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I would love to have my ears pierced; I love the look of earrings especially multiples per ear. However the dragon is dead against me having it done. When the subject last came up a couple of years ago I thought fair enough life is a compromise sometimes. It seems she is against it due to my age (!) and what the neighbours would think. Well, I thought, it's my mid life crisis, I can't afford a sports car so one afternoon I went and got my nipples pierced. Both of them. Not a lot of pain and as I've quite long nips the piercing went through them rather than the areola. I like them and prefer them to tats as they are less permanent. The funniest part of it though is that it seems like the whole vilage knows about them. I guess that at least they are covered up most of the time. And again funnily enough one the guys at the village cricket club got one of his done about a year after I did. Claimed I was a bad influence!

Daz, Read the topic 'I've only gone and done it'

There are, I think, a number of issues here; acceptance by others, fear of failure and fear of being laughed at. On top of this one needs to decide if it's an urge or desire that won't go away. Acceptance by others and fear of being laughed, escpecially family, are to some of us a major difficulty. Nobody I know likes to be laughed at and we all want to be accepted. On top of this if one is driven to wear heels as others are driven to, say, crossdress, then it won't go away. This leaves one with the hang-ups mentioned above. There is no easy way but there are several approaches and they will work differently for different people in different situations. I'd like to say be logical about it but that has never helped me. With a spouse or SO then the fear from them may be that you're turning gay. Talking helps. Taking small steps helps (especailly in 5" heels LOL). Being honest, whilst very difficult when you're frightened, will lead to an outcome where you will be able to wear heels albeit not necessarily with the same partner. If you have no current partner then it's only family and friends. Think this: how accepting have you been in the past, are not most of these things that come up just nine day wonders? Of course the other option is to leave heels to fancy dress parties. Arggggh. Be bold, be bold; in everything be bold.

I agree that it's more fun to ask but most women's shoes don't come in a UK 10 so I generally use Brantano which is a help yourself store. It's fun when there are others in the store and they look up to se a man trying on high heels. The first few times it's very nerveracking but if you don't shop locally it becomes easier and easier. I think that my view has become, "Bollocks" but then as I say I do it away from home. I think that this makes me a hypocrite to some extent but then I don't want to upset the domestic apple cart.

Damn, damn, damn. I've worn my various heels, from 2" to 5", out and about at odd times in different situations and never had a comment good, bad or indifferent. A friend who knows about my penchant for wearing heels and I went to Calais (France) for a booze cruise and I wore my camel 4" ankle boots for the whole day which was wonderful. The only time I saw anybody really notice was at lunch when sitting at the table, a young woman across the aisle noticed and said smoething to her companion. I wonder, do we all secretly want people to notice and comment. I'm pretty sure that I do and now I think that I would echo the sentiments of some of the other contributors; their mine and I like to wear them.

I agree with LoveHeel whenthat groups are meaner. It is the pack instinct most people don't want to appear out of place in that group. Differences are shunned; only gay gauys had pierced ears at one time but eventually it became pretty much accepted.

I hate to mention him but the David Beckhams of this world do a lot by tryin the unusual; remember the thong?

Trying to educate won't work but being yourself will. If you enjoy what you wear then wear it.

Push the boundaries, expand the envelope

The best time I had trying on shoes was last year whilst in the USA. Having a day to spare I thought that I would wander around the malls in Philladelphia and came across a great shoe shop, can't rememebr the name, and tried on several pairs. I felt totally unselfconcious as I truely believed that there was nobody within a thousand miles that knew me. Secondly it was just after the big snowfall the mall was pretty much deserted. Not finding anything that I really liked I went to leave and the sales girl told me that they had a much larger shop in an out of town discount mall. That was it, straight into the car and off. What a great afternoon; after buyin a pair of knee highs it was off to the shop. I suppose that I spent about two hours tryin on shoes, not caring who saw me and eventually buying a pair of knee high 4" boots and same height ankle boots. I wore the ankle boots out of the shop feeling on top of the world. Indeed I wore them for the rest of the day and back into the hotel. I really wanted someone to comment especially the receptionist but nobody noticed. The ankle boots eventually had to go being a littel on the samll side but the knee highs (9 West) are stil going strong. Push the boudaries, expand the envelope

This is one of those great days; the sun is shining here in the UK, I'm alone in the office and will be all afternoon and so I'm wearing my 4" blade ankle boots and just loving it. Isn't it a great feeling when one can wear the objects of your desire for more than a short time. I really enjoy the feeling of the pressure on the balls of my feet and the slight tension in the legs. Being able to walk around in them rather than sitting in the car and only going in for petrol is just so wonderful. I wish the office were bigger then I could walk further listening to the heels tik tak on the corridor floor. I suppose that I'd want the stilettos for that particular peculair sound. the one that is so loud in the ears as you walk about especially when out in the street. So evocative when you hear it from somebody else and have to look around to see who's wearing them. Any othjer take the opportunity to wear their heels when alone in the office? Push the boundaries, expand the envelope

The 'Dragon' is she who must be obeyed in all things but whom I would not part with as slowly but surely we are reaching an accommodation about my differences. In other threads I have seen posts about accommodation and the lack of it and conclude that whilst my own journey has had quite a few potholes along the way one must always try to look both ways. Push the boudaries and expand the envelope

What I have the nerve to wear and what I would like to wear are, unfortunately two differnet things. I have worn my 4"ankle and 4" knee length boots out bu only under boot fit jeans. When I first discovered that you could buy high heels in size 10 (UK) I was younger and occasionally had to travel for work and then I had the nerve to wear my first pair of 5" stilettoes. What a great feeling that was! I've had few looks but never any comments although I would love some woman to comment so that I could say, "I wear them becaus eI like them and they make me feel great". Working as I do with ex-forces people I can't wear them to work but when I'm the last in the office out they come. Ideally I would like to wear whatever takes my fancy that day. One of the best eveings I had was when the dragon and I walked around our village both in heels. Wondeful.

I always shave my armpits and this with the acceptance of the dragon. She says that they smell less when shaved; It's a shame one's legs and arms don't perspire or I could do them as well. Push the boundaries and enlarge the envelope!

I would say that whenever I'm not playing sport I like to keep my toes polished all the time. I don't feel that the general male sporting population is quite ready for my adorned nails. In general I would wear it on my fingers and toes but for the dragon and my own cowardice! Many of us I sippose would do far more if we felt that it was socially acceptable but it won't become thus until more of us push the boundaries.

Hi, I have just found this forum. Thank God for it: there are other with the same interests. Personnaly I love to see high heels on women, I love the noise that they make and the the way they modify a woman's walk and leg appearance. I must admit that I enjoy wearing them as much as I can. I suppose I own about a dozen pairs ranging from 2" slippers to 6" sandals. My current favorites are a pair of 4" ankle boots with blade heels from Brantano. Keep it going peeps.