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Hi all, its been a while since my last post. My 3 month old little girl has been keeping us very busy, it definitely is a an unbelievable journey becoming a parent for the first time!

I like to wish everyone here a merry xmas and fantastic new year.

I sill find the time to read stories here, and was also doing a search on the net relating to men wearing heels and found the story below, the positive view is it IS being accepted and peoples narrow minded view is also changing (not that it should really matter as you should wear what u like and feel comfortable in);

It is now accepted as a bold male fashion statement to wear high heels in the name of Fashion Freedom. Fashion Freedom experimenters are representing high heel fashion in New York and on the West Coast, especially in San Francisco and Seattle where men wearing platforms or high heels are commonly seen at parties and clubs.

Men wearing heels is a hot topic of discussion on fashion message boards, as well, and the leading edge of the high fashion scene. Designer Jean Paul Gaultier has put his male models on the runway in high heels and new designer Rui Leonardes' created a small collection of high heels for men.

http://www.answers.com/topic/high-heeled-shoe

Hi Azbus, welcome and sorry to hear about ur troubles. I'm a guy and I like wearing stiletto boots. For me its no big issue, its not a gender issue or confusion about my sexuality. Its purely a fashion statement. I've always thought boots are the nicest and sexiest footwear around(stiletto's) One day I bought a pair for my wife and thought why not for me? I did question my own sexuality etc, but came to the conclusion that I like it as footwear. While my wife still has not come to terms with my fashion choice, I've very comfortable with my look and choice and I'm giving her as much time she needs to come to terms with it. I do go out wearing boots and all my friends at first are taken back and not sure what to make of it. But now I've had nothing but praise and compliments from them on my look. But I understad it is different being a partner as opposed to a friend etc. Personally I would never end my marriage over my boots, but then again 'I will choose to wear what I like'. My wife's fears are more towards my sexuality, but time will show her that I have not changed sides and I have not changed as a person. I can only recommend to take it easy "some wise advice given to me from others here" and take your time. It is a big shock and confusing, communication is very important. Hope I've helped, even a bit. Take care and good luck.

Hey guys,

Trying to answer everyones questions;

The jeans (blue) are from an Aussie store Just Jeans.

The black pants are actually not leather, they are latex/rubber, bought from http://www.libidex.com/index.asp

Bloody expensive, ie $500 Aus dollars. The most I've ever spent on any item of clothing. But I considered this my last splurge.

The great thing about these pants is the laces are changable, ie I have red, black and white. So all I need to do is change to red laces, black boots and a red shirt and I've got a different look. I liked this as it adds a dimension to these pants.

Thanks for mentioning Thighbootguy putting the jeans in the boots, while I have no problems showing off my boots I think it would also look good. I'll try it soon and add some more pics.

Hey ramon020, yeah these boots are very comfortable. They are the Heat 2010 and are 5 1/4 inch heels. All my boots are 5 inch, you definitely feel the extra 1/4. But its not really a big deal. But I suppose I'm bias on wearing heels, I really enjoy it, the feel the look and the whole experience, hence for me I am comfortable since I feel good about the whole experience.

As far as being noticeable, yeah 'just a bit' But then again I'm proud of who I am and I feel very good about my look. I'm not trying to get into peoples face, but enjoying what I want to wear.

Its been a while since I've posted any new pic's. But my new pants have finally come in.

I really like these with the white HEAT boots as shown, while the pants feel great and I enjoy the look, I realise they are a bit 'daring' and I may be getting somewhat more adventurous. Is it over the top?

While I try to be objective in my overall look, I am very happy with this outfit, but would really appreciate any feedback.

Hi,

I'm pretty much the same height as ur bf and I wear/prefer 5 inch stiletto knee high boots.

I tried the chucky heels, but felt that it made my foot look way too big.

As far as trying to tell/discuss with your bf, try the same as I did. I bought identical boots for me and my wife. I gave them to her and said I bought ones for me. Although my wife is no as open minded as you.

