davidicus

Sorry Charlie if I came across as "women are the enemy", that is not how I meant it, the final part was simply to provide an example that men face which women could emotionally identify with. I recognize though that you are right, men have a fear or being thought of as gay, therefore they all wear clothing that fits within a narrow band between fashion and strict blandness.

Hi everyone, I have not posted on here very much but I came across something of potential interest to people here.

I was browsing the internet regarding high heeled shoes and came across this post on another forum written by a woman, see what you think:

I really think that people need to use their brains a little with this topic. I say that blatently because it's so true. We are born without clothes, girls are not born wearing high heel shoes, and neither are boys wearing boxer shorts, so where is the issue I ask???.

Society has determined the clothing which is worn by woman and men and no one else. There is nothing in clothing that derives from nature and is only about what society accepts. In saying that, how does a man wearing lingerie determine his sexual orientation which is supposed from all accounts have been decided genetically at birth???

Women want, do and get away with in society wearing virtually anything they desire, but a man can't???, Is that sexist or double standards or what???. A woman complains that she missed out on her dream job because she is female and all hell breaks loose with sexist issues etc etc why???. She may not have been chosen for the job being female, but she can wear skirts, stockings and high heels as compromise instead which is fair, isn't it, when complaining of sexism???. Can't have everything surely???.

So why would a man want to wear or try on sexy lingerie, some women just can't understand. Use your brains ladies, doesn't wearing lingerie make you feel sexy too. Well, sexy lingerie and clothes have a "big" effect on me, so I would imagine for a man, the effect would be greater. I will ask again ladies, how come you can't imagine why a man would like to experience this???. I would say that you don't want to understand, from the point of keeping anything soft and nice exclusively for your own pleasure. How selfish don't you think????.

Sure I agree that there is no way I would allow my husband to wear a high heels to work, or do the gardening in a mini skirt out in the street, but only for the reason that society would make his life misurable for doing so, which my instincts would protect him from ridicule and say don't.

In the privacy of our bedroom, who cares if he want's to experience the feelings I feel, in fact, it's rather complementary that he does, and rather arousing too. Loving women and needing the closeness of femininty, doesn't sound queer or homosexual to me.

A desire to be close to and love femininity, how can that be so wrong, you are being silly here ladies, please use your brains and enjoy his respect and understanding of women, and more to the point, that he views women and femininity far more than merely a nice warm hole inwhich to place his penis to achieve an orgasm!!!

I guess some women must enjoy their femininty being defined solely from what lies between their legs. I like to be thought of as a woman defined as something more credible than only that!!!!

I know she is talking more about lingerie than high heels but the principle is the same, I am just putting this here for everyone to review and comment on, but on a final note I have this to say:

Footwear is unique to humans and it serves two purposes, keeping out feet safe, clean and dry, secondly is fashion. A heel on a shoe/boot is just that, a piece of fashion, is does not imply that the wearer is gay, is unsure of his orientation, is insecure in any way.....no, all it is...all it means is that the wearer likes that fashion accessory.

It should, at least to my mind, be considered no different than the color and pattern of a scarf, the style of coat one wears, the style of collar on a shirt one wears, the style of jacket one wears, etc, etc, etc.

As a race we have made many advances in the past century, we have given equality to women, we have given equality to homosexual people, we have given attention to those children who suffer abuse, we have given attention to animals that suffer abuse at the hands of their owners. We are moving forward, strict dress codes of men wear x and women wear y belong in the last century. Why I ask should we discriminate against anyone, are we qualified judges of them? Do we know what is right and what is wrong in all things, because if we do, then surely we are claiming to be like a god!

Furthermore, if you are a woman reading this, then I say this to you from the depths of my heart, how would you feel if someone told you that you are never able to wear a shoe or boot with a heel above 1.5 inches high, no exceptions...I urge you to think about this, imagine yourself never, ever being able to wear high heels again. period. The women I have talked to would find it incredibly tough because of their love for high heeled footwear, yet this is exactly what has happened to the male side of the human species.

Let us now put aside our previous beliefs and accept each and every one of us as individual, thinking, feeling, moral beings who each have different likes, dislikes, desires and needs.

Peace and Respect to all,

Davidicus

Hi Everyone, Just wanted to say a big hi to everyone here, so here goes a quick intro. I am a male I am as straight as they come I adore heels I love the fun of walking in them, I usually think of it this way... If men and women share similarities, i.e. we like similar things, some men happen to find high heels just as great as women do. Now, I have read statements online which said that the only reasons men wear high heeled shoes is for fetish reasons or transgender issues. I am sorry, but this is bull, I love wearing high heels for the same reason a woman loves wearing high heels, the only difference is my gender. If I were a woman, people would think nothing of me wearing a modest 3" stiletto, but because I have a dingle dangle then I must wear shoes that have a heel of 1.5" no matter what?????????? Sorry to rant on my hello post, but society sometimes gets me wound up.