Heals4me

I've been having a blast at our local mall over the summer.

Not bought any new heels for ages but enjoy pairing my existing ones with new outfits. I've been experimenting with mesh and see through cropped tops.

Cropped tops and leggings go real nice with heels. In fact heels are a must with such outfits. I always get very appreciative comments and a few followers who keep appearing in different places!

3 weeks ago I finally wore one of my more head turning outfits out in town. I've had a black latex catsuit for a few years and although I've worn latex out a good few times, never the catsuit.

It's full length arms and legs with a high collar. It fits better than my own skin (holds in a few wobbles!) and polishes to a mirror finish. I wore it with my patent black ankle boots with 6in stiletto heel and 2 in platform.

I parked on the top floor over the Mall  and having taken a ticket at the entry barrier would not be able to get out without endorsing the ticket at the pay machine in the Mall so had to leave the safety of the car behind. I love that. I was alone for the ride down in the lift, which had a full mirrored wall. Time to admire myself!

And the door opened into a busy department store just by the laddies shoes. I like to have a look there but they never have any shoes that interest me. A female assistant surprisingly called to me " Wow, good morning sexy boy!" and I replied "good morning" and she replied back "you look beautiful, what a bottom. I wish I had your figure!".

I was blushing and was lost for words but buzzing like never before.

The rest of my outing was a blast. I've worn some outrageous outfits over the years but this seemed to be on another dimension. People spotted the shiny latex an moved for a better view and when they spotted the heels their eyes would widen dramatically. There is something very enjoyable about the ladies admiring my shoes. The comments and conversation is always very positive.

No better place to heel than in the mall!

  

I suppose that masculinity has played an extremely important role in the evolution of humanity.

But perhaps in modern society it's role has been lost. Actually I'd suggest that masculinity is the driver behind a lot of what's wrong in the world now.

Nothing bores me more than an Alpha Male strutting his stuff. Whether it's in sport,  in the workplace or out in the social scene.

It can't be my feminine side talking. Else I'd find "real men" more attractive ?  

 

I like to wear the styles that I enjoy  seeing others wearing. If I see someone wearing shiny brightly colored lycra leggings, cropped top showing the midriff and exotic heels I'm going to take notice and admire the view. It just so happens that it's most likely going to be worn by a female.

So when I dress for fun I'm very feminine but I don't particularly aim to be mistaken for a woman. I don't wear wigs or dresses, although I have worn a denim miniskirt on holiday. I enjoy being a man wearing the clothes I like. Generally I'm identified as an exhibitionist, which I guess is not particularly attributable to gender. I'd turn heads wearing my favorite outfits even if I was a woman.

There seems to be a "softening" of young male fashion at the moment. Supper skinny jeans and even the odd pair of leggings. On occasions I see androgynous guys wearing a bit of makeup dressed in wonderful outfits just begging to be completed with killer heels. Maybe it will come...one day.

I once had an eyebrow pierced but it grew out twice

 

I had my left nipple pierced for years but it got infected one time due to injury and I just abandoned it

 

Had a couple of piercings in the top of my right ear. They never healed fully. Constantly flaring up until the infection got into the cartilage. That hurt, a lot! So they got abandoned too.

 

In those days (90's) I had a dirty, physical job. My work is cleaner and much less physical now and I'm getting the itch for some new piercings.

My wish list is for both nipples and naval.

 

I do have one small, discrete tattoo. It was s test run to see how I'd take to the process. Unfortunately my tattoo wish list will remain a fantasy for the foreseeable.

I have strong opposition from my better half. I'd be able to get a few small tattoos that are covered by normal clothing but the last time we discussed it I pointed out that I'm interested in something that couldn't or wouldn't be fully covered. I often have a military style haircut, shaved bald on the back and sides and I'd love a large tattoo on my chest which comes over the shoulder and up the side of my neck, behind my ear and onto the back and side of my head. Maybe even onto my temple.

There are some beautiful examples on Google of large rose designs that fit the side of the head perfectly. Leaves and other detail can be placed to perfectly follow the hairline or have a have a few cheeky bits straying just beyond or well beyond...

 

I'm 50 now and running out of time to do the things I want!!

I don't think Eddie will be remotely concerned about what twitterers are saying.

 

He has an immense intellect and would happily engage anyone in debate.

 

I can't say I like his politics nor his style but I love his individuality! 

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

 

I behold their beauty!

 

All my heels are 6" stiletto's with varying degrees of platform and I could do with something more "robust" for when I'm walking the dog. As it is I wear trainers but they spoil the whole image when I wear my favorite leggings.

