utahnylon

It's funny how people think it is there business what others do. I'm guessing that the guy in the video lost a bet and had to wear heels. I think many of us can walk in heels better than most women.

The world needs less of people like this... The narrator.

Thought you guys might enjoy this!

http://www.figureskatersonline.com/johnnyweir/home/events/welcome-to-my-world/

Nice to be able to be yourself.

utahnylon - Nice Outing. Go with what is comfortable for you but be warned, once you start heeling in public it's hard to stop.

I've neen wearing camisoles for months now and really enjoy them.

Enjoy your heels.

I just wished I lived in a bigger more progressive city!

Ye, the silky stuff is really nice. I had the stuff they make for guys..

I don't venture out very often but today I had the urge and just figured screw it!

I wore my 3 inch pumps, small pattern fishnet stockings, 501's, and a white layering camisole under a black silk shirt. The cami showed a but, everything tasteful. You could only barley see a hint of my stockings if you looked at my shoes.

First I shipped a package at the post office. When I walked in and out the shoes made their rather distinctive "click". The automatic door didn't open so I pushed it open for the lady going through in front. Went in, shipped my package, and was out.

My next stop was payless to look at some rounded toe pumps.

http://www.payless.com/store/product/detail.jsp?catId=cat10088&subCatId=cat10270&skuId=079491120&productId=67500&lotId=079491&category=&catdisplayName=Womens

The have a 4 inch heel. From what I could see there was only one employee, a guy, stocking. He came over to the section and gave me the rundown on the sale. For the first time ever I tried shoes on in the store!!! (I'm glad I did.) What fun! It is really cool to take off a pump that I wore in and try another off the shelf. What a feeling of freedom. I found another really cute pair of ankle boots, but they didn't have my size.. Tho I just ordered a pair from the web site.

When I was checking out the clerk was telling me about a survey I could take, number printed on the receipt. At that point I suggested that they put more of the womens style shoes over on the mens side. I told him that mens shoes are really boring. He smiled and agreed!

I know this isn't as daring as some of you, but what a great trip. I'll be smiling for a long time. As to others I'd say, just go for it. It feels so good to give yourself permission to be yourself.

The only reason I'd say no is that it is further acknowledgment that there are womens clothing and mens clothing. I don't want people to think what we do is a freak show or only appropriate for Halloween. Years ago when men started wearing earrings it was a clear indication that you were gay, or so people thought... Today it's perfectly acceptable. I think if we are to gain acceptance we need not to fall into a mode where we participate in cute events. When I buy lingerie, stockings, heels, or skirts they are MINE, a guys clothing. Not a womens clothing... Just my opinion...

Thanks for the link! Lot's of fun shoes, although not the right ones yet. They have a lot of open toes... For going out I think closed toe will be more subtle. I love the stacked heels! Thanks

I've been looking forever for a pair of slingback pumps.

What I want, black, not patent. Closed toe, not super pointy. 4 to 5 inches. I prefer a narrow wedge heel, but a stiletto is ok. Womens 11.

Something like:

This shoe

http://www.zappos.com/product/7513919/color/72

This heel

http://www.zappos.com/product/7406479/color/21250

Ok guys, make your suggestions.

I started shaving my legs every day for the last 4 or 5 years, incredible! I'm not sure my wife likes is too much, but she has gotten used to it. When I fly I wear pantyhose a lot, keeps my legs warmer on the flight. Overall I just love the feel. I think hose should be a men's item by default. If you wear hose = SHAVE.

I like hanes, legs, no-nonsense, and some other brands. I have actually been buying slikies at a dollar store that hold up pretty well. Im not really picky, or have too many problems with runs. Just need to make sure your hands are free of things that will snag them. I LOVE the feel of nylon on my legs, shaved all the time...

Hi Olounda, You are not alone, in Utah that is! I'm also guessing that neither of us are unique. I'm also straight and married. My wife doesn't like it one bit, but alas, I think you need to be true to your self. I think it's hard in this community to be different. You've seen all the prop 8 stuff and how everyone gets worked up! A few years ago there was a group on yahoo for Mormon X-dressers. It doesn't get a lot of traffic these days. There was an incident where one of the members was disciplined by their leaders, while another was fairly open with his and nothing happened. It's weird what people believe is improper. It was sad to see one of the groups members be tormented by those who should have sought understanding. I think we all struggle with who we are. Many like to cast everyone into neat little boxes so THEY feel comfortable. I've lived long enough to know that I have to love myself first, and also accept myself. Others are going to judge what they do not understand. As for your wife this could be a hard thing for her to understand. If you've read much you'll know that these feelings don't go away. As a CD, many will purge when they feel guilty. It's just a waste of money, don't... Shoes or whatever. Then you'll be mad at yourself for throwing stuff out you really liked. You may never understand this desire. But what desire do you understand? Why do some people like blue, chocolate, steak, football, and on and on. I think the point is that you need to, and hopefully will, come to peace over who your are. It take time... CHeers UN

Hi,

A friend sent me this link.

