samheel

I shave 'em, all the way from the toes to up my back. I never liked all the "monkey hair." I also keep my pits shaved, as they stink a whole lot less. I also tan at the salon, and rub down with oil every week. I have been going to the pool for a few years, and get whistles from the ladies, sometimes. I eat that up, dude. The only negative mention I can recently recall was from a woman at the gym who is from the middle east. I think she was trying to use it to embarrass me: "Hey, you missed a spot!", then turned to another lady and said: "He shaves his legs, you know..." Yeah, she knows. So? Most of the ladies like 'em. What's more is that I like the look. My bride thinks the legs are sexy with shorts. You likie, go with it. Farts on those that don't. Samheel

I don't think I am trying to send any message at all. I just like the way they look, so I want to wear them to adorn my corpus. (Which as of the past few years is in need of extra adornment!) I was only wondering if they were considered "male" jewelry, or "unisex". For instance, for the sake of discussion, I have come to sense that wrist bracelets are "unisex" as well as ear cuffs and non-dangly stud earrings. Diamond engagement rings are "female" as well as smooth pearl necklaces and dangly/hooped earrings. I used to wear rough pearl necklaces and pucca shells in the '70's, so those are unisex to me, but are they still? Nose piercings are sorta female, I guess. (ow!) Leather wrist cuffs, and certain woven pendants are considered "male". Head bandanas are male, but neck scarves are female, I guess!? And don't get me started on the color pink. I am getting confused trying to sort it all out. (Why should I bother?) Like right now, I am wearing a small nondescript woven thread on one of my ankles, that my daughter made me. It is a "friendship" anklet she wove from five threads. I think of my kid when I look at it, so I am wearing it, no matter what gender it is for. Samheel

Hey Guys: I know women have been wearing ankle bracelets out for some time, but do any of you do it? (I dislike them UNDER the stocking!) I dig wearing some this summer with sandals. I am just looking for the right wooden heeled sandal that I can wear with shorts, but what about bracelets? I really dig them. I asked some kiosk woman at the mall, and she told me that "guys don't do that". (Really?) Farts on her. She was all gung-ho for selling me earrings, belly button, nose, and tongue piercings, wrist bracelets, nipple jewelry, OTHER piercings, etc. but balked when I took a measly peek at the ankle bracelts. Sheesh. What's with that? My teen daughter is weaving me some out of colored strings anyway, as the women's ones were kinda small for a guy's ankle. Samheel

My wife was the victim of rape. It happened before we even met, but I have had to deal with it in all sorts of bad ways throughout our marriage, and will probably do so for the rest of our life together. I am glad to see this march for more than one reason. Samheels

leejames12 Hi! welcome. Been married for 15 years, and have hid the fettish from my wife for the past 12. Now I wear the heels whenever we are lovers. At first, she was turned off, but now, she is just getting used to them. They really turn ME on, so that's good enuff fer her. Does your husband enjoy them? I wonder if there is anything I can do to encourage heel wearing in my wife. Any ideas? Samheel

