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The only "heels" shop I've visited was theirs, in Ramsbottom, 6 months ago. They couldn't have been more helpful. Even tried a pair of ballet boots, but there's not enough flexibility in my ankles for me to stand up in them! Sadly!!! T

You'll all be pleased to know that the calf muscle "stiffness" eventually disappeared, but it took until Sunday morning before got up out of bed without feeling it. The last time muscle stiffmess lasted so long was with my biceps, after a punishing session in the gym with a trainer. Will I do it again? Of course I will, whenever the opportunity presents itself! It doesn't come very often now, with both of us retired, so a guryl's got to make the most of every chance she gets. Hasn't she??? T

Thanks for all the replies so far. High_55, I'm a part time crossdresser too, and my wife of 37 years has a hard time coming to terms with that , she thinks it's all "disgusting". We're remain very happily married because the rest of our life together is brilliant and we love one another too much to let this issue drive us apart. Doesn't stop me trying to get her to understand that it really is an integral part of me, and is not a threat to our relationship. One day she might appreciate that, even if she never wants to see me wearing anything "feminine". Dr Shoe and Guy N. Heels, You may be right, but I get so little time to wear heels (see above) that I cannot build up to it gradually, and I really have a strong desire to wear the highest heels I can walk in. Wearing 5" stilettoes really pushes my buttons, and I'm sure many of you here know what I mean! Metalspikes, For a 63 year old (today!), I probably exercise my leg muscles more than most. I work out with a personal trainer (shared with my wife) twice a month, and run at least twice a week. The calf muscle pain is similar to what I experience in various muscle groups about 2 days after a gym work-out, so I expect it's the effect of lactic acid. Wearing my 5" heels for 6 hours has probably exercised my calf muscles in a different way. Most of the time I was walking about (not just standing), changing (female) clothes and walking to and from the camera to set up another pose. I did find out that ironing my bedclothes and making up my bed at the end of the session was when I noticed the sore soles, and had to take a couple of rests by sitting down for 10 minutes before continuing, but I suppose you more regular heel wearers are aware of that. You are all probably also aware of the pleasure and excitement I get from the few occasions I get the opportunity to hook up my stockings and strap on a pair of high heels (as well as the suspenders, corset, panties, bra, blouse and skirt or dress) and just spend a few hours dressed. Thanks again for your replies, T

I wore my 5" stiletto sandals at home last night for about 6 hours (much longer than I've done before), most of it on my feet, and on carpet. I've only had them since November and I don't wear them often, because my wife dislikes my fetish, but she was away for the night. I didn't have much trouble wearing them, except pain on the ball of my foot after 4 or 5 hours, which required a little rest from time to time. But today, I've felt an ache in my right calf muscle, similar to that after a hard gym session, or muscle cramp, and it's still there after a whole day. Does anyone else experience this, is it normal, and how long does it take to go away? I didn't notice any muscle problem while I had them on, but after all that time, it felt really peculiar taking them off, rather like coming down to earth! Your experience will be welcome, thanks, T

Nothing beats the feel of stockings held up by a garter belt. Whether my heels are worn with jeans or a skirt, that's what I wear. T

Thanks for the information Shdwdrgn, I'll follow that up when I get the chance.

I like the idea of a knee length corset, called a corset dress I believe. Vollers do one; it's expensive, but you could copy the design. I believe the lower part (below hips) has laces both front and rear, so you can have the skirt part as tight as you dare. It should be very restrictive to walk in, particularly with 5" heels, just like some of the tight skirts I've made for myself. Stairs have to be climbed sideways!

Good luck with it,

T

Well done with your waist reduction Shdwdrgn. I've had a corset for only a year or so, but I wear it rarely (my wife thinks men in female clothes is "disgusting"). I'm a natural 38-35-40, but I can get down to 42+(with breastforms)-30-40 fully tightened, but several years ago, I had a 32" waist and achieved 28" trying on a corset in a crossdressers shop.

I'm also handy with a sewing machine (comes from my engineering background, I think) and would like to make one myself; I'd prefer the underbust style. Where did you get your pattern, and do you know if it's available in the UK?