So get yourself a pair of boots you like and think might go well on ur bf, then show him ur 'new' boots and out of the blue suggest that these might also go well on him (ie you've seen elsewhere on TV or the net etc). This then leads/opens the door into you admitting you had suspicions about his like for heels.

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Post Posted: Tue Mar 14, 2006 8:17 am Post subject: Reply with quote

I was so tempted to put my shoes on him last night... We were sitting on opposite ends of the couch and I started giving him a foot massage. He made some comment about his little feet and I put our feet sole to sole to compare sizes--his are just slightly larger. My shoes were on the floor next to the couch and I considered trying one on his foot, but I just didn't have the nerve.

slowly, slowly.

I suppose firstly good on you for looking at this objectively, trying and making up you mind for yourself. Rather than being lead about by what general society expects of you. Interesting though how you felt that 3.5 inch heels were uncomfortable. Personally I wear 5 inch spike heel, knee high boots and don't find it uncomfortable at all. I think its interesting how some people (women and men) find high heels comfortable and others don't) Personally I enjoy the posture and feel, yeah its different and not the same a wearing running shoes. But then again I'm not going jogging. I think that since I enjoy the look and feel that my perception and expectations are different since its something I want and enjoy. As far as complimenting your gender or look. I think thats normal, its not common to see men wearing high heels therefore people are not sure what to make of it. Since I've been wearing high heels now for a few months it seems normal from my perspective and I know my friends don't even think twice now. But I also make a conscience effort to dress masculine, so while I'm wearing high heels, the over all look is still masculine. But again, I think good on you for trying. Thats what a lot of this comes down to, the freedom of choice for the fashion style you feel suits you.

Hi Sscotty727, I don't think these are too feminine etc, I wear nothing but pointy/stiletto knee high boots, that I would agree is more feminine. But these look really cool. I find the toe well rounded etc. I really like the wedge heel, have you seen these in knee high?

No I don't drive everyday wearing my boots. For me wearing boots is a fashion statement and going for a certain look. Hence I really only wear my boots when going out, ie friends, cinema or restuarants etc. Basically my look is exactly the same as normal, ie dress wise. The only difference is wearing boots. Hence I think its still very masculine. Otherwise I wear pretty much standard (ulgy) footwear to work and other things, ie we just went to our beach house for xmas and I didn't take any boots. Reason being its just too hot (42 degree's celius), the attire for this place was pretty much shorts and sandles etc.

The beige pants with the black heat boots, funny. I have had these pants for years. Bought them in New York back in 2000. But have never really worn them. But I have found that they go well with the heat boots. Someone asked wether I drive with these boots. In the beginning I found it very different. However now it feels very natural. I've driven with all these boots on. I've also worn all these boots out, the heat boots would be a challenge for long walks and I wouldn't wear them. Even though their only an extra 1/4 inch compared to the others. But I've worn the comfortably for a whole evening.

Last but not least these are my Electra 2025 boots. These are the only boots I have that are not stilettoes. I do prefer the stilettoes and have not worn these boots out at all. However looking at this whole look, I think it does deserve to see the light of day

So, what does everyone think??? which outfit/boots do you think looks best? sorry for the massive 1 big post. I'll be going away for the week, nice beach settings (Aussie summer) for 1 week. I wish everyone here the happiest of xmas and a great new year. I'll cathup with you guys next week.

The next 2 are my knee high, lace up Victoria boots. A real favorite and the look I'll go for when taking the wife out the first time while wearing boots. Note she has exactly the same pair (just different size)

These next ones are my black patent Heat boots, knee high. All my boots are knee high.

Here are my next set, these are the Lexi boots, black patent leather, 5 inch heels. I actually bought these jeans specifically for these boots, I wanted to tuck the jeans in the boots. These are womens stretch jeans, but I was also really happy with the overall look, my friends were also very positive.

Yeah, these are the Heat boots and I did buy them from beverlyheels.com, I got the black first then bought these white ones

Hi all, trying to post my first pics.

These are my white patent leather knee high boots, 5 1/4 inch stilettoes. These are my only white boots, but I really enjoy the look.

