bigbadkatz

Steve, What I find that works is to downplay my desire to wear heels, a little, and to instead ask my wife to wear hers. When she asks me which of mine I want to wear, I'll tell her something like "Nah, I'd rather see you in yours. Unlike me, your legs look sexy in them..." In this way, she knows I'm not losing physical affection for her and she doesn't feel like she's in competition with me. At first, I think she thought I was expressing a lack of desire for her. THAT must be nipped in the bud This is just another thing that has worked for us. I guess it could be summed up in one word "moderation".

Just a pair of ballet/dress flats, with either pointed toe or open toe would be wonderful. The kind of heels I wear in private are too tall to do much walking in, but I've always liked the dress flats. They look like pumps, just without the heel (if that makes any sense?)

I feel playfully humiliated and confined.

I wear them at home usually with a pair of legcuffs that my wife holds the keys to. She's gotten so comfortable with me wearing pumps, that she'll ask me which ones I want to wear BUT with the rule that my feet must also be chained together. We have lots of pairs of heels, and lots of handcuffs/shackles.

Same style perhaps, but she's a size 9.5-10(us) whereas I'm a 14W-15M(us)

When we first got married, my wife was not 100% with the idea of me wearing heels, even in private. She wears six-inch heels and was a little confused why I would want to wear them. We had been into bondage since day 1, so how we worked through this was to look at heels as a form of bondage, a form of humiliation even, in that high heels impede freedom of movement. So now when I want to wear a pair of pumps, I put on a pair of legcuffs as well. My wife doesn't view this ensemble as an attempt at femininity, but rather a bondage scene. Sometimes she'll demand the keys to the cuffs. Makes her happy, which makes me happy. There are ways to work through most any impasse, given enough flexibility and cooperation by both parties.

To me, high heels are shoes. Shoes are inanimate objects. They are not in themselves the end-all of one's gender or sexual orientation. I am still 100% heterosexual, no matter what I wear. I can still lift heavy objects and all the other stereotypical things that men are supposed to do, even if I occasionally walk around the house in a pair of 5" pumps. I never wear them in public, due to the reactions I know I'd get.

I am curious about how perceptions change based on what other people think. Specifically, I know that when my dad first pierced his ears 50 years ago, everyone thought he was gay and he received very few compliments on his earrings. Now it's very commonplace to see guys with pierced ears and no one thinks of earrings as female-only jewelery. What about high heeled shoes? If a woman really likes the look and feel of high heels, could they also get to like seeing men in heels also if lots of men wore them?

I personally like them both. Those red pumps you mentioned are on fire!!! One thing about ankle straps I've noticed when my wife wears hers. The shape of the ankle changes depending on if you are carrying your weight or not. So when you're sitting down, they have to be a little loose, because when you stand up the ankle might expand a little. So it's either that they'll be loose when sitting down or tight when standing up. There's a tradeoff. Some of my wife's shoes have a little bit of hidden elastic for this very purpose, but not all do. Someone else mentioned it and I think it's true, that straps on a pump that tall are getting into kinky/fetish/bondage territory. Which to me is why I like them.

I remember when I was in high school (mid 80's) ALL the girls wore pumps, most everyday with an occasional exception of wearing Reeboks. I saw so many 5" pumps my senior year it drove me crazy. Pumps with long dresses, pumps with mini-skirts, pumps with jeans. Pumps with business suits. It was like it was almost to be expected. Then, when I went to college, it all changed. Jogging pants, tee-shirts, sneakers. It was a let down.

I wish I wore a US woman's size 10. The selection of 6" pumps is pretty much unlimited up to size 10. At 14W, I have to take what I can get...

Yep, I am 100% certain you should get them...

Oh heck yes, they look good...

I have eight pair that are 5" or higher.

I'd recommend a pair of 4" pumps as a first. They are high enough to be unmistakably heels but not so high that they are difficult to walk in.

US Woman's size 14W. It is difficult for me to find heels. I have got almost all of mine from Sexy Shoes. I just wish they had a 6" in my size.

Yes, I have a pair of 2" open-toe slingbacks that i use when going outside to get the mail. This is the extent to which I wearheels in public during the day. Now at night I will wear a pair of pumps and walk around in the driveway.

I feel confined, vulnerable, and extremely turned on.

It's the girly-ness of heels that draws me to them. Most of my heels are red or white, but I have a pink pair with metal heels. I would have to say that a pair of six-inch ankle strap sandals would be my favorite. To wear a pair of anklets with them. Either dainty gold chains, or locking steel anklets...

My first pair was a pair of 4" pumps when I was 18, still living at home parent's house going to school. I tried them on in the car and the feeling was absolutely unbelievable. I was trembling. I FINALLY was wearing women's shoes. I drove home in them, very carefully, quite enjoying the cramping of my toes and the slight difficulty of working the brake/gas pedals. When I got home I took them off, put my clunky hi-tops back on, and went to the basement and finally got to WALK AROUND the concrete floor wearing heels! The click-click-click sound, the calf muscle tightness, and the increased cramping of my feet was indescribable. Now that I have my own house, I wear 5" mules and stretch pants I ordered from the Lane Bryant catalog. They still drive me crazy...

Hard to say. As a youngster, I saw how difficult it was to walk in them, and started slowly warming up to the idea of being hobbled in a pair, myself. My love of bondage parallels my love of heels. I have always been jealous of women who prance around in 5"+ heels.

I voted "more feminine" but for me, it's different. I enjoy being male but the feeling of forced feminization is what I crave. I wear bras, one-piece woman's bathing suit, fishnet hose, and of course 4"-5" pumps. It's hard to explain. It's as if the following of wearing "opposite" clothing is what does it for me. If I were a woman, I doubt I'd get the same thrill from wearing heels.

Height, definitely. Unless the shoe just looks wack, I generally like anything with a super high heel. Because I wear a large/wide size, I am limited to what I can wear. I would get a pair of 6" stilettos if I could find a pair I fit. I enjoy the feeling from wearing shoes that impose their will on me. That, and the feeling of confinement from having to take short, careful steps. Wonderful!

Wow. Blue 6" pumps drive me insane....

I have to admit as well that this is probably one of the best photographs that I have come across in a long while. Nothing flashy, just a simple pair of black jeans and a tee-shirt. Who was it said that a pair of shoes makes an outfit. Here's the proof.

http://img157.imageshack.us/img157/6342/6inchbluesimple009hk2.jpg

I wear them inside but will occassionally strut around in the driveway at night

She sometimes has me wear heels and a bra as instruments of humiliation. That, and a pair of steel anklets. Always for just in private, though.