Good luck with yours,

T

Welcome Stomcat, I'm sure you'll enjoy it here. I'm really jealous, a present of ballet boots from your wife!!! You lucky b*****d! There's not much chance of my wife buying me anything remotely feminine, it just turns her off. I did try a pair of ballet boots on during a recent visit to "Alternative Footwear", here in the UK, but I was miles away from being able to straighten my knees, there just wasn't enough flexibility in my 62 year old ankles. I had a lot more success with 5" strappy sandals, so I bought them. T

Who dared you Josephine, boyfriend or girlfriend? And did they enjoy the experience? I'm afraid I don't share this fetish of yours, I like my heels to look tall slim and immaculate, but it takes all sorts doesn't it. Otherwise it would be a boring old world. Welcome here, and I hope you really enjoy it. T

Thanks for your good wishes Guy T

Thanks for your words of advice Guy N. Heels, but I AM a realist as far as my condition goes. However, I'm not going to travel carefully through the remaining years of my life, merely to arrive safely at death! The surgeon who operated on my toes was amazed that I was still running, without pain, on my feet as they were before the operation, but I'd just run the first Great Manchester Run (10k) when I first saw him, and was running about 10/15 miles a week (not excessive). He knew of my ambition to run my first marathon (yes, in my 60s!), but strongly advised me not to, because of the effects of the training needed, and I've taken that advice, but I have started running shorter distances again, and can feel the cardio-vascular benefits. I'll keep that up for as long as I can. You are right about the medical pre-disposition to hallux valgus, I inherited it from my mother, but the Orthopaedic Appliance Specialist I saw at the same time reckoned my flat feet were the primary cause of my toe joints becoming deformed, and I'm now wearing shoe inserts to reposition my feet correctly. I'll never be more than a very occasional high heel wearer. I do get a big kick out of walking in 5" heels at home, but because my wife is not supportive of any of my crossdressing activities, that can only be when she is out and I'm not. A rare occurrence! So I will not be walking in them for lengthy periods or long distances. Even if I ever venture out en-femme, I would stand out in anything above 3" heels (I'm almost 6' tall without heels!), and flats are more likely. So, I'll get my kicks whenever I can, and if I feel any pain, or see any obvious problems, I may reconsider my strategy. Again, thanks to you and all the others for responding. T

With our interest in wearing high heels, I can't believe that no-one else has had the same foot problems I have, and the cause of mine was not due to wearing high heels! Is there a message here? Perhaps it's not VERY high heels that are the primary cause of this problem, where the foot is on tip-toes, and there is not much of a pressure forcing the toes into the toe-box, but mid heels, where the foot is resting on a ramp. The tendency of the foot to slide down that ramp then provides a force to jam the toes together into the toe-box, particularly with pointed shoes, and especially if they are a size too small. Many women will buy smaller shoes than they need so that their feet do not look "too big", and we all know that it also helps to keep shoes (paticularly courts/pumps) on the feet. Does anyone have any knowledge or evidence to support or disprove this theory? T

My big toes have been gradually migrating outwards for many years, not due to the shoes I wore (99.99% normal male shoes), but a condition I inherited from my mother. Her toes were all over the place and caused her a lot of discomfort in her later years, so I resolved not to let mine get that bad before seeking medical help. I didn’t seek that help until I retired three years ago (at 59) because I knew I’d need many months on crutches, and be unable to do my job; and being self employed, no work = no money. My surgeon agreed that an operation was necessary on each foot to correct this condition, where he would cut the appropriate bones and re-attach them at different angles. He also told me I’d need as much as 6 months before the bones would heal sufficiently to resume any activity which put high stress on the re-joined bones. During the initial consultation, he remarked that the condition, known as Hallux Valgus or bunions (though technically, a bunion is the protective lump that forms around the distorted joint), was unusual in men, being largely caused by long term wearing of high heels with pointed shoes, particularly if they are a size too small. This jams the toes together and puts sideways pressure on the big toe. Up to this point, I only had one pair of heels, 3.5” stiletto strappy sandals, and due to my wife’s disapproval of me wearing any female items, I wore them very infrequently; they were too small and hurt after a short while, but did not put pressure on my big toes. I had worn 5” heels once, during a 4 hour professional “make-over” session, without any pain or other adverse effects. I was surprised how quickly I adapted to walking in them (though not very elegantly) and was very excited by the feelings associated with wearing them. I desperately wanted to get some of my own 5” shoes and boots of the right size. The operations were successful, my big toes are much straighter, but are still too close to my other toes so that my second toes sit on top of the gap between my big toes and third toes, unless I push them into the gap. My right toe also points down about 15 degrees, and I can not curl it up very far, but having recently bought a pair of 5” sandals, I’m happy that I can wear them for a few hours without any apparent problems. Being sandals, I can manipulate my toes to the correct positions after putting them on. I tried pumps on in the shop, but they were either so loose that I couldn’t keep them on my feet, or so tight I couldn’t get my big toe in them without sideways pressure on the repaired joints. Size UK11 (I’m a size 9 usually) boots with rounded toes were comfortable, but were a bit loose on my feet, even when the laces were as tight as they would go, but walking in them seemed to be OK. The purpose of my post is really to ask if any others (male or female) have had similar experiences. Have any of you had hallux valgus corrections, and did you experience any problems wearing high heels afterwards? Have any of you got distorted big toes or bunions now, and do you think it is related to wearing high heels? Any information may help me and others to avoid potential future problems. Thanks in advance for your input. T

