big_a_64

Damn.. Ill be in my 70's and have bad knees by then! LOL!

Well you could be in your 30's and have bad knees like me, but I wear heels anyway.

Look at it this way: 40 years ago I remember girls being asked why they wore tatoos and boys being asked why they had earrings. Today they do it and nobody asks or cares. So in 30 or 40 years men will wear heels and it will be accepted. Just takes time.

I don't see this happening, however I will be ecstatic if it does. One can hope though.

Well I guess I should explain a little more. When I met my wife she was all about being the girly girl if that makes sense. She never hardly ever wore pants she always wore skirt and heels and what not. Her hair was shoulder length and she was into her style and fashion. Overtime and a few children that all changed. Now her hair is shorter and she really does not wear as much makeup like she use too. I have come to accept her for who she is. It all I feel come down to the fact that she is so worried about someone making fun of me that she feels that she needs to protect me. Even before we married she was like this and would get really upset when someone would make fun of me and I would not do anything about it. She would want me to try to start a fight with them and would get mad at me for "Not standing up to my self" I just look at it like this, I pick and choice my battles and will deal with thing's my way and that be that. I know the question will ask do I wear heels cause she does not wear them anymore to which I can say no! I wear heels cause I like the way they look. I guess I get fustriated with her because I have choicen to love her and accept her for who she is not who I want her to be I just wish she could do the same with me.

There it is right there. Relationships are supposed to be equal, not one person doing what they want and the other person not being allowed to. I'm not saying she should have to give in to your every desire, just like you don't have to give into hers, but calling you out for being a "freak" is completely uncalled for and she should apologize for it. COMPROMISE is the key word here. You've compromised and accepted with how she chooses to present herself and she (if the marriage is in fact 50-50) should have to do the same.

That being said I'm truly sorry for what you and your family are going through right now, and wish you all the luck to be able to rectify everything. I sincerely hope she isn't as close minded as she is coming off as, and is able to work with you to salvage your relationship.

big a 64 :-)

I'm sure your brother did notice but said nothing because he respects you.

And I agree with you about the fact it is liberating to wear what we want.

Well done !

Trust me he would have said something. We both have respect for each other, but we are also brutally honest with each other. If something seemed out of place he for sure would have mentioned it...and not in a bad way either. It would be more for letting me know that something doesn't look right.

The same goes for my mother when I wear a bra that has a lot of projection she will say something. It's just the type of family I live in.

I do wish that my feet were around a size 8-9. I currently wear an 11, and while most stores stock size 11 shoes it's harder to find shoes that I like in that size.

Sooner is always better when telling a significant other. The longer you wait the worse she is likely to take it because it's considered a lie of omission.

I actually find that Aldo shoes run true to size. I wear all kinds of women's shoes (flats, sandals, heels, etc.) in a size 11, and the Aldo's I purchased were no different. A size 11 fit me perfectly.

Saturday night I wore a pair of 3" wedges to church, to dinner, and then to Wal-Mart. It's definitely liberating to wear a pair of heels in public. Not single remark from anyone including my brother whom I was with that evening. I know he didn't notice because he definitely would have said something to me.

David Bowie also wore heels on stage during his Ziggy Stardust phase.

for me I prefer wedges without clank. I may not try to hide the fact that I wear heels, or a bra for that matter, but I don't go out of my way to show off either.

Not with me. Anything over 3.5" will give me fits no matter how used to the shoe I am.

Heels would not turn someone bi. It may serve as a catalyst to bring out some repressed feelings that you weren't comfortable sharing in the past, but they won't "turn" you bi. You are either bi or you aren't, regardless of whatever clothes you choose to wear.

I wear heels, because I like to. I know it's vague, but it describes my emotions towards them perfectly.

I typically wear wedges since they can be concealed a little easier.

My current state would have me wanting a - 2 - gorgeous single woman with gorgeous single friends.