Smitty: Being a '70's guy, I am a big chunky fan, and wear a size 11 or 12. I have three pairs of 4-5" chunky size 11's that I wear out all the time, but have found diddle in size 12. Occasionally, I get a look from a girl or two. The last look I got was from a 20'ish young lady who spied the round toed 5" chunky heel zipper sided dudes with bubble toes I had on with a pair of regular length jeans. You could see the whole shoe, and she just gawked for awhile, to compute. Then I got a "hey, I want that" look that she flashed me. After a bit, l went over to talk, and I said "hi". She gave me a sexy look after that, and said "hi" back, but she had to go. As she left, she flashed a look that was kinda sexy-hungry. I guess she was turned on by a guy bold enough to wear women's shoes in public. Another time, a teen girly-girl saw my shoes and said: "Hey, those are MY shoes!" I said: "NO, they're MINE!". I was kinda embarrassed, but not really. My sister once said: "Hey, LOOK at your shoes!" I said "so?", like, what's with YOU? She didn't answer, but just loked at them again and again. She has not ever said anything since, and that is NOT like her. I wear them around her alot and she doesn't seem to notice them anymore. Another girl I see often says: "I like your outfit", when I had on the chunky bubble toes with ultra tight low waisted jeans with a wide woven belt and a loose dark grey turtle neck. I see her regularly at church quire, and she always has something positive to say about my "outfit". I always wear at least a 3" heel, and she usually makes a note on that. One time, a lady I know well, told me that she finally got up the courage to wear high heel boots, that she had on, because she thought it was a conspiracy of men to make wonen wear high heels, so she would never wear them. She said that was why men don't wear them. When she said that, I bawked, hiked up my bell bottoms, and showed her my 6" heels. Her mouth dropped, and I said: "That's BS, 'cuz I LOVE heels and wear them all the time!" She laughed, and now every time she sees me, she comes over and compares heel height. So far, I have always won. (-not too hard. she teeters on 3" boots-neophyte) I have never gotten a comment from a guy. Maybe a look or two... My wife is indifferent when I wear chunky heels, but she doesn't want me to wear the 6" spikes I have out, so I have to respect her on that. I am now looking for a pair of wood chunky heeled mules with at least a 5 to 6" heel with a 1" or less plat. I want these for the summer, as I want to wear them with short shorts and my shaved legs. I already have a nice bronze tan, and the weight machine has my legs looking good. I just can't find anything I like in wood with a high enough chunky heel that don't cost a couple hundred. I have considered making some out of wood. I have a friend who does wood working, so more on that later. If you ever wear them out, not many will even notice a chunky heel. I also want to try wedges out this summer, but don't like the rope heel look. I have some cork ones with 5" heels, but they are loose fitting on me. Samheel

Wow: That must be fun to share that with your spouse. Mine is quite indifferent to them, and pursues comfort to all other things. I am nuts and turned on by them. You guys are lucky! Read around, there is alot of experience in here. Samheel

Hi: Welcome to the group. Try them on! They are a lot of fun! Read around more, there is alot of us. Samheel

Ozzard: I think that we might find that in 20, 10, or even 5 years from now, these things will be accepted by the mainstream. Men will wear spiked heels and short skirts just like ladies do, to show off the legs. I talked to my mom once about when she was a teen. Back then, ('35) she was a wild child for shaving her legs and driving a car. Imagine! a WOMAN who could drive! Of course, she would never have worn "slacks". That I might be on the edge is not unusual. I have been outside the box most of my life, and it really doesn't bother me. All my immediate family knows except for the kids. My brothers talk about this as a relatively benign way to deal with abstinance. As you say, anyone else will just have to take me for who I am. I try to pretend I am someone else, but I keep getting in the way. My wife brought up the thought that perhaps I am trying to mimick what I find attractive on women so that I may have a clothing venue to be "sexy". Let's face it, women can dress sleazy, "come hither", sexy, serious, important, casual, sporty, business etc..you name it, but what can men dress as? Let's see: Work. Play. Sleep. (Gee whiz. Not even Horney? You'd think that would be one!) She also said that what a man finds sexy on a woman probably will not be found sexy by a woman when worn by a man. OK. So then, what DOES a woman find sexy on a man? That's why I am exploring the "sexy macho" look. Heels seem to be something in the right direction, just by the occasional shock a woman might express. Also, most women like the tight pants thing. It covers, yet reveals, too. Just like a "little black dress". I dont' know. I think, though, that men DESERVE more dress options. And, since we are men, let us just determine this ourselves. Isn't that what women do? ("Brothers, unite and wear high heels!") Ok, ok, maybe I'm getting a bit Fidel Castro crossed with Gloria Steinam. (sp?) Samheels