Hi all, My latest outing went really well. My wife didn't come out with, not realting to me wearing boots etc, but my friends wife was also out. So it was just a guys night out, watching UFC champsionship. I decided to try a different look, as per comments earlier to try thigh high boots. I'm not quite at that stage yet. But I bought myself a pair of skin tight jeans to wear under my boots, size 14 womens blue stretch jeans. So, I wore my black patent knee high buckle boots, ie the Lexi 516 5 inch stilettoes. My very tight blue jeans, a black tea shirt and a short sleave dark blue shirt. All-in all a very 'sexy' look, The boots are really a great looking par of boots and being able to 'show' them off rather than hide them beneath my pants is so much better, the pants and shirt all fit nicely. My friend said he liked the look, especially with these boots. We went for a walk down his street later that evening, he has no issue at all about my fashion look and I naturally felt great and had no problems. I think as I'm finding my own style and look, its nice to actually feel great about what u wear and feel good about actually looking good. As guys we tended to look at women and think, 'dam thats nice, she's sexy etc' Why can't guys look just as great and also be sexy? Here is an interesting fact, painting ur toe nails. While some think that may also be 'feminine' etc. Tito Ortis, world champion UFC light heavy weight holder painted his nails for going into a fight. I can gaurentee you no one on the planet would ever make any derogatory comments to this guy about his sexuality! My next question though, I've progressed from wearing knee high stilettoe boots, to wearing tight/stretch womens jeans. At what point does our fashion sense become really feminine? Are we really looking good? or really becoming feminine or progressing to cross-dressing. Personally for me its a good look that I like, I feel its masculine and I'm not really trying to become a female! even though the look is still more categorised as feminine? So where is the line? Is their a line? I think its harder for us, cause we have no real role models, were pioneers! on a brave new front! We are defining our own tastes and looks. Its actually a great sense of freedom without others dictating to you what you should or should not be wearing. To objectively look at styles and choose what best suits you, rather than being one of the boring masses incapable of thinking for themselves and mindlessly being herded into certain pre-defined fashion stables! But I will sort out some pic's and share them with everyone soon.

Yeah, I have run this past them, and there very supportive in helping my wife . Thats what I'm really hoping in that seeing them at easy and my boots being a non issue should calm her concerns etc. Well in theory this sounds good. Also I've bought her the same boots, so we can match!

I know that I would not give up wearing my boots, I'm way too stubborn for that. I agree with the views of taking it easy and giving her more space. Which is what I've been trying to do over the last 2-3 weeks. Natrually this will take more time. While I don't bring the subject of me wearing boots out often, I still wear them out(as per my other post). I have had a few more discussion with her and she admits that she has difficulty in accepting it, she's more concerned about "if I accept this, then what else?" I read through the old treads here and found one were wifes were giving positive feedback or acceptance. Here resposne was see, its so uncommon you need to go to the 'net' to find anything? No matter how much data or logic I give to the debate she just refuses to listen. I understand her point, until I made the decision to wear boots, I didn't cause I also thought it was strange. Now though I could not be happier. Admittedly wearing and tackling this issues has made me accepting and understanding. Thats what she needs, to see that its perfectly normal for guys to wear heels. Problem is, its not the 'norm' for the moment, I suppose thats what u get for being a pioneer! I have told her that while I may choose not to wear my boots around you, do you think that this will stop me from wearing them elsewhere, or stop wanting to wear them. She has come to the conclusion that there is nothing wrong with men wearing heels, its just that she needs to see it more accepted. Strange thing is that everyone thinks this way then nothing would ever change!!! We'll be going to our friends on Friday, this time I will wear my boots with her. As per my other thread, I've worn my boots with these friends several times now and they feel totally comfortable with my choice. I'm hoping that if she see's others accepting this that she will calm down and relax on the issue. While I agree with the suggestions of taking it easy with my wife as far as exposing her to my heeling, I really don't see myself wearing different boots, ie low heels. I agree that jumping straight to 5 1/4 inch stilettoes would be cause for a greater shock to her, thats what I prefer. I'm not going to wear something I don't like(clearly my stubborn side!) So while I've relaxed the heeling in front of her, I'm not letting the issue fade. I do occasionally reminder her of it etc. So thanks everyone for your advice and I'll let you know how it goes on Friday.