 

Unfortunately I don't have that kind of money floating about just now.

Heels weren't my thing when I was still with my parents but I had the beginnings of androgyny right from puberty.

 

My thing was girls skinny jeans and lycra leggings. I even started adjusting the jeans on my mothers sewing machine for the ultra skinny fit. I kept them private to start but one day bought some bright red slim fit stretch girls jeans I took the legs in on the sewing machine and tied them in knots and dipped them in bleach and washed them.

They were gorgeous pink/red marble effect and fit perfectly. I decided now was the time to show the world. So I wore them in my mothers presence and she just pointed out that people would laugh or I'd get bullied. I didn't care and went out and about round town.

I loved it and no harm came and so all my skinny jeans got outed.

Even when I settled in a relationship with my future wife I continued to a lesser degrees but as life got in the way I found it more difficult to be "my self".

 

Now my androgyny is stronger than ever and my exhibitionist tendencies aren't going down to well at home. It was the shoes that caused most upset.

 

I should have stayed true to my natural style right through. I now wear shiny metallic or latex leggings a lot. Heels are a must but not in front of my wife.

 

So my advice is let go of the fears. You are only putting it off to a later date and even then you'll be hiding from friends or family. Put it off too long and it will eat away at you. 

Maybe the shoes are a big first step.

You mention androgyny so must have other aspects that you currently experiment with.

 

What about trying them out at home, low key at first. Girl jeans are a great way to open up various styles. 

Skinny jeans with some nice detailing or bling and perhaps a slim fit shirt then next time the shirt might be more feminine too.  

Very slowly let the look get more feminine and at some point you'll have that conversation with your mother by default and your outfit will be screaming out for some nice heels!

Real friends will love you whatever you wear. Once you get the family barrier conquered you will be a free man! 

 

Good luck!

I would never regret a leopardskin catsuit, would be great with a pair of shiny black plats.

 

True,

 

I have never regretted wearing anything but do regret the things I didn't wear when I was younger. Leopardskin catsuits included.

 

My parents and grandparents are all gone and they never really knew me. I blame myself for that.

My new heels from New Look http://www.newlook.com/shop/shoe-gallery/view-all-wide-fit/wide-fit-red-platform-court-shoes_295973264

 

 

Real comfortable and I love them.

 

 

Nice colour.

 

These are my most recent purchase http://www.newlook.com/shop/shoe-gallery/view-all-wide-fit/wide-fit-red-platform-court-shoes_295973264

 

Bought in-store to go with my new poppy red lycra leggings. Perfect match. 

It's my favorite place for heeling. Some of my heeling accounts give the details.

 

I've got to say though, as an avid people watcher, I've only ever seen cross dressing men wearing heels. That is, men carrying themselves as women. Very common round here and doesn't even raise an eyebrow.

 

I'd like to see more men wearing heels in a more male way as I tend to.

 

I've only ever had compliments and warm smiles from observers and I think more guys could and should carry it off.

 

The only place I have seen a man wearing heels was in Marmaris, Turkey a while ago. He was young local man who was more than little androgynous but still plainly a man and not trying to be a woman.

He actually looked really good. 

I like the term "jackstand" sounds much more masculine than "stiletto"!

 

For such a small niche as blokes wearing high heels we do seem to have a very varied collection of likes and dislikes.

 

Anyway, Jackstands are where I'm at. I only wear them round the house as I'm heading out the door. Generally the rest of my outfit distracts from the shoes

 

I recon I walk in them better than just about every woman I've seen wearing them too!!

Heals4me and Hiheellover23, loved both your stories. When you go out in public, who do you like showing your heels to? Is there a type of person you look for or do you just get your kicks from girls, guys, all ages seeing you in heels? Love that you went to the Trafford centre too. That's huge! It's not too far from me either, don't think I'll be making an outing to the Trafford centre but think ill head to a shopping centre up north this weekend in my heels. Thanks again

Hi, I don't have a target audience other than it's in public! I find that I get most compliments from the ladies, young and old. But I get the more envious looks from the men. I honestly think that a lot of men wish they could let loose with their wardrobe. Girls have that freedom already and just love seeing nice heels. Although my outings do satisfy the exhibitionist within, given the chance my whole wardrobe would be very femenine and colourful and shiny. And the best way to showcase a dazzling outfit is atop some killer heels! The Trafford center is a good place for heeling. It's quite cosmopolitan and the masses don't care what you wear.

