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Do Women like Men in heels?  

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  1. 1. Do Women like Men in heels?

    • Yes, Women like Men in heels!
      86
    • They don't like it but accept that her partner/friend wears them.
      94
    • Indifferent/don't care.
      58
    • No, women don't like Men in heels!
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My first wife was very similar to me character wise, it didn't work. Me and MrsF are 'opposites' and it works wonderfully. Of course it does help that she's slim attractive, younger than me and doesn't mind me in heels but you get a bit of luck in life and have to grab it.

High heels are the shoes I choose to put on, respect my choice as I repect yours.

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Amanda Snake : We all know your stance on a guy in heels, but what ( in your opinion ) do women look for on that ' first impression ' in ' whatever ' setting they meet in?....

Men need stringent rules if you ask me.

She probably gets a "rush" from those who she intuits she can "pierce" with "powerful" control.

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My point was the different mindset. I just mean, you don't have to look drab to look like a man. And that there's nothing inherently female about high heels.

To bump this thread I found a nice blog from a french girl living in New York.

She seems to appreciate cute guys, even with heels on. And the number of comments is impressive.

It should have been posted elsewhere but I can't find it (2008).

I think the photos rather prove my point. I still wish young men wouldn't do that stubble thing though.
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To bump this thread I found a nice blog from a french girl living in New York.

She seems to appreciate cute guys, even with heels on. And the number of comments is impressive.

It should have been posted elsewhere but I can't find it (2008).

Web page doesn't have an english version - - Never took french - -

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I think it's funny when a woman says she isn't attracted to the IDEA of a guy in heels. What women think they can be attracted to as an IDEA and what they are attracted to as a REALITY are often two different things.

I agree. If women were attracted in reality to what they say they wanted nice guys would get all the girls. Alas, in reality nice guys always finish last.

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At9, Heelster, please ask if you want to go beyond the google translation. CassieJ : I agree with you but either you have a fashion blog with a man in real nice shoes, and only comments from guys, or you have this kind of blog, with valuable info in the comments from girls.

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I'm with CassieJ. Even if the shoes they are wearing are styled to be woman's shoes, there is still enough to question weather or not they are when worn by a man.

Being mentally comfortable in your own mind is the key to wearing heels in public.

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At9, Heelster, please ask if you want to go beyond the google translation.

CassieJ : I agree with you but either you have a fashion blog with a man in real nice shoes, and only comments from guys, or you have this kind of blog, with valuable info in the comments from girls.

I'm with CassieJ. Even if the shoes they are wearing are styled to be woman's shoes, there is still enough to question weather or not they are when worn by a man.

That girl actually won a CFDA media award.

Anyhow, the shoes the men are wearing are respected without question in the world of high fashion as MENS shoes, for they are either the Dior 6.5 or YSL Johnny Boot. There are loads of men in the world of high fashion who wear such heels. Olivier Zahm, the founder of Purple Magazine and party friend of Kate Moss, Milla Jovovich and other A-listers wears them all the time (and gets laid in the process while making dope money).

I think the very question that originated this thread misses the point. People give back what we project out to them from our inside. And since we have complete control of what we project out, we may as well Act As If we are already attractive in heels and do so with Authenticity. Then we are golden. Our subconscious will create the conditions in our external environment that attract the women to us that genuinely appreciate men in pumps/heels. So project out the frame that we are sexually irresistable to women when we wear heels.

The key is to Maximize Our Authentic Selves. This could in effect create each one of us as a Brand that is absolutely unique in social situations, since each one of us in as unique as the stars are unique from one another. And once we become aware of our unique "brand", our opportunities to publicize our maximum authentic selves will appear--whether it's through social situations or the media or speaking engagements or books. This is the formula for achieving fame in today's world. It's a job separate from the job and maintaining and monetizing with diligent follow through is absolutely required should one want it to continue.

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Years ago my college psychology professor stood before the class and with the over dramatic flourish of magician prior to performing a trick said, "Picture a behavior, any behavior, no matter how strange** it may seem to you," after pausing a bit he then finished with "and somewhere, someone is very attracted to that behavior." So, sure, there are women who like guys in heels. There are women who prefer men in heels. And some here a lucky enough to be with them. But is this the "norm" for most women and it is something that could be generally accepted over time? I'm not so sure. Much of it has been touched here on prior to my jumping in, but I'll say the hurdles are: - Territorial. Some women want the objects that they see as making them special to remain that way. Not to be shared across gender lines. While many other things have been co-opted over time (earrings), heels have stood fast. In part because they are one of the most powerful symbols of femininity. - Aesthetics. Most men can't pull it off. Body types in some cases, and the design of our clothes don't lend themselves to the look. - Gender Roles. The genders are different. What attracts some women to men are those differences. Some women take comfort in the differences, particularly those borne of "manliness". Anything that dilutes that is undesirable, and those traits that are "broadcast" to the world at large (like heel wearing), even less so. Inability to Shake Environment. Environment, the way we are raised, is a powerful thing. And with some women asking them to put aside years of understanding what is "normal" is asking a lot. ** As a heel wearer, I'm clearly not saying heel wearing is strange. Making a point.