Ozzard: I like your moniker. It is funny you should write that postscript to your wife, as when I first posted here and became a member, I talked to my wife about it. She said that in regards to posting, I needed to watch out and protect my anonymity, but that it may be somewhat cathartic for me. Judging by the mere lengths of my past posts on this thread, I guess it has been. It's kinda like a big AA meeting of men with high heels on. I suppose after I vent, I will have less to say, and more to live. As for my anonymity, I am past the age of really caring. I am mostly concerned about my children, to preserve them from harassment by society about their daddy's socially deemed strange behavior. (Isn't it funny that the one who deems what is strange is also the one who harasses those who it deems are.) So: PS, family, if you happen to come across this: Girl: I love you. Welcome to the place I told you about where all the guys are sporting women's duds. It has been a great treat to vent here, and commiserate. Maybe by reading around here, you might gain a better understanding of this part of me. Kids: Shame on you for nosing around in daddy's closet! Now put my bras and wig away! (just kidding!) Like I have told you, I do not have a halo, or am up for cannonization. If you haven't noticed, dad's a bit quirky, and marches somewhat to the beat of a different drummer. Still, I love you with a passion not equaled to anything, even my desire to wear red spiked heels. I just don't want to embarrass you by it. Don't you ever ever EVER forget that. Samheel

It souds terrible what she did to you. I don't think anyone believes that humiliation is a way to help someone whom you love deal with a sexual issue. When I first got married, like you, I had the desire to CD or wear something femme sometimes, but hid it from my wife. I guessed that as our sex life would increase, now that I was married, my desires would go away. Well, as some marriages go, that didn't happen. She had some problems of her own, due to some abuse. Our physical expressions together became more difficult, as I tried to incorporate her into my fantasy world. She would recoil from me more and more. Then came our first child, and that all but stopped the intimacy. I went through the "purge-build up-purge" cycle of the CD clothes. I had to loose the fantasies about us. Through prayer, and some good guidance from my dad, I learned that in order for the marriage to work there had to be no secrets, and no lies. Evil and hurt dwell in lies and secrets, never in the open. Also, there could not be any fantasies about who each other were. She was broken and so was I. We both needed healing. We came to find out that in one way, I used the femme thing to hide from stress and insecurity. I would go into my fantasy world when ever things didnt work. She had her problems, too, but we both were willing to make things work. I told her everything, and she was shocked at first, but through time, we worked things out and took each other as we were. Some good counciling and some drugs to treat my digonsed problems really helped me out. Now, I fancy these things, but they don't dominate my life. And, if they start to, my bride realizes it and we work it out.

Thanks for the comment. I only have one pair of really high 6" heels. The toe box is a bit cramped, but I put up with the pain for the little time I wear them. You have nice legs! Samheels

I have a couple pair of cowboy boots and bolo ties, and consider them "dress" clothes. I wore them to church today. I had one pair modified to have about 3" heels on them. The only comment I got from anyone sofar was from my dad: "hey, are those GIRLS boots?" I said: "Yep, do you want a pair?" Poor old dad has Alzheimer's, and is in a home. That has been the ONLY comment in wearing them for over a year. I would like to see how high I could build up the heels and not have anyone notice. Samheels