It's a while since I posted about my last outing. It kind of ended on a somber note regarding the need for me to talk to my wife.

 

Well, we have talked a bit more about my androgynous fashion sense. Some progress has been made but there are still some barriers.

 

Life goes on and whilst I make progress at home I'll have to make do with occasional outings when the opportunity arises.

One such opportunity was yesterday.

 

I had the chance to visit the Trafford Centre in Manchester. I like it there and always enjoy my outings there.

 

I arrived soon after opening wearing one of my latex and heels combinations. My favorite black latex leggings a new red latex t shirt and my new boots:

; http://www.honour.co.uk/strictly-pleasing-lace-boot-hs426.php

 

All very shiny

 

I was particularly looking for some new leggings in the American Apparel franchise in Selfridges. The AA website is full of spectacular shiny leggings so hoped to pick up some nice ones in-store.

 

I'd parked on the higher level near Selfridges just by chance so not a long walk.

The boots are really easy to walk in and so are easy to look confident wearing them. 

 

Walking through Selfridges barely raises an eyebrow. Lots of smiles as usual. It didn't take long to find American Apparel. There was a rack of leggings near the front but nothing very exciting on there. Within a very short time a young lady offered her assistance and pointed me towards some others.

 

I found a pair of Fuchsia and Coral glossy leggings that were my size. She asked if I wanted to try them on which I did. But over my latex leggings as they don't come on and off too easy!

She walked me to the changing room and on the way said "I love the boots, they look great". I obviously liked that!

The leggings fitted perfectly and going in the changing room gave me an opportunity to make sure my outfit was all in order. I went to pay which took for ever because the cash registers were playing up. So I was stood there for a good while while she apologised profusely. No worry I said, I'm in no rush!

 

I went looking round another shop for running tights in something more cheerful than black. One shop, still within Selfridges, had some stuff but not what I was looking for. Another young lady came to assist. At least being dressed as I was she didn't bother to ask who I was looking for

No sale there but on our tour of her store she congratulated me on wearing such nice boots!

 

I broadened my search outside of Selfridges onto the main concourse.

Lots of shops but none having what I wanted. I got lots of looks. A young lady with her mother(?) passed me at the bottom of an escalator and as she checked back to confirm what she'd just seen she froze and gave me a huge smile. "oh wow" she said looking me up and down. And just watched me on my way still smiling.

 

Walking along the concourse a woman of about 40 seemed to be keeping along side me for a long time. As I turned and looked at her she came closer and said " Oh I'm sorry, but you look so amazing!" She seemed almost lost for words. As I thanked her she continued; "just amazing. Really wonderful. Why cant more people...people just need to...oh...." and she never finished that sentence. I continued thanking her expecting more conversation but she just finished by thanking me and off she went, slightly flustered!!

 

That was by far my best personal encounter while out heeling. I would have liked to talk to her about why she felt so strongly about my appearance. I think it would have been a good topic for discussion here.

 

Needless to say I floated back to my car on a huge high. 

 

Now I'll need some heels to go with my new leggings

 

 

I went for 4.

 

My confidence is 5 but I do care what people think to a degree.

I've never encountered any negative comments while out and about, only positives and compliments, I'd like to think I'd just brush off any negative comments but until that happens I won't know.

 

If I've got heels on that means the rest of my outfit will be eye catching too. As I've pushed the boundaries on my clothing I spend less time thinking about the heels I'm wearing. They are just an accessory in effect!

I bought a pair of these last month:

 

http://www.honour.co.uk/shoes-boots/kinky-boots/strictly-pleasing-lace-boot-hs426.php

 

Full on fetish boots but I make no apology for that being my "thing"

 

Already had an outing in them along with my favorite pink latex leggings and black PVC shirt. 

 

These boots are gorgeous! If my heeling wasn't still a taboo in my marriage I'd wear them all day every day until they wore out. Except at work that is

I think the crowds in the mall liked them too!

Easy to walk in and sound nice on marble floors...

I love the feel of heels but for me the main purpose of wearing them is to complement my leggings. They need to stand out!

In all my high profile heeling expeditions I've never encountered such obnoxious behavior as displayed in that second video.

 

I've seen similar on youtube previously. It always seems to be in the US.

 

The guy doing the filming had a real problem. A psychologist could probably give it a name but I'm sure it's more than just an urge to ridicule and bully. It wasn't enough to simply denounce the thing that threatened him, he needed to encourage others to support his worldview on camera.

