SarahLou

I should know by now, but I was wondering what the normal arch for a foot is. I bought some shoes yesterday and when I was trying them on in the store, I realised you could see under my foot when I had them on..I'm pretty sure I don't have the high arch condition, but it seems weird that there would be this much space between my arch and the shoe! Anyone else had that happen? xx

I'm wasn't really into ballet boots either. Though lately I am getting interested...I think my boyfriend would not be very pleased though. I have to admit, I changed that picture to black and white and put the contrast up before posting..the colour version did not do it for me.

Saw this and thought of you guys. So I thought I would share!

They are beautiful!

I have no idea, sorry. Do they have to be those exact ones? Maybe you could find something similar somewhere

oh those are great!! These too.. Guess they will have to join my wishlist!

Histiletto, I know that people feel bad about wearing heels because society doesn't accept them, or they have been told it is wrong etc, but I was just saying how I feel about it. People not being open about themselves has been a major problem in my life. I do not understand why people care about what other people think when it comes to such a major part of their life. My boyfriend and I have just opened up to each other completely, about all kinds of crazy history, desires and thoughts, and I now feel so much closer to him. I always knew he was hiding something before. I hate that feeling you get around people.

Just came across this thread and though I would share my opinion with you about the subject. I have thought about it a lot, and I think men in heels are great, as long as they are honest about it. For example, if you meet a guy, and he is wearing heels, or maybe he talks about them, then he is being honest about it and shows confidence in it. But, if my boyfriend of however many years has been secretly wanting to wear heels, or has been, and just springs it on me then I would hate it. I like open, honest people who are comfortable enough with themselves to show their likes and dislikes with others, even if there is a big fear of rejection. It's much better than keeping it a secret, I think.

Yes. I think maybe you are all right. I must just dress down for the occasion and feel not myself - which will not be great for my self esteem but I suppose I have to do it to fit in. So strange, in my family it is the other way - we see family dinners and going out for a meal a chance to dress up! Thank you for all your advice

I suppose so, he is not the problem really its his family...I will talk to him again about it though.

Thank you! Yes he dresses like them...ripped jeans, old t shirt. I posted somewhere on here about feeling like he didn't dress nicely enough before, weirdly enough. Well its pretty serious, as I only moved to this country to be with him. I think I will try what you said anyway, and see how that goes. My boyfriend claims he has a high heel fetish when it comes to more personal things, but he never seems that keen on my wearing them anywhere else!

No they are not religious! Well..not that I can tell anyways. My boyfriend doesn't know about it. He would just say I am being silly. But they only make the comments and things when he is not around! They will say things like...why do you wear those? are they comfy? they must cost a lot. Arent you a bit tall to wear those? and things like that. But its mostly the stares that get on my nerves because this lasts all night. They are a family that seem to live in over sized sweaters, leg warmers and leggins with slippers. They wore something similar to our graduation(!) When even my poor old nan wore a nice dress and some 2 inch heels. I see them maybe twice a month. My tops are usually fitted, I don't know if that counts as tight. I dont wear short skirts or glam make up, but I dont own any heels less than 3.5 inches. They are mostly patent as well, which I guess some people see as a bad thing. Oh well I think they don't like me for other reasons anyway - they probably see my fashion sense as an easy way to show it! JL - I am from UK, but at the moment living near Oslo

I know many of you probably like the attention you get when you wear heels, the compliments and admirers. I do too - when I am on my own or with friends, but since I moved, there have been a lot of family dinners and things. When I wear heels to them (no one else even bothers to dress up in the slightest, but I wear heels just because I want to) I always get some form of bad feedback from the people there, usually my boyfriends family. Im sick of the commenting, and the staring, like I look 'wrong' somehow. Has anyone else encountered this? I have tried wearing non heels but then I just feel not myself.

Probably not, but I will try to be optimistic until my purse comes out again

Well, I caved and ordered them. I will have to be extra good for the rest of the year now...just need to stop looking at shoe shops!

they are from steve madden. I have a few shoes from there and they are always comfy. Im wondering whether to spend some money on them now..the shoes on that site don't usually stay there for very long! I showed him earlier...he said 'oh yeah' and went back to his games. Oh well...

Well for quite sometime I have not been a fan of the shoes in stores. I love a lot of the designer shoes but don't have the salary to match...but today I saw these.. Anyone else like them? I think my boyfriend might take some convincing..not sure he will like the style.

Unless you hate it of course. Then you should demand your shoes back or leave - it mind sound like heaven to some people on this board, but the position you're in is not for everyone, and can lead to dangerous places if uncontrolled. Hope you're ok

Oh dear. I was going to click the second one, but then thought about it some more and realised 2008 was a loooooong year, and I have bought more than I think, so I chose the 3rd one. None of my shoes have been designer though, mainly Faith, Dune, Duo, Office and some others so my list may not be very exciting... black suede knee boots from Duo black leather knee boots from Faith black leather ankle boots x2 from Red or Dead and Faith black patent hidden platform pumps from Faith black satin peep toes black leather formal pumps (for graduation) summery wedge sandals from Dune in black patent leather sandal wedges from Faith black patent mary janes from Faith there have been more that I bought but then sold when I didnt want them anymore. I can't believe i've bought that many in my financial position! Thanks for the post...definitely something I have to try to avoid doing next year. Unfortunately. Oh and its way more than I spent the year before on shoes (I hope!!)

I just moved to another country, but its possible I will be back in the UK around that time as my birthday is 18th feb. So we shall see

That's not fair at all!

You need to do a deal with him. If he likes you to wear heels then he should clean himself up and look nice for you too. I certainly wouldn't stand for that.

I know, its a bit sad really-he looks really good in suits or even just a shirt with jeans, but as soon as we get somewhere where he doesnt need to be wearing a shirt anymore he puts a tshirt on instead.

I just wish I could feel like we match when we're out, I feel like we clash when I wear nice clothes and shoes and he doesn't

paula abdul for no.1 tributes then?

I have noticed that! Particularly at formal occasions. Went to a christening recently where every young guy there was wearing a suit and trainers, very odd look. Although they are doing better than my other half..he want sme to wear heels all the the time, when he wont even put a shirt on with his jeans trainers...and as for formal shoes...he only ever wore those at our graduation.

After looking at the pics and that video in this thread, I am inclined to say that they may be capable of walking in heels but choose to look like they aren't. It was very popular (in my college at least) for the past few years to look like an apathetic anorexic girl, all helpless and unable to support yourself. (eg standing/sitting with your feet pointing inwards, slumping) Of course it might not be the case, but its the conclusion I would come to after being around so many girls like it. I have no idea why anyone would make themselves look like this though, I hate it!

Are they Dior pumps?