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I am just at the point of letting her know I want to wear heels. I haven't worn anything in front of her and she doesn't know I have any heels. I have some block heels already, I didn't say I purged everything. I am just going ever so slowly to get her used to the idea. Thanks for your offer. I do pretty good at easing her into things. She is very willing to think about things and then we talk about it and work it out from there. I will either get her to accept, or I will quit wearing heels. She is more important to me than my heel wearing. Time will tell. I will not force anything on her.

I am slowly going through the process of letting my wife know. I have never hid the fact that I love heels and more than anything I love her. I have let it be known that I wish I could wear heels in public. (She doesn't know that I have, but now might suspect it, I will get to that in a minute.) I have always asked her to wear heels, and I let her know how sexy I think she is wearing them. She has given me permission to wear, what she calls platforms, I am not sure what that is. I am just taking it very slow. Yesterday, she bought a pair of sandals with the highest heel I have ever seen her wear. I think they are about 4 1/2". I told her I loved them and she was embarrassed to tell me how much she paid for them, but I told her it was no problem, and I thought it was great. When she took them off, she was slightly complaining about how hard it is to walk in them. I told her that I would do it. She said, "you can wear platforms". I told her that I would wear stillettos. (Which is what I like to wear.) She said that is 'gay'. Why would you want to wear those? The answer I wanted was not coming to me. So I stayed silent, (best thing to do sometimes). She said that if I did she would not sleep with me anymore. I was upset about this, but I did not overreact. I told her that it hurt my feelings that she would say that, and I left it at that. About ten minutes later she took it back, and told me that she would just be embarrassed. I am taking it very, very slow with her. Her feelings mean more than anything to me. I might get what I want someday if I continue to play my cards right, and not force the issue on her. We have been married a year and a half. Before we got married I purged, thinking I would be done with it. Well, we all know how that doesn't work. So again, we just need to consider our wife's feelings over ours and take it ever so gently. It is amazing what you can get when you do this.

Let's hope we keep seeing this stuff. And they need to see us. Then it will become a common thing.

I am still here. Thank you for your concern. It is an interesting debate. I hope nobody has got their feelings hurt, and no toes stepped on (it really hurts when they get stepped on with spike heels ). It is all good. Kneehighs would be the legal dept.

He was on the Ellen Degeneres show yesterday and was wearing a very small heel 1-1 1/2". So who knows what he was wearing in the article referenced above.

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/12920033/

It is at the bottom of the page

I think as time goes by there is more and more acceptance. So I know that what you are saying is correct. The fact that the manufacturers are making heels in larger sizes, shows so much. I think if we all keep after the manufacturers and so forth it will happen. I am just wondering if there is something else, other than what has been stated so many times, that we can do. Maybe not, but as the title of the thread says, "Lets put our thinking minds together". This may not be something that will come to us all at once, but rather, if it is something that we think about and (to use an overused statement) "to think outside the box" maybe we can come up with something that will get many people's attention and help people to see it our way. Long hair basically came from the Beatles. (I know that is a general statement, but bear with me.) Yes, we live in a different world than it was in 1963/64. I just know what can be accomplished when great people put their minds together.

but i dont think there are enough of us heel wearing men to have the same effect

This is what I am talking about. I am trying to figure out how to get the word out, "that there are a lot of men that want to wear heels".

Let's all keep thinking about this. If we put our minds to it, we can come up with some ideas that will work.

I wasn't trying to start a "Let's go for a 'Men In Heels' March". I know that would be ridiculous and would have no effect. I was just trying to get someone to think of different ways that we could show that it is acceptable for men to wear heels. This is something I have thought of. There are various designers, and some have been discussed here that have their male models wearing high heels. We know of the celebrities that do. Surely, there is someway, that no one has thought of that would get the mainstream to see that men in heels is not a strange thing. That, yes, it is nothing more than an alternate fashion choice. That straight, non crossdressing, non tv, men enjoy wearing shoes that have been stereotyped as women's. Not a cause, just a plea for a marketing plan, I guess.

Something else that I have thought of, is how can we reach those that perhaps want to wear heels and let them know that they can. I am sure there are a lot of guys like us, that secretly want to wear heels and don't know that there are guys that will do so, and in public, no less. There are doubtless many guys that think about this and are afraid of doing so. If there was some way to let them know that there are many that do wear heels and that it is okay, then they might start and then the trend can start to catch on. Does this make sense?

I was just reading some posts of some youngsters that have to hide their shoes, and some have fear of GF/Wives finding out. How can we get it to where it is "out of the closet"?

What I mean by acceptance is that it is no big deal for a woman to wear jeans, it is no big deal for a man to wear ear rings. I just wish, even if it was considered a little on the edge, that it would be an everyday sight. I know that there are and will be people that are stuffy and don't like anything but the stereo-typical roles for male and female. I just wish that it was 'more' accepted.

What I meant by acceptance is that nobody wants to be looked at as strange. Yes, you are right, we have to go on doing it, no matter what the reaction is. I guess I just can't help but wish that this would catch on sooner. I have been street heeling for ten years or so, off and on. I can't do it everyday, I feel I have to go a little away from home. As it stands, there would be reprisals, if I got caught close to home...that is another story. I am not afraid of being laughed at, etc., been there, done that, got over it quickly. I just wish there was some way that we could accelerate the acceptance.

Let me introduce myself, I have been lurking here for a long time. I have been street heeling more times than I can count. The reactions, as many here have reported, are mixed. I have not received the positive responses many of you have, mostly what I encounter, I would classify as amusement, shock, and disbelief. I have never had anyone actually stop me or pay me a compliment. I had one woman give me, what I took as a smile of approval. What I wish we could do, is figure out some way to get our fashion choices to be acceptable. I know there are many of you out there that feel the same way. It has been suggested to let our choices be known to manufacturers, designers, etc. Some feel this might work and others disagree. Unfortunately there are not enough of us showing the public our choices to make a difference. I guess I am appealing to anyone that has advertising experience, is to get the word out. It is amazing how a campaign can catch on very quickly when there are the right minds working on it. I like to wear stilleto boots and wish I could do so, knowing that it is accepted. After all, no matter how much we are willing to deny or admit it, we all want to be accepted. Obviously, because I have done it so many times, I know I have the right to do it, and can do it, but it is about wishing that men had the same fashion freedom that women have. You would think living in Southern California, that many choices would be accepted. Everyone thinks that it is the "Do as I want, freedom place." From reading the posts here, I think those of you that live in Europe, maybe more specifically London, have more acceptability that we do. What can we do to make this a fashion choice that men in all parts of the world have?