 

It wasn't about the heels. Something more than unfounded homophobia was driving him. He just disguised his prejudice as homophobia to encourage others to subscribe to his campaign.

 

What a puerile individual.

A word of caution my friend, and I speak from experience. If she's pissed with you, and you push the limits, she will snap and when she does your world may come crashing down around you like you would not believe. ("Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned" was not quoted lightly.)One possible course of action at the moment may well be to retreat for a little while and let her come to terms with whatever it is she's angry with you about. I for one wouldn't be pushing my luck. I really do wish you all the best with your marriage, and I know I don't know you, your personal situation, or your wife but I would exercise restraint with how you like to dress, (especially in public) if you want to stay together. Everyone has a breaking point. Hope things work out for you.

Wise words

 

I know I've been told already by numerous contributors but you put it very succinctly.

 

You know what? I think I will lay low for a couple of weeks with the outings and see if I can open up a more definite dialogue.

 

I'm gonna crash and burn if I'm not careful!

 

Thanks everyone

I do wonder how much my wife already knows about my outings. First of all she alluded to a friend of ours that she was mad with me but that I don't know because we haven't discussed it yet. That was just after my outing that started this thread. Then she was going to a 70's fancy dress party and needed some pink go go boots and asked me if I had some in my "dressing up box". As I happens I couldn't help. Then today we were out shopping and she was looking for some shoes to go with a party dress. As we walked through shoe shops she picked up a pair of pink stiletto shoes and commented that they were my style.! Not to miss the opportunity entirely I pointed out that I don't wear the open toe styles. So maybe there is some progress. We can now talk about shoes

Got out and about again yesterday. I decided to pair up my favourite 6" black platform pumps with my pink latex leggings and black PVC shirt. I drove to town and parked in a multi story car park over a large store. I like this look so much that I couldn't wait to get out on the street! A bright sunny day and town was very busy with tourists enjoying the last week of the school holidays. I took the lift down to the store lobby alone. I was wondering what it was going to be like when the doors opened but not worried. Well, it was busy I walked off (steadily!) through the store entrance into the bright and busy street. I wanted to go to one particular shop which was about 10 minutes walk away. I got the usual looks, a few whistles and plenty of comments between observers. None bad though. At my destination I had a look round and bought what I wanted. No bother. My calves were beginning to tense up a bit so I slowed down a bit. No rush!! After a good wander round the very busy streets I headed back. Then I heard someone behind me close enough to talk to me say "wow, look at you!" I turned to see a guy I don't know but he accompanied me along the street for some distance. He loved my outfit and was extremely complementary The town has a large gay community and much night life to cater for the "pink" tourists as they are lovingly known. My new friend told me he was a dancer/performer at one of the gay venues. He loved heels but explained he couldn't walk in heels as high as I was wearing. He asked me where I was going and told me about some nice bars and party venues where I could indulge my heel fetish and more!. He told me about his friend being a designer for one of the premier latex clothing manufacturers. I shall look them up. We parted company after a while and I carried on alone back to the car park feeling very happy. I hadn't realised how hot it had got during my walk. I was boiling hot and got the Air Con going full blast for the ride home.

Bluejay, yes they are real latex and polish up real nice! Like a mirror! Jimnj3, it does get sweaty but the weather is cool her at present so no big problem.

Thanks again everyone for your wise words and enthusiasm. I will get a few pictures of the leggings and post them. Yesterday was a day off for me so I dressed to kill and intended to hit the town again. Different outfit to my last outing and even more latex. I wore my black latex leggings, pink short sleeve latex shirt and my new pink/gold shoes. Astounding outfit I thought It doesn't show just how high gloss the leggings are but you get the idea! I was just getting ready to go out when there was a knock at the door. I looked out the window and saw a courier van outside. There wasn't time to do anything other than dash downstairs as fast as the shoes allowed and open the door to him. I wasn't too worried about what he thought but I realised I was on the doorstep for some time and very visible to passers by. He never commented but will have noticed my outfit, I'm sure. I needed to go to a particular shop and then get some fuel. Would I have the courage to walk round town in this outfit? Turns out I bottled it. I went to the petrol station and saw it was busy. This place is a couple of hundred yards from home. I was pushing my luck. In the end I just went back home. As I pulled up the drive a neighbour 2 doors away and their 2 kids were just going out to their car. I didn't hesitate and just got out of my car an walked to our door. I was certainly seen though I avoided eye contact. I was disappointed at my outing but have promised my self that later in the week I'll wear the same outfit and just go for it. Something's gotta give!

