JL Posted August 17, 2014 Share Posted August 17, 2014 I just found out that one of the health clubs in the area is sponsoring a "Walk a Mile in Her Shoes" event in October... Here's my issue: my wife still doesn't know about my heel wearing. Here's the question: How can I get my wife to want to do this and her WANT me to do it i heels without making it look like I want to??? The way I see it is that once she actually sees me in heels, that she'll accept it and encourage me to wear them at home (in a private personal setting of course)..... I really need some advice from those that have tried to 'come out' in this type of way under this type of pretense.... please??? Men's 13W : Women's 15/16 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jetheelsfan Posted August 17, 2014 Share Posted August 17, 2014 Maybe something like a comment of, "Look at this fund raiser. Walk a mile in her shoes. How hard could that be?" Then see what is said from her point of view and see if it leads to a "challenge." Just a bit higher to to delight - low enough for healthy foot comfort and great beginning. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve63130 Posted August 17, 2014 Share Posted August 17, 2014 Assuming that your wife is reasonably perceptive and intelligent, she ought to see right through this pretext and start questioning your motivation. Why not just come out and trust her with the whole truth first? If you have a strong and loving relationship, there should be no harm to it and you will be relieved at not having to hide your desires from her in the future. Steve Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SleekHeels Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 Maybe you could discuss the cause (i.e. sexual violence) and actually make that your motivation to participate, that's the whole point after all. If you happen to enjoy the event, that's just a bonus. If you like it, wear it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bailey Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 I agree. Be honest and sincere with your wife. I told my wife about my interest in high heels, my first pair were thigh high boots with a wedge heel. I told her it would be exciting and invigorating to try to wear them. I do not wear my heels in pubic at this time but I do wear them around the house or when I go for a drive. She understands that heels are just footwear. And in my case they do not change the person you are or the person she married. I am so happy that I was honest because now we go shoe shopping together.I love to treat her to new heels and I get to add to my collection. Good luck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thighbootguy Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 JL - I've no advice on how to get spousal support. Just don't try the mile in 5" heels. TBG I dream of a world where chickens can cross roads without having their motives questioned. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AZShoeNut Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 Yeah, trying to use the walk as a "conveyance" really seems like a slippery slope unless you can be honest with your motives. Life is short... Wear the bleeping shoes! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hh4evr1 Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 Best to tell your wife you like wearing heels, but if you use the fund raising walk as a way of wearing heels, you could mention someone you know who was effected by abuse and do the walk in respect for them and to help others in a similar situation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wetwillie Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 Maybe if you know someone else that's going to do the walk you can say you're doing it to support them. Most of these walks will supply shoes. If you can get her to join you, let her help you select the shoes. BTW, she can walk along with you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ilikekicks Posted August 19, 2014 Share Posted August 19, 2014 I just found out that one of the health clubs in the area is sponsoring a "Walk a Mile in Her Shoes" event in October... Here's my issue: my wife still doesn't know about my heel wearing. Here's the question: How can I get my wife to want to do this and her WANT me to do it i heels without making it look like I want to??? BROTHERS: You guys have this all wrong. Lemme add some ' flavor ' to this topic and show you how a Cat from the sticks gets the job done here JL - Im going to give you a VERY truthful way to do this. No lies, no stories, just something for your own perspective/consideration. You can save the links to show your wife if you wish. Check out this link : http://www.tmz.com/2014/08/11/christy-mack-war-machine-photos-injuries-broken-bones-porn-star/ You *COULD* tell your wife the following ( or something in regards to it ). One of the guys you are on a message forum with ( Dan/ ILikeKicks ) posted a link to another sports site ( TMZ ). It was about how some MMA Fighter beat the hell out of his girlfriend.. Like beat her REALLY badly. You can even show that link to her with the graphic pictures. You could then mention you saw a mentioning of a thing called ' walk a mile in her shoes ' ( at a local place as you stated ) as there ARE some links out there to sites that have taken a stand against domestic violence. I dont know all of the sites that are being thrown around with the articles out there on the web about this beating ( there are a LOT of them ), but ' Walk a mile ' sure about sums up support against domestic violence in my opinion ( and as mentioned, you saw something locally about them ). *I* see no need for a man to do such to a woman, especially a trained MMA fighter. You can tell your wife that *I* am saying this is a good cause to support and *I* am ( right now ) asking you to look at ' Walk a mile ' in your area to try and support a noble thing. *I* have done one of their events before and it was great! It was a good experience and its something *I* feel that as a couple, you and your wife would have a good time doing together. And there you have it . No lies and you can bring this up to your wife with a clear conscious. In fact.. *I* am sending you a link to a support site that *I* highly recommend! http://walkamileinhershoes.org/ Please consider doing a noble thing. -ILK Brothers : Thats how you help a fellow man with the ' cause ' ! REPEATEDLY ARGUMENTATIVE, INSULTING AND RUDE. BANNED FOR LIFE. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JL Posted August 20, 2014 Author Share Posted August 20, 2014 Thanks everyone... ILK -- I like your process of thinking... Never really thought of it from that perspective.... Once I finish a MASSIVE project at work (hopefully this weekend), I think I'll bring it up to her. Of course I need to get myself up to speed on the news story... It's terrible what he did to her (assuming guilt before innocence). I'll let y'all know what happens. Men's 13W : Women's 15/16 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ilikekicks Posted August 20, 2014 Share Posted August 20, 2014 Thanks everyone... ILK -- I like your process of thinking... Never really thought of it from that perspective.... Once I finish a MASSIVE project at work (hopefully this weekend), I think I'll bring it up to her. Of course I need to get myself up to speed on the news story... It's terrible what he did to her (assuming guilt before innocence). I'll let y'all know what happens. Its not just that one story though. Every one of us knows someone whom went through a rough situation with a spouse or significant other ( maybe a child or another friend/relative ) where there was some kind of abuse. Theres a LOT of articles about ass-whippings all over the internet from these situations. REPEATEDLY ARGUMENTATIVE, INSULTING AND RUDE. BANNED FOR LIFE. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dr. Shoe Posted August 20, 2014 Share Posted August 20, 2014 I can almost guarantee that she won't want to see you in heels again afterwards. You can nag her into entering "in those lovely heels you have..." and wait for her to say "if it's so easy why don't you wear heels?". Don't be too quick to acquiesce though... Graduate footwear designer able to advise and assist on modification and shoe making projects. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve63130 Posted August 21, 2014 Share Posted August 21, 2014 I can almost guarantee that she won't want to see you in heels again afterwards. You're right, Dr. Shoe. My experience at a "Walk A Mile..." event was that most of the guys couldn't walk gracefully, and most of them made a mockery of wearing heels. Since it's supposed to be a "fun" event, many of the guys played it up as funny as they could, some wearing dresses, wigs, and other female items, but most just wearing baggy shorts or jeans. It wasn't pretty. In that context, a woman would never take a guy in heels seriously afterward, so the whole affair might well backfire. I would advise against participation in this kind of event, and instead have a serious talk with the wife to explore limits and options. Sure, one fling at heel wearing this way might work, but there is no chance afterwards. Steve Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wetwillie Posted August 21, 2014 Share Posted August 21, 2014 I did one walk where they made up certificates like Most Stylish, Highest Heel, etc. I made it a lot more fun. BTW, I won Most Graceful.On my first walk I had to practice so I would go out after dark and walk a few blocks in the neighborhood. I asked the wife to join me, asked her for advice and tips. After the walk I told her the shoes were comfortable and kept them on for the drive home. I've since been in many of these walks and my wife walks with me and accepts the fact that I like wearing heels. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Histiletto Posted August 21, 2014 Share Posted August 21, 2014 I add my dittos to the "be honest" approach. Your interest in wearing heels will eventually become apparent either way. Trying to hide this will only diminish your own trustworthiness. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bss Posted August 22, 2014 Share Posted August 22, 2014 I've done several Walk a Mile in Her Shoes. If you want to do the Walk a Mile in Her Shoes, do it for what it is meant for. You will have to be the one to want to do the Walk a Mile in Her Shoe, and you will have to be the one to ask if she will help support your effects by simply joining you in the Walk a Mile in Her Shoes. Study the links ilikekicks posted, so you are able to have that discuss with her. If she chooses not to join you in the Walk a Mile in Her Shoes, just go ahead and do the Walk a Mile in Her Shoes. She might change her mind and join you in the next Walk a Mile in Her Shoes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jetheelsfan Posted August 24, 2014 Share Posted August 24, 2014 I realize my method was not the best advise but I still see some of the others still intertwined with my idea. What has happened since. There are inquiring minds who are interested in what has transpired. I sure hope you get to participate. Just a bit higher to to delight - low enough for healthy foot comfort and great beginning. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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