So when you are feeling down, and need to laugh at ugly over priced shoes.

http://www.barneys.com/Main%20Floor%20Shoes/MAIN01,default,sc.html?start=0&sz=752

Holy $hit! You look F-ing Fantastic. I wish I had your body style. If I looked like you I'd feel very comfortable in heels, hose, and skirts. My shoulders are very broad so I don't look near as good as you. One hint, DO shave your legs. Your legs would even better. Thanks for the post!

HI Jeff, This happens to me also, I've been wearing "girl" things for over 30 years. I don't worry about it any more. It just comes and goes. Preference is a hard thing to understand. Just like food, music, or anything else the desire comes and goes. Sometimes I go through shopping frenzies, at other times I could care less. When I talk to my female friends they feel the same in a lot of ways. At times they like to dress up, and other times they just feel like doing as little as possible. I've just come to accept this and know that I'll want to wear something cute soon enough. Take care, Len

Jeff, Welcome back! I too missed having you here on the forum. It's frustrating how much conflict our desire to wear what we want causes. I'm in my late 40's and don't remember a time where I haven't felt this way. I purged many times. I've now gotten to the point, several years ago that is, where I've stopped purging. It was pointless because I ALWAYS return to the same point. In addition to the wasted money, I got rid of a lot of stuff I can't replace. It took a LOT of soul searching to accept myself, a guy who wears heels, hose, and lingerie. I also have a "few" skirts. I have a very close female friend that, through her acceptance, has also helped me come to terms with my desire. Having a real live friend willing to shop with me and point out cute things has been incredible! One thing that has really helped to lessen my need for outward expression has been to just wear panties every day. They are hidden, no one knows but me. It feels right. I also shave my legs everyday. I LOVE the feeling. I still get really angry and frustrated that I can't just pop on heels and a skirt and feel it is normal, at least from the way others look at me. I really wish that people could live their own lives without caring what I do. In any case, we all have to achieve what we feel is appropriate. I too have looked in the mirror and felt ridiculous. When this happens I just have to remind myself that this is the programming of normalcy that society rams into our brains. In reality, there is no such thing as normal. Normal is what we accept. More and more I've been able to lift my vision from the fog and understand that it's ok to be different, to be me. To be able to love myself is a great gift. Jeff, I hope you find your balance. Doing so takes a life time, and then some. Len

HI, Interesting question! I wouldn't phrase it as a turn on; I'm a completely straight guy. Some women in heels turn me off because they wear ugly shoes, have a terrible sense of fashion, or the look is just not right. For me when either sex wears heels, or any particular item of clothing, it needs to look appropriate. I think heels, skirts, or other clothing items look fine on either sex. For instance I am TOTALLY turned off seeing either sex wearing hose on unshaved legs. I don't think bad fashion sense is intrinsic only to men. I have a good friend that is really open about suggesting what things that look good on me. Personally when people, men or women, try to look like someone who they are not, that's unattractive. I think what ever you want to wear, heels, hose, skirts, makeup, hair, and what ever else; strive to make it look good. I think doing otherwise gives people the sense of a "freak show". I appreciate BOTH men and women who take an effort to look good in what ever they choose to wear, heel included. Len

I Live in SLC!

Hi Everyone!

Went boot shopping today at Famous Footwear and found some really sweet boots! I was originally looking for a different boot and saw these. At the store they were 25$!!!

I LOVE the closeout time of year!!!