Thanks for the supportive comments everyone. I'm really not sure how to break the news to my wife. I'm thinking that her response would be the same however she finds out! But I do realise that I'm on dangerous ground! I suspect that we'd have another round of our previous discussion when she first found out about my fetish. I'll probably end up promising to stop and get rid of my shoes and stuff I missed an opportunity yesterday when a packaged arrived for me. I'd been naughty and ordered a new all in one black latex catsuit. I've already got some deep pink pvc thigh boots with 6in heel to go with it!! The parcel wasn't expected until Monday when I will be home alone. So my wife saw the parcel and never commented. In the past she's correctly assumed that I'd been ordering some "weird stuff" and just left it at that. I thought she'd question me on what it was this time and open up a channel of communication. She didn't so perhaps she's just avoiding the subject like I am? Anyway, I'll have an outing in my new outfit soon and make sure I get some pictures to post.

It's been a while but I woke up yesterday and decided to spend most of the day heeling.

Still only my wife knows but thinks it's all out of sight and secret. I'm struggling to keep to the rules...

My chosen outfit was these shoes:

Nitelife 6" black stiletto heels teamed up with my yummy bright pink latex leggings and basic pink T shirt.

These heels are very comfortable and easy to walk in.

I loved the outfit but realised it wasn't practical wearing the heels to walk the dog on the beach! so I put them in the car and put on some pale blue canvas shoes instead. They went well with the leggings.

Off to the beach we went. Just my leggings turn heads. They are really bright pink, highly polished and fit better than my skin!

We walked for a good while so I'm glad I left the heels in the car.

Next job was a visit to the barbers. As I pulled up outside I thought about putting the heels on but for some reason decided not to. was I losing my nerve?

I entered the shop and immediately my leggings got attention. Darn, why didn't I put the heels on? It's now on my to do list.I WILL be wearing heels for my next haircut!!

Next stop was the supermarket.

It was our local supermarket and had a very high chance of me bumping into people I know.

The car park was full so I ended up as far from the entrance as possible. It was very busy.

On went the heels and I paused....

What if....

I nearly bottled it again. I sat there for a while noticing just how busy it was. I opened the door and placed one leg outside and my heart was pounding! It was quite some outfit I had on!

Then I talked to myself quite sternly. I wouldn't be there if I didn't really want to do this so with a deep breath I got out of the car and strode towards the entrance.

Within seconds there were people nudging their companions to take a look. But it felt good!

I was back in the saddle and enjoying it. I just remembered the rules of heeling. Be natural and walk steady. My confidence flooded back.

I collected a trolley and entered the building. Even walking slowly the heels are quite loud. On with the shopping...

I could hear people commenting but didn't pick up anything negative. Lots of smiles though Really easy reaching the high shelves too!

What I thought was a quick dash round became a long leisurely shop. I took my time up and down the isles. As staff heard the news they'd track me down for a look.

It was eventually time to leave and I headed to the checkouts.

The check out girls were all eyes. The one who served me didn't know where to look or what to look at. She smiled a lot though.

It's not easy steering one of those trolleys along a carpark wearing high heels on. I loaded the car then had a couple more walks the full length of the car park to return the trolley. This was fun

I didn't want to go home yet so decided to take a look in a ladies shoe shop down the road. I didn't walk, it was too far.

I parked round the corner and without hesitation set off along my local highstreet.

I entered the small shop and was greeted by a stock "hi there" until the assistant looked up and then dashed over.

"Wow, look at you" she said. She loved my shoes and wondered how I walked so well in them.

She wasn't sure about the leggings. A bit too risqué for her taste.

I asked her if she had any pink heels in my size. She showed me these:

Ravel pink and gold design with 5.25 heel.

Great fit and I loved them.

During this time other customers wandered round the shop and seemed to like the heels also.

As seems usual for me, I kept them on and paid "see you soon!" said the assistant.

I enjoyed the walk back to the car but these shoes aren't as easy to walk in as my others. They will go nicely with some other leggings I have. I'll spend more time in them to get used to them.

I needed to get the groceries home so my heeling day ended.

Back home everything was packed away and I put my "civvies" on before meeting my wife after work.

My outing went so well that I'm itching for my next one already.

What i really need to do is get out of the closet before someone else outs me.

It's only a matter of time before I'm "caught" and my wife finds out. I'm happy to be seen. I wan't to be seen.

I have a strong desire to wear one of my outfits in a social setting where I know I'll be meeting lots of people I know.

That would be my ultimate blast