Update, Hi, well I have to say that since this original post that my outings in heels have become common place with these friends. I've now been over there place 4 times, each time wearing a different pair of boots. Ranging from my Victoria black leather lace up boots with long pants so that only the heel was slightly visible. To wearing my patent leather Lexi buckle boots and having my pants legs rolled up to nearly 3/4 pants, clearly showing off the ankle and heel. My last outing was with my new white patent leather boots, ie Heat 2010 with the silver metal heel, wearing black pants and a white shirt. Clearly white boots stand out a lot. But both commented on my boots and how good I look in them. My friends wife had noticed the same pair in black the previous week and likes this style. These boots took a little bit extra in getting used to as the heel is 1/4 inch higher than my others, while that does not sound like much, it did feel very different initially. However, now it feels great. I also approached the subject with my friend (ie him) about me wearing boots, since now he's seen me 4 times in heels. He said to him it makes no difference, its does not change the person I've always been. But I also asked him about the look, and how he sees me or perceives me in heels. admittedly he said that he likes the look and things I looked great. This was a huge moral boost, naturally. One comment he also made is in the way I compose myself, ie I look confident, proud and natural in my boots, so the whole look fits. On another side, I've become fairly accustomed to driving with 5 inch stilettoes know and it feels quite natural. I really find this strange though, when getting home, after wearing my boots all night and feeling quite comfortable in 5 1/4 inch heels, it strangely enough feels more uncomfortable without the boots (when I take them off). This seems contrary to some women that complain about wearing heels and how 'uncomfortable' they are. I don't have this at all. Maybe its just because I want to wear heels and enjoy the whole experience??? Again to anyone, thinking of wearing your high heel boots out, go for it. I find its the best night out and I look forward to it every week. Its like xmas everyweek. A huge sense of freedom, accomplishment and satisfaction. The more I wear my boots now, the more I'm thinking why havn't I done this a long time ago?

Hi all, I would like advice. How has others here won over support from their spouse in you high heel endeavors. Its been now 3-4 months since I've really decided to wear high heel boots. Again I prefer 5 inch stilettos knee high boots. My decision or choice of footwear is based on fashion and style. While I've now approached about 10 friends and all have accepted my choice of footwear, my wife continues to disapprove of it. She tends to go from partial acceptance, ie calm and admitting that she needs to be more open, to anger and total denial. The main issue I tell her is just because I may not wear boots, doesn't mean that my want or like for wearing them will go away. She's admitted that there is 'nothing wrong' with a man wearing high heel boots, just that its not common. I have tried all reasonable logical arguments, but for her its more an emotional decision. I'm hoping that over time she will come to understand that I have not changed at all, apart from finally getting a bit more stylish and presentable. The difficulty is that the more she refuses to accept my choice, the more determined I become, also frustrated and annoyed that in this day an age I can't choose what I like for myself! Hence the build up of tension in our relationship. I'm just interested in anyones experience on how you've overcome this hurdle.