Thanks for the welcome, and thank you all for this forum. I spent some time the last two days intently reading all the struggles men have gone through all for the wearing of a small somewhat inconsequential piece of clothing, called footwear. WOW! Everyone else seems to be honest and open, so I need to vent a little here, too. Let me share a bit more of my well heeled journey. I have been in similar places and have empathy for alot of you who are on this forum. I thought my heel attraction was only from a style perspective, but recollecting back, I remember trying on my sister's clothes when I was probably 10 or so. I also remember wearing my mom's heels around the house alot as a kid. It was innocent enough, but it set a tone in me. I also started, as most boys do, to abuse myself in THAT way, about then. So, being imaginative, I used my sister's clothes to enhance my sexual self fantasy. I got the clothes mixed up with the sexual stimulation. Oops. This could be trouble later. When high school and the late '70's came along, it was kind of legitimate to dress in heels and tight pants, so I did. And, every time I was dumped or rejected, I would retreat into my sexual fantasy CD self abusive place. By my sophmore year, I got involved with track and swimming throughout highschool and into college. I saw alot of men and women that had beautiful muscular bodies that were not so much lusty sexual things as beautiful creations of God. They were real people who were friends and team mates. I turned down the fantasies then, as well as the "THAT way" part of them, opting for good old fashioned exercise. One of the byproducts of athletics was that my body got more beautiful, too. When I was a lifeguard, I remember wearing my nylon running shorts and wooden sandals with 2" heels and shaved legs for swimming. I liked the sound and feel fo the wooden sandals, got a nice tan, made $3.75/hr and got used to getting looks from all the young girls my age. (and some of the older ones, too!) The heels and tight pants just became "my clothes" and "my look". The sexual "edge" was gone from wearing the clothes. They became clothes that I liked from an asthetic view. I had some dark times, but I was still pretty good looking in the running shorts when I met my wife. She said that is what attracted me to her. She saw me out running one sunny day, and whistled at my legs. That was the spark that started our family. Then, like most papas, I got older, and fatter. My knees went out. My back went out. I got balding and graying and sagging. I went from low stress life to high stress. I gained a heap of weight and stopped shaving my legs and back. I dumped the thongs and speedos for the boxers. Also the styles went to "baggy" and "baggier". Yuck, but I went along with that. My body was certainly something that I would not show off. After college, then starting a business, along with extensive travelling and the excessive beer drinking that went with it, It was for the best that I kept things under cover. I was going down hill while my blood pressure and colestorol were going up. Two of my brothers were on heart medicine by the time I turned 40. Wahoo. My doctor had a slot for my angioplasty penciled in already. Then some wonderful things happened to me so that I had to totally change my lifestyle for physical and mental reasons. Yes, it was spiritual. Yes, I lost alot of money an prestige. I also lost 35 pounds of weight, and have undergone a physical re-birth in the body and heart. I realized that my body was not an ugly thing, but it still could be sexually attractive. I did not want to slip back into the self abuse thing again, but I felt sexual and stimulated by trying on tight pants and heels. I wanted to wear the sexiest clothes I could find to show off my re-discovered body, just like ladies do. For awhile, I went back to trying on my wife's clothes, to try to become a lady. Fortunately, she was understanding for several reasons, but it was not something she was turned on by. For me, she saw it as a way of releasing stress and a fantasy, like watching a movie or tv show, but it was not quite where I wanted to go. I still "go through her closet" sometimes, but I wanted to wear things out in the open. I mean, what is the purpose of dressing sexy if noone sees you? SO, I looked at what was out there for men. There was nothing that was even remotely sexy to me. After a long search, I gave up there, and went back to the styles that I remembered in the '70s that let me express that "sexy macho". The only clothes that were similar to the '70s were the current styles of low waisted pants and wide belts worn by adolescent teens, so I went there. I also wanted to show off the muscles in my legs, and found that tight leather and spandex will do this somewhat. So, that is where I am now. I wear the 2" to 4" heels with the tight pants. I don't go stilletto, purely because I think these look best only in the pump and with naked or stockinged legs and short skirts/shorts. I also prefer the cuban heel pumps, because I like the straigt angles. It's purely a taste thing. Your mileage may vary. Still, I would like to go out in broad daylight in short shorts with high heels as women do. My wife says that although she hates to admit it, I look "cute" in the silk running shorts and the red 6" demonia pumps. She also likes me in bare legs and my old modified 3" heel cowboy boots and a white oxford. (no shorts, just thong, as a dress) She is mildly tolerant of my few excursions on the "wild side" through her closet, as long as I don't mess-up/wrinkle/rip/stretch-out her clothes. (fair enough..) And when I do cd, I still at best look like a guy in a wig, wearing my wife's clothes. This is from about the waist up. I even tried various corsets and girdles and some breast forms to try out a femme physique, but I am a GUY, and look like one. (Wide broad sholders, thick eyebrow bone, large skull, big hands, wide palms, big bicepts, etc.) As I had to learn, the beautiful atheletic male physique is not to be confused with the beautiful female physique. At best I have a beautiful male body, and I am not interested in permenant alterations to that. I like being a boy. Although, I have noticed from looking at some of the pictures on this forum that from the waist down, men and adolescent women have somewhat similar bodies. I wrote "adolescent" because men do not have the glorious hips a full woman does. (Unlike what is in advertising, I love my wife's big hips!) I have not gone out openly on a hot summer day in the short shorts and 6" heels, although I bet my legs would get the same response as from what would happen to a woman similarly dressed. About the best I have done so far is to incorporate various high heeled shoes and boots with tight jeans, tight leather, or "stretch pleather", like the '70s. I also shave my legs, back, and pits again, and go to the tanning salon. I do get nice looks sometimes, and have only met some mild hostility from a few men for my "look". Women seem to be most receptive, as my look is still somewhat "masculine", whatever that is. I did go out one night at about 2:30 in the 6" pumps to the bank machine, but who was up then? (...and why didn't I go back home to bed?) Most people simply and completely do not care what articles are on my feet. That said, I noticed that some of the HH gang are struggling to be Catholics. I also have pondered this with respect to my Catholic faith, so let me share this dribble. Part of my "physical re-awakening" came from studying Pope John Paul II's "Theolgy of the Body". This began to give me some perspective on marriage and sexuality, which has something to do with our bodies and how we adorn them, you know. I spent not a few times i the confessinal with several orthodox priests, and I suppose that even at my cross dressing worst, I do not abuse myself in "THAT way", which is forbidden as a practical catholic. (CCC2352) What I came to is that if I become aroused, it is what I DO with that that matters. Likewise, if I put on silk stockings and feel a bit horney, then, what I DO with that is what matters. I get aroused when my wife gives me a back rub, or when I see a sexy girl. Does that mean backrubs and sexy girls are inherently sinful? If it does, then ladies, bring on the Borka. I find also that the "sexy" feeling passes. If I wore the heels every day, after awhile they would only hurt my feet. I found this so far to be true with all the other "girl" clothes I wear now. At first "Oh boy" and then, after awhile, "eh, so.." If high heels make me feel sexy, then I guess it's ok to feel sexy as long as I don't go "too far" with that. I also have to contemplate scandal and embarrasing my wife and kids with my antics. Thus, all things are in balance, being careful not to decieve myself. That's where my wife comes in. She is my watchdog. She is the first to speak to me about this if she judges it too much for her to deal with, or if I seem to be loosing my intent. That's one of the reasons I have not gone out in the middle of a summer afternoon with naked legs and 6" pumps. (although I still think about it a bit... hummm...fun in the sun.) I am a beautiful, sexual sensual creation of the almighty GOD. I also believe I am one of those who is more sensual than most, as my wife would attest. It is what I choose to do with that. Well, enough blabber. Samheels