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I just wanted to throw my $0.02 into the ring. First up I hate this poll topic in general, but whatever. From what I've found, the women that aren't attracted to guys being "outside the norm", normally aren't worth pursuing anyway. I know I'm overgeneralizing with this comment so don't miss-understand me nor take this to be an absolute statement. As an example, just a few nights ago I met 2 awesome blondes that kicked off the conversation with the shoes at a bar, and that segued into other topics. Mainly me being a total computer nerd, I demonstrated my beta iphone app I'm building (its for cars and odb2 stuff, long story, and will take too long to explain). But to be honest the shoes weren't much of a focus once conversation progressed other than a "hmm thats odd, lets find out why" vibe at the start. Basically what I'm saying is the people that will judge you based on who you are and whats inside of your skull versus what is attached to your feet are the ones you want to filter for. Also, on that note, be interesting and have varied interests, one of them was a lawyer and needless to say this is the first time anyone has been impressed with my knowledge of Descartes, Kant, etc... In short, do they? No, not all, but the ones that do, or don't care that you wear them are the ones worth talking to. And from past experience they also seem to be the most interesting intellectually. Which is somewhat important long-term, because we're all going to get ugly as we age, but hopefully we keep improving our minds. At least that's what I look for.

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HHeeler, I largely agree with you. Of course I was socialised as a girl, I can't help that. But I was brought up to be tolerant too. What I like is in some way part of how I was socialised. But I don't care what others do if it does no-one any harm. Saudade, you're right, so many more things matter than what you're wearing. And I agree with Descartes' stance on alcohol (...therefore I am), but I find Kant quite unreadable. Still, that's a personal thing, as it all is.

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Saudade, you're right, so many more things matter than what you're wearing. And I agree with Descartes' stance on alcohol (...therefore I am), but I find Kant quite unreadable. Still, that's a personal thing, as it all is.

Oh don't get me wrong, I'm not going to get into my viewpoints on most of the major philosophers here. It would take forever, I just immediately thought of the Categorical Imperative and ran with Kant as my before "etc..." name is all. >.<

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Another thought: Everyone has their likes and dislikes and what makes the opposite/same sex attractive. If a man in heels falls outside of those parameters for a girl and her ability to be attracted to a man, so be it. It is not inherently a problem with the woman, but a preference. And most of the world is, or at one point was, seeking out the perfect mate built upon these preferences, So - I don't begrudge them not being attracted to something that falls out of the "norm." If, however, it goes beyond just a preference in a partner or a look and is a warning sign of a more narrow minded view of the world at large, or a superficial shallowness based on appearance alone, then it would give me pause, and is now clearly the woman's problem.

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I see my love of mile long run on sentences has confused my point. Not a problem: women who have a personal preference ("personal preference" being the operative term here) for a partner who does not wears heels, Problem: if is not just a personal preference but a closed minded/shallow world view, and is just one of many that woman holds.

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I know where this is going. We don't need a flame war here. I know the discussion is on topic, but please keep it civil.

Shafted, the boots that is! View my gallery here http://www.hhplace.o...afteds-gallery/ or view my heeling thread here http://www.hhplace.org/topic/3850-new-pair-of-boots-starts-me-serious-street-heeling/ - Pm me if you want fashion advice or just need someone to talk to.

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No chance of a flame war. Done here. My opinion is clearly stated above, and I've grown bored with the direction of the conversation.

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I think what HHeeler is trying to say is that women who see it as a turn off, a little weird, or just not into it is OK, but if they go beyond that and label the guy as "gay" despite evidence to the contrary, then that's going a little too far. Is that right? I think I can relate, I dated a girl like that.

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I think what HHeeler is trying to say is that women who see it as a turn off, a little weird, or just not into it is OK, but if they go beyond that and label the guy as "gay" despite evidence to the contrary, then that's going a little too far.

Quite so and much to the point on that one.

I think many of us have been called Gay, Homosexual, queer, fags.. doesnt mean anything to me. I figure Ive probably been called much worse by better people at some point in time. :D

The woman whom I have found to be the most provocative in their comments were ( trying to be nice here ) the types with what we in my area call ' Kankles '. The type with enough ' extra ' on their legs that it appears their knees hang to their ankles ( thus ' kankles ' ).

Other types are the ones whom feel that they are entitled to an exclusive entity of footware and feel taken-back that a man would dare wear something that ' belongs to them '. Umm.. I bought what Im wearing. Its mine.

There are some of the mentality of ' insecurity within '. They might see someone walking in some godforsaken heel height and cannot do the same themselves or they feel intimidated in some way/shape/form for no reason at all.

Another type would be what I call ' the worst kinds of people '. They think something is ' funny ' for whatever reason and they take it upon themselves to belittle others at every chance that becomes available to them.

The overall MAJORITY from my experiences couldnt care what I wear or where I wear it so long as my underware isnt hanging out and I look presentable. At most, they are pleasant and usually offer nice comments ' Where did you get those shoes? '. At worst ' You should try something like this instead, it might suit you better '. Easy going both ways, pleasant .

The original topic of this thread was ' do women like men in heels '. There arent that many women answering the question ( there are more men here then women ) so the topic has been kind-of diluted.

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Surely It's only the womans problem if she finds that she has become hooked up with a guy who insists on wearing heels?

I'll say this though, considering the number of 'players' out there who know how to 'pump and dump' women, I'd say hooking up with a guy who suddenly professes a like to wear heels is probably the least of your worries.

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So this poll better be asked in the woman forum. And here we need a poll "Do man like woman in heels" and that only needs one answer :clap: YES!

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Thank you Mr Uggs,

You're right of course. It would make very little difference to me if my man was teetering around on my arm wearing stilettos in public.

Just so long as I hadn't been "pumped and dumped".

I'll say this though, considering the number of 'players' out there who know how to 'pump and dump' women, I'd say hooking up with a guy who suddenly professes a like to wear heels is probably the least of your worries.

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