Unfortunately, Ebay UK does not have an "over 18" section, and they won't let anyone outside the USA view the American one! BooHoo T

If you really want a waist, try a corset. I'm 38-34-40 as a man, but 43-30-40with corset, 38C bra and breastforms. Not quite "Dolly Parton" territory, but it makes a big difference! Check out the "Corsets and Heels" thread in this forum! T

Plenty of time Blacksheep, she didn't come home until 6:00pm the next day.

Around 1:00am, I took a walk around the house in the moonlight, first in a top and (very) tight knee length pencil skirt (one of my favourite fetishes), and then without them. Adrenaline levels were sky high (like my heels) trying unsuccessfully to walk quietly, especially with the restriction of the pencil skirt!. Fortunately, my neighbours go to bed early, and can't directly overlook our patio, but if I'd woken them, they could have investigated who was wandering about at that time in stiletto heels! I then sat down (as far as my corset would let me) in a chair to watch the clouds scudding past the moon until I got cold. It felt really daring to be out there in really sexy female underwear! Got my juices going I can tell you.

T

Yeah Foxylady, we're all jealous that you get your ex (or any GG) to lace you in to your corset. I'd love to share the experience with my wife, but in her present frame of mind, it will never happen.

However, she stayed away last night, so I was corsetted down to 30" (from 34"/35"), with black stockings and suspenders, 5" stiletto sandals and long black satin gloves, and it felt and looked great. not bad for a 62 year old!

I use the door-handle method of maintaining lace tension while I tighten my laces, and I don't believe they could be much tighter without damaging either me or the corset! It''s not difficult when you get the hang of it, but there's no way I can get down to buckle my shoes on (or take them off) while I'm in and tightened. I thought I'd try to sleep in my outfit (shoes and all!), but I was too excited to sleep for long, had to get up for "relief" after a couple of hours, and still couldn't sleep until I'd taken it all off!

I took a photo, but I don't know how to post it here, or if it would be acceptable. Can anyone help me?

T

You don't look like a fat bitch in your avatar though!! T

Good luck with your Temptress Bobbie Jane. As a man, an underbust style should fit well, and if you need a bust, you can wear your favourite bra and forms with it. Beware of the LISA site though, it's addictive!!!

Tony

Bobbie Jane,

I found a good satin one on ebay some time ago. It's like a Vollers 1905U, basic corset, which caters for a female bust. If the corset waist is fitted on my waist, the bust is too low, but wearing a bra as well solves this problem. It would have been better to have bought an under-bust corset, then this is not a problem, and it's a lot cheaper than made-to measure. Maybe a cheap one for at home, and a really good one for going out?

Unless you're going to wear one almost constantly (23 hours a day) and sleep in it, you won't see much more than 4"-5" waist reduction, unless you lose weight at the same time, but I bought a 28" corset for my (then) 35" waist. Yes, there's still a 1"-2" gap at the laces, but a 30" waist is now "comfortable", and if I continue losing weight gradually, I expect to be able to close it completely in the not too distant future. The reduction didn't come all at once, you have to give the corset time to adjust to your figure, or you'll destroy it, but using the door handle trick, I can lace it myself, tight enough to be uncomfortable after over an houror two's wearing. I have to put shoes and stockings on before tightening, because I can't bend down that far after. For me, the feeling of being restrained is where the excitement comes from.

Good luck in your corset "journey". If you don't think you're on a journey, just look at some of the stories on the LISA (Long Island Staylace Association) site!!!

http://www.staylace.com/

Tony

Hi Tanya, and welcome. I think a welcome is still appropriate, even if you did join before I did! I noticed you were in England, but where are you from? I'm just outside Knutsford in Cheshire.

England calling! Hi Leggman, welcome to the forum. If you've signed in, you ARE a regular member! T