Hi: I like the way you twirl the shoes! Too bad we can't see all your legs. Are those pointy toes even remotely comfortable? Samheels

Hi! I am a new member also. I am a religious heterosexual, happily married to a beautiful wife. We have four lovely kids and I stay home. (Mr. mom) I wore platform heels and boots back when I was in high school, during the mid '70s. I used to weigh 175 back then. Two years ago, I lost about 35 pounds (back going out) and was back at my old 175 pound weight, so I pulled out an old pair of pants and the Frye boots with 2" heels I had left from high school. They fit, and I really liked the feel and look. I felt skinny, tall, and sexy. (and maybe a bit femme) I also noticed that women were treating me differently in the tight pants and heels. Next, I found an old pair of 4" heel platform boots (women's) at a second hand store. I also started pulling women's low waisted tight pants off the rack at the stores (size 10) and looking for heels that were kinda masculine enough, but still 3-4" high to go with them. I also bought a pair of leather pants again. They felt wonderful, and got me some attention! This was fun, and kept me motivated to keep the weight off. My wife really likes the tight jeans, but is indifferent about the high heels. She bought me my first pair of 3" wedges. (Women's size 12) Although she has the most beautiful feet in the world, she does not do the "shoe thing". (I do!) I now have only five or so pairs of high heels but wear them mostly every day with the tight jeans. I really like the look and feel. It's kind of sexual, too, I guess. I think I now know why women spend so much on shoes, clothes, etc. Samheels