Len

New Boots

Scotty, I'm sorry to hear of your struggles, I understand them well. I don't know whether you consider yourself a cross-dresser or not, as to myself, I am. My expressions are in wearing heels, hose, and other lingerie. I've never fully dressed and really don't intend to. I've had these feelings and desires since early childhood. For over a period of nearly 40 years now. One thing that I have learned is that repressing these feelings does not work, they have never gone away, although they do vary in intensity. Previous to a few years ago I would dress, felt guilty, purge, and start all over again. This is a typical cycle for a cross-dresser. After many years and much reflection I've come to realize that wearing these things are ok. I've stopped purging and feeling guilty for my desires. I've given myself permission to wear what I want. I guess I'm saying all of this because I'm not sure how you feel. I'm guessing that you too have had these feelings for a long time. If that's true I hope that you have communicated that to your wife. In talking with mine I've tried to educate her about the hypocrisy that surrounds us. Women do have fashion choice, men do not. In your last posting you made reference to a women wearing flannel shirts with work boots and cutting their hair short. Uhum... They do that every day, and are so accepted. At any given moment women have the choice to express a range of feelings and emotions in their attire, makeup, hairstyle, and etc... For some reason I enjoy the texture, feelings, and look of silk and nylon against my skin. I LOVE heels and the range of shoes that are not traditionally available to men. It frustrates me highly that I am judged negatively for having these desires. In our society gender is highly miss-understood. Physical gender is pretty well set at birth. While behavior, mental, and emotional gender is not, they seem to be more of a spectrum. Unfortunately society tends to be very rigid and unforgiving in areas of gender expression. i.e. Blue for boys and pink for girls. Dolls for girls and trucks for boys. If you step across the gender boundary the repercussions can be extreme, in some case even death as we have seen enforced my macho boys. Society demands conformance that causes people with our desires to become highly confused and depressed at times. Rather than embrace and accept the diversity that we desire we hide and repress it. When your wife said that "your fantasies aren't my fantasies" I feel that there is possibly a disconnect in your communications. Have you expressed that you are not "fantasizing", but rather expressing something in side of you? I wish you and your family the best. I hope you can reach a balance of comfort between your need to express and your wife's understanding of the man that you are. Inside we are the same, that is male and female. We both desire to express and be accepted for who we are.

HI All,

Here is a free conference calling site. http://www.freeconference.com/Home.asp

We do need to pay our own LD.

I would love to do a call, but it has to be after the 26th.

I read up a bunch on shaving and try a whole lot of different things. I still get some red bumps and irritation, but the longer I shave the less that is seems to be happening. Currently I shave ever day. Here are the tips. Use a sharp razor! Only use them two or three days and then use a new razor. First they get dull. Second they start to build up bacteria. I usually just use a women's disposable. I don't leave it in the shower where it will stay wet and get gunkie. Exfoliate; you need to rub your legs with something to remove the dead skin. I bought a nylon scrubber from Bed Bath and beyond. There are Loofah Body Scrubbers that are natural that are good. Use a clean towel, change it often to avoid bacteria. Moisturize! A lot! Dry skin gets irritated. Use a mild unscented lotion. I use soap, but many recommend using shaving lotion. DON"T get cold in the shower and end up shaving goose bumps. Really! I've see a lot on shaving direction; I really like to shave against the grain for a smoother feel. It is also more irritating to do so. Shave ONLY once per area. Otherwise you will also irritate your skin more. That's my 5 cents.. Well maybe 10. I LOVE smooth legs. Even when I'm not wearing nylons I like the feel much better that hairy legs. I'm hooked and won't go back. Have FUN! Len

HI! Got my boots today!!! They fit very nicely, size 41. IN this size the heel is nearly 4 and 1/2 inches! The material is really soft! They came with an extra tip for the heels! I LOVE them!!!!

I'm not sure, this is the first time I've been to their web site. As soon as I get the boots I'll write a report. I was amazed at how heavy the steel heels were!

Ok, so I'm at the mall today. Walked by an Aldo shoe store and walked into browse. I found these boots that I could not live without.

To Die For Search for lazarina.

One interesting note. When I just looked them up by searching on the name "lazarina" the price shows up at 139. When I manually navigated the site looking for boots the price was 109.

They only went up to a size 9... But they to have them up to 11 on the internet. Needless to say... they are on order.

I get so compulsive when it comes to shoes!

I'm totally EXCITED, these will be my first steel heels.

I really love these shoes, I'm still thinking if I can get over the rivets. I like to be a little low key when I'm out. Although I don't know if it really makes that much difference? I love heels enough that if I have the courage of Jeff I'd wear full time. I just bought another pair of Mules with a shorter fatter heel. I'll see how I like them before I buy these. But I really have a hard time falling in love with heels shorter than 3 inches. Go figure?