Hey guys, finally did it. And boy did I have a great time. As I mentioned previously I was going out to a friends house. Well, I finally did and wore my knee high black stiletto boots all day long. I was so nervous that a few times I thought I was not going to do it. Its funny, but in comparision I've fought in martial arts (Karate) tournaments over the years and the nerves I felt going into a fight was nothing compared to wearing your boots out in public the first time. But I tell you what, it feels a lot better once you have. I was going back and forth (in my mind) do I, Don't I etc. I finally figured out that if I don't try I'll always regret it. So I put my boots on and drove over. I got to their place and there was another car parked out in front. I was thinking, no, not other people! But figured, the boots I'm wearing look great, I look good and feel really great wearing them, “so park the car, walk upto the door and say hello, as I'm having a mental battle with myself. Well, I did park, stepped out and walked up the driveway, heels clicking away. Got to the front door, rang the bell and my friends wife opened. I said hello and kissed her, she stayed behind be as she locked the screen door, I'm thinking she'll definitely notice we walking down their hallway (wooden floor), but we got to the kitchen and nothing was said. Finally her husband came in (I've known him for 15 years and were best friends), he looks at me and says, “hey, you've grown, whats with the height”. I just pulled up my pants legs, and said “Yeah, I thought I'd wear my new boots, aren't they great?”. She looked at me and said, “those are nice, there high, were did you get them?” I just replied “yeah I've always wanted a nice pair of boots, there are really comfortable and easy to walk in, there also so much cheaper buying them from the US over the net” And pretty much that was it, I went on to explain why I choose these boots. But that was it. While we watch some TV, I would cross my legs, so that my ankle is resting on my other knee. Giving them a good view of my boots. By this stage I was feeling very comfortable and very happy. I decided I didn't want to sit their trying to hide the fact I was wearing boots. Later during the day, on of her girlfriends came over to go out with her to the movies. As she introduced me, this young lady took 2 steps forward. As I noticed her look catching view of my very visible 5 inch stiletto heels, she sort of froze. You could tell her mind was going over questions, ie hey this does not look right? This is not what I'm used to seeing or expect. While all this happened within a micro second, she continued towards me, we greeted etc. She acted totally normally and was very friendly. Again I took my seat, making sure that my heels were very visible and really just acted like my normal self, ie we were watching UFC (Ultimate fighting, mixed martial arts tournaments), I also changed for a while and we trained for a while, exchanging different techniques etc. After which I promptly and proudly put my boots back on. After the girls went out to the movies, we were watching the last of the fights and I asked my friend, “what do you think of my boots?”, he looked and answered “there great, I really like the heels” and that was it. I could tell that he was still going over it in his own mind, trying to find out where this sat within his own perception of the world. And thats why apart from my dress sense, in wearing a decent shirt, pants and boots. I acted like normal, I really wanted to convey that while my fashion sense has evolved/changed, I'm still the same person. After I went home, he rang me that night and thanked me for coming over, saying it was really good to see me etc. I've just also shot off an email to his wife thanking her and asking her of her 'womens' opinion and also her girlfriends about my boots, I'll followup and let you know of the outcome. But realistically I'm on a huge high, I feel great about myself. I feel great about the way I looked. I feel as if I've accomplished a huge task and self fulfillment. To anyone who's thinking about going out wearing your favorite pair of boots, I'd recommend it, its the best feeling ever. Now, were to next and what to wear?

Hey all, Its been a while since my few posts, but as the saying goes you've gotta be in it to win it. So here's my story. Personally I'm a boot lover, knee high stilettoes are my thing. I now own 5 pairs of boots. My experience with wearing them is limited to a few outings around the neighbourhood shops at night and at home. I finally decided I wanted to wear boots about 6 months ago. While I've always loved the look of high heel boots on women and was fascinated with myself wearing them I never thought that it would be something I would do, since I thought it was 'not right' etc. It wasn't till I examined my own sexuality and knew that I'm not making a statement about my sexuality but merely wanted a nice pair of boots to wear. Which is interesting since I have little to no fashion sense or feminine side. I'm over 6 foot, work out with weights and have been into martial arts for years (including tournaments/competition fighting and teaching). For me its become an issue of 'boots look great' regardless of wether women or guys wear them. They are a very cool and sexy style of footwear. The reaction from others with me wearing boots has been mixed. Initially it seems to come as a shock, then you explain why etc and it moves from their. The outcome generally has been good. My wife has gone from hating it, to being more open, to moving back to hating it. While I've asked female friends, one really think its cools while another that initially thought it was a joke is also cool about it. Tonight I'm going to make my first true outing, going to go visit friends. I expect it to be cool, I've chosen them specifically since I know their a lot more open minded. My wife on the other hand is another story. She's going through the yelling, abuse and humiliation phase, ie she will say anything to try and degrade me regarding me wearing boots. I find this reaction in her more interesting than wearing boots at all, ie if you do something thats outside her comfort zone or she disagrees, she will throw a temper tantrum? While I understand her reaction, unfortunately males wearing stiletto boots is uncommon for the moment. I feel that her ongoing reaction is not right. And I will not submit to verbal abuse, I'm a grown adult who has the right to decide what I like for myself etc. Anyway, for tonights outing I've choosen a black pair of pants and a white polo shirt to wear with my knee high, lace up 5inch stiletto boots. I've tried the look out and feel good about it (even though I know I fashion challenged!), but these boots fit really well and are very comfortable. Hence I think a good choice for my first outing. There's only 1 thing that freaks me out, driving with heels, just does not feel right. Which is strange, I actually feel more comfortable wearing my heels than flat foot, but driving is going to take some getting used to.

