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I haven't got the relationship experience as most of you guys do, so far I only had two girlfriends and no relationship lasted longer than one year and four months. My first relationship ended because of the heels. But strangely enough, it ended because I couldn't bear the thought of telling her in her face like a man. Because of that, I started to feel uneasy about opening up as a whole wich lead to other problems. That made her feel uneasy and the relationship fell apart. Having learned my lesson, I immediatly told my second girlfriend and got a pair of pink pumps as a present not long after that. She only saw me wearing them once, but again, this was because I couldn't bring myself to wear them in front of her. But having the whole thing in the open was a big relief for me wich made it easier to open up to her. It brought her closer to me than any person ever has. Sadly this relationship has ended as well, but I learned my lesson. Women can live with heeling men but not with lying men.

I just bought these from ebay and awaiting delivery eagerly. They are not my usual style (witch would be black with a rounded tip) but I love them nevertheless

Thanks a lot PussyinBoots! I wish you, and everyone else here a merry christmas!

You are lucky indeed.

But the down side is you may spend more on shoes and boots than most of us

You have a point there.

I have size 39-40 wich is about 6 1/2 or 7 if I am not mistaking. Wich is quite small for a man, but I really don't mind at all Guess i'm lucky.

haha, personally, I like them a lot. Especially the second ons looks beautiful .

Well that is interesting to read. I always assumed that high priced heels would be better quality. Must be a little sour to see your shoes fall apart after such a short time if you paid a lot of money for them. What about the comfort? Are there any differences in that, or are they overrated in that area as well?

I was walking around in a cheap shoe store the other day, and I know from experience that cheap shoes have the bad habit of falling apart as soon as you start wearing them and that they are not particularly comfortable to wear for a long time (there are exeptions of course, I don't want to generalise) . I'm pretty sure that designer shoes are a lot stronger but I was wondering if they are more comfortable as well? I've never worn a really expensive shoe in my life before (yet!), so I was wondering: are they? Or do you just pay for the incredible looks? I've been wondering about this for a while now. I'm sure you guys/girls will be able to answer my question . Cheers

They are simply amazing. YSL's are just magnificent.

I fell in love with a pair of boots I accidentally stumbled upon on ebay.

this is the pair i'm talking about.

http://cgi.benl.ebay.be/Mega-Sexy-Black-High-Boots-w-Straps-QUEENTINA-Size-40-/160503767332?pt=BENL_Schoenen_voor_haar_1&hash=item255ec52124#ht_4754wt_1458

I absolutely adore them, especially the red sole. It just gets to me.

Anyway, they are too expensive at the moment, and I have no possible way of hiding those magnificent boots in my rather small room (where I get regular visits of friends to make matters worse) It's also on ebay and i have no idea how that thing works, i'm a little horrified that the seller will send the boots in a big box with 'SUPER SEXY BLACK BOOTS' in big letters on the front, for everyone to read to my nearest supermarket where I'll have to collect it personally from the people I see nearly every week and be looked at strangely from that moment on.

I know it's a little cowardly of me, but I'm still very shy of this and on the verge of trowing away my other pair of heels in fear of getting 'caught'.

Anyway, this pair got stuck in my head and I've been walking around with them for the past few days now (how ironic).

Just needed to let this out, thanks for reading if you did .

In a closet, in a box under a blanket in a sportsbag. It's a shame really because they are beautiful and should be in plain sight.

Taking showers or baths . I actually did take a shower once with some boots I've trown away in a moment of self denial (you all know the story) and accidentally cracked the bottom of my shower with the heel

There are some 7,000,, plus or minus, of us out here, all of whom accept you for who you are....why not join the happy crowd?

UpBy5, again

It sure is a big crowd, something I'd never expected.

I like your purchase, I'm actually looking to buy some like that model myself. You look good in them. Takes some guts the first time to buy shoes in a store. I remember I lied my ass of the first time. (even got them wrapped as a present )

haha! I knew I was going to find those back here. I drooled over those while I was watching <3 Thanks for that

I do agree with you Bubba. But I also hope he let us know how he is doing. So Shortskip, if you are reading this. Please let us know how you are. I'm sure I am not the only one that wants to know.

this will be interesting. here goes: The Federation Of Windurst - Naoshi Mizuta Faded Memories-Promyvion - Naoshi Mizuta Vana'diel March #4 - Naoshi Mizuta To Zanarkand - Nobuo Uematsu A&E - Goldfrapp

Hello Shortskip, You are feeling sad and lonely right now and you have the feeling that nobody understands you. Correct me if i'm wrong, but I have the distinct feeling that you are going trough a rough period in your life right now. Even though we have never met, I emphasize with your pain and problems. And I'm sure I'm not the only one. Just looking at the responses you got from the wonderful people here proves that I am right. It is important to keep in mind that you are not alone. Please do talk about the feeling you are experiencing, let us know how you feel. You would be amazed how good it feels to get those feelings of your chest. You will get perspective and get a grasp on a situation that feels uncontrollable at first. Hang in there mate, we care.

Thanks guys This site offers a completely different perspective on this subject than I've been used to. I've never considered wearing of high heels as something men were 'allowed' to do. You probably know what I mean. Maybe someday I'll be able to wear them without feeling guilty or being ashamed afterwards. I'm glad to hear my English is good, great thing about forums is that you can check everything before you blurt it out in the world.

Speak of the devil. A warm welcome of another Belgian newbie on the forum . I hope you enjoy it as much as I have the last couple of days.

Thanks a lot UpBy5, both for the warm welcome as the advice! It is staggering to read that a lot of people have the same frustrations and problems as myself. It does feel good to know that I am not alone. I'm looking forward to share my experiences with the people here and especially to read about theirs. About your advice. Somewhere deep inside I know that you are right, but as a psychology student I find myself in a very difficult situation. At the moment the DSM classifies those HH urges as a 'disorder', wheter this is true is entirely debatable (and would probably be a juicy thread now I come to think of it ), but it does raise some ethical concerns for me personally. I do believe that lurking on this board will help me to understand myself and hopefully make me more able to accept who I am.

I prefer a round toe on my boots. I had pointy boots once and just like Marymoult described, they got shabby quite quickly. They can be beautiful but overall I find myself attracted to round toes more often. It creates the impression that the wearer has smaller feet, and for some reason, I find that incredibly beautiful.

...but let me start with hello, I have been lurking on this site for the past couple of days now, wondering what I could possibly say to introduce myself. Nothing useful came to mind so I'll just start and see where I end up. It goes without saying that I am absolutely mad about high heels, especially (but not only) boots. This love hasn't always been easy. I often wondered if there was anything wrong with me, if I should go into therapy ect... these questions still haunt my mind. This brings me to the reason I am here. I have been looking for people with the same love for shoes as I experience each time I hear a woman walking by on stiletto's or each time I pass a shoe store. I am eager to finally be completely myself around other human beings for those ten minutes a day when I open my browser and come to this site. I'm 21 years old, live in Europe and study psychology at the university. English isn't my native language so pardon me if I make some stupid mistake during my stay here. I'll just stop typing now, because I have the distinct feeling I'll just end up barfing quite a couple of years of frustration in this 'hello' thread. I sincerly hope I haven't bored the readers that have made it this far in my lengthy introduction because I am hoping to spend a long time on this forum. Sincerly Heelfts.