hi Asa Valen, I think you're right. The term "fetish" has a stigma of a disease so almost nobody wants to be qualified by it. I transcribe below what the 10th Revision of the International Classification of Diseases (ICD-10) states about it:

F65.0 Fetishism

Reliance on some non-living object as a stimulus for sexual arousal and sexual gratification. Many fetishes are extensions of the human body, such as articles of clothing or footware. Other common examples are characterized by some particular texture such as rubber, plastic, or leather. Fetish objects vary in their importance to the individual: in some cases they serve simply to enhance sexual excitement achieved in ordinary ways (e.g. having the partner wear a particular garment).

Diagnostic guidelines. Fetishism should be diagnosed only if the fetish is the most important source of sexual stimulation or essential for satisfactory sexual response.

Fetishistic fantasies are common, but they do not amount to a disorder unless they lead to rituals that are so compelling and unacceptable as to interfere with sexual intercourse and cause the individual distress. Fetishism is limited almost exclusively to males.

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So this is the official definition. Now you can make your own judgement. I hope I have helped in some degree. Best Regards, Celso.

Yes, SomeGuy. You are right. I discovered that as soon as I become confortable with some height and I'm able to walk anywhere with some high heel shoes, the thrill is gone. Just keep going up by half inch steps until you reach your limit. Best Regards.

The shoes from Littlewoods are beautiful but they are sooooo small... I wish I was not an US 12 !

The term you describe is a label in the Psychiatric manual that labels transsexuals, for those that truly wish they were female.

Hi Frodo,

Sorry to disagree with you but the great majority of the transexuals feel they are a woman trapped in a man's body and most disagree they are autogynephilic.

The wikipedia says:

According to Blanchard, "An autogynephile does not necessarily become sexually aroused every time he pictures himself as female or engages in feminine behavior, any more than a heterosexual man automatically gets an erections whenever he sees an attractive woman. Thus, the concept of autogynephilia...refers to a potential for sexual excitation".

Blanchard classified four subtypes of autogynephilic sexual fantasies:

1) Transvestic autogynephilia: arousal to the act or fantasy of wearing women's clothing

2) Behavioral autogynephilia: arousal to the act or fantasy of doing something regarded as feminine

3) Physiologic autogynephilia: arousal to fantasies of female-specific body functions

4) Anatomic autogynephilia: arousal to the fantasy of having a woman's body, or parts of one.

As we can see, it's only about "fantasies", not about a REAL desire to be a woman.

By the way, I never tried to "play a psychoanalyst" over you. I just said that my research about "autogynephilia" has helped me understanding MY motivations. I thought that MAYBE you would like to read about it.

Anyway, I liked your answer a lot.

Best Regards,

Celso.

Because also in some respects a lot of the "thrill" is gone when I got to the level I was "happy" with, and I realized that kind of "thrill" often leads to a path towards more and more absurd footwear or lifestyle to remain it being "fun". At my age, that kind of "fun" I recognize now is more a selfdestructive kind and will result in me becoming some sort of charicature or a man people are more inclined to laugh at or pity.

Hi Frodo,

Reading your post, it reminded me that I recently discovered the term "autogynephilia" which means "love of oneself as a woman" in order to refer to "a man's paraphilic tendency to be sexually aroused by the thought or image of himself as an woman." In my case, it describes exactly the reason for me wearing women's shoes and, like you said, the constant desire to look at mirrors. Maybe checking this out will help to give you some insight as it did for me.

Best Regards,

Celso.

Hi, I enjoyed your story very much as it reminds me my own, very similar to yours. Could you describe or put a photo of your boots? Best Regards, Celso.

I would just add the fact that we should always look UP when walking in heels. From my own experience, this causes people in the streets not to be attracted by your choice of shoes and, if they do, they will respect you as you are projecting a confident image of yourself. Best Regards, Celso

I only use high heel boots and shoes with block heels to go out. At home I also use some platforms and strappy sandals. I tried some other women's stuff at home but I realized that it was just a fetish, not something I would do on a daily basis, so now I stay in the "man in heels" category.

In my humble opinion, if you are still shy of wearing your high heels in public, in plain light of day, you'd better not do it until you look at you in a full size mirror and like what you see. I have been pointed out by some young women in some occasions but never had somebody coming to me to ask about my heels. If so, I would probably give them the standard "they are not women's shoes, they are mine" or "because I like them" answer. Best Regards, Celso.

No, she hates my interest in high heels and she does not want to know anything about other men who have the same interest. I avoid to use high heels in front of her, although I did it sometimes, when she just pretended she was accepting it. I decided not to stress our relation since I can use them when she's not home and also I use loafers with 3 inches heels at work whenever I feel like.

Hi, I wish to congratulate you. I think that thanks to the younger generation attitude we will have men in high heels becoming a natural thing and nobody will stare us anymore. Keep on heeling my friend! Regards, Celso.

Hey, Congratulations for your braveness of doing what you want. The swedish people has always been known as one of the most free people in the whole world. Most of us live in coutries where people are very narrow minded (Latin America, United States, etc), thus our fear of being laughed at or sometimes beaten up (as reported in some threads here). I know that, with the due time, thanks to the young generation, this will change and men in high heels will be common stuff just like men with long hair or men with earrings. Good Luck, Celso

Hi Amanda, I think you got to the point when you say "create for yourself, an image that you consider beautiful and arousing". From my experience, it has a lot of doing with the total possession of the feminine image as, as you can read in other threads, many of us straight men, love to regard ourselves in a mirror when using high heels. Others love to take pictures or to make short films of themselves with heels on. In my case, I would love to see my wife posing for me with high heels, just for my pleasure. As she does not have ANY intention of doing that for me, you're probably right - I create for myself an image that I can admire and make it behave any way I want. Best Regards,

Thanks for the link. Unfortunately the only model that looks like mensware is ugly and has no high heels. Best Regards, Celso.

Hi

I am attaching examples of the shoes i wear every day to work (it's winter now) - IT'S ALL ABOUT HAVING FUN

Hi Dawn,

Congratulations for your attitude. The first and second boots are very nice! I never found one of those in my size (12 US) here in Rio de Janeiro, although for work I use only block heels up to 3.1/2 inches.

Best regards,

Celso.

or, you could get a pair of boots with thicker and higher heels (Like I just have:)

RadioDave's boots do look like a regular men's boots with cuban heels. It's OK for improving self-confidence but they do not shock anybody. The boots you showed here are very nice and a real self-defy to public use.

I would say that steps #1 to #4 do apply to this Forum and are very well conceived. The other steps would apply best to the Crossdressing Forum, although I believe it doesn't necessarily start with the using of women's shoes.

Hi, I have a similar pair as the first one and I can assure you that, when used with jeans nobody will notice since they are quite unisex. Do the following: go to work with your normal shoes and take the first pair with you in a shopping bag. Change them when already seated in your desk. Make small adventures to the bathroom or just around your workplace. You will graduately get confidence as you will see that nobody really looks to our feet to see what we are wearing. I always use black socks in order to disguise the somewhat feminine shape of the shoe upper part. I did that in my office and it worked fine. Once a male co-worker noticed the 8 centimeters heel and just said: "Hey, those are nice boots!" Good Luck, Celso.

I like very much this style. i would certainly import some of them if they were offered in size 12W US. Best Regards, Celso.