Hi guys,

I need advice. I just received my new 5 inch heel Victoria boots today, after waiting 6 weeks! (thats what u get for living on the other side of the world!)

Problem being, they are way too big for my foot. My foot measures 127cm. As per measurements from this store thats a 13 US Women and they mentioned adding 1 size up for heels 5 inch up! Hence I got a size 14 US womens!

I'm just woundering if any of you can help with with sizes then?

I checked www.bevelyheels.com, there sizing chart says 27.3cm = Size 12.

So is 27.3 a size 12, 13 and do I need to add another size up?

I do have to say that having waited 6 weeks for these to arrive I'm really upset and dissapoint, especially waiting for my first stiletto heels so I can go street heeling in.

Hellllllpp!

We’ll I do understand everyone’s point. Definitely confidence. I went out last night again, taking a longer walk around the local shops etc. I nearly turned back at one stage since there were bus’s, cars etc. But I stopped and thought to myself, “No, I enjoy wearing my boots and they look great. I’m not doing anything wrong so I have nothing to be embarrassed about” Then walked down the street, feeling totally like its were I belong and good about myself. Disappointingly, I received no comments, bus’s didn’t stop, I wasn’t tackled in the street and publicly ridiculed. The World didn’t come to an end. Oddly enough I was so prepared for comments, etc and nothing happened. What did happen though is that I feel great, I really enjoyed going for a walk in my boots (these are the Electra 2025, patent black leather, chunky 5.5inch heels lace up knee highs) Tommorrow I pickup my new Victoria boots, ie 5 inch stilettos knee high black leather boots. One thing that was not really mentioned by some of you when street heeling the first time, man my calf muscles and my feet kill, ie walking a couple hundred metres etc. But it feels great and I feel alive. Really at this stage the only negative feedback I’ve had is from my wife, but I’m dealing with her, ie I’m not backing away from what I want to wear. But that’s another story.

We’ll I do understand everyone’s point. Definitely confidence. I went out last night again, taking a longer walk around the local shops etc. I nearly turned back at one stage since there were bus’s, cars etc. But I stopped and thought to myself, “No, I enjoy wearing my boots and they look great. I’m not doing anything wrong so I have nothing to be embarrassed about” Then walked down the street, feeling totally like its were I belong and good about myself. Disappointingly, I received no comments, bus’s didn’t stop, I wasn’t tackled in the street and publicly ridiculed. The World didn’t come to an end. Oddly enough I was so prepared for comments, etc and nothing happened. What did happen though is that I feel great, I really enjoyed going for a walk in my boots (these are the Electra 2025, patent black leather, chunky 5.5inch heels lace up knee highs) Tommorrow I pickup my new Victoria boots, ie 5 inch stilettos knee high black leather boots. One thing that was not really mentioned by some of you when street heeling the first time, man my calf muscles and my feet kill, ie walking a couple hundred metres etc. But it feels great and I feel alive. Really at this stage the only negative feedback I’ve had is from my wife, but I’m dealing with her, ie I’m not backing away from what I want to wear. But that’s another story.