RPMindy

I love my NY drive when it's not rush hour.. I hate the slow pace and the mind numbing wait.. but I love my NY drive!!!!! i made it sound real bad.. but to me... it's great alot of great points made.. sure.. because so many of us are on the US roads.. we have a total number of injuries higher than most places... but as pointed out... other things kill more than driving. what i do want to point out (and i don't have the quote from both the history channel and discovery channels).... other contries with higher safety standards are lowering the morbidity of the types of injurires faced on the roads and suggests that we can do the same at a more aggressive pace than we've been doing. other than that.... yeah.. I love my NY drive.. nut cases and all. (the number of nut jobs seems to have increased.. but also the skill set to avoid getting hit seems to have gone up too) RPM

twice i've seen a woman in 6 inch. one was in NYC while I was on a bus heading out of town.. she seemed very skillful at walking in them.. though her pace was slower than folks around her. she seemed not to care at all.. most men were looking back at her with a nod of approval or just curiosity. half the women seemed to look displeased or laughing at her.. the other half didn't seem to notice. she had on her ipod and was bopping her head to her tones and walking calmly and cool. she must have a high pain tolerance.. her foot size appeared tiny and her arche seemed to be over her toes.. but the heels were 6 inch.. couldn't get to my camera (it was stowed under the seat in my bag) in time. the other time.. it was at a banquet.. a woman showed in her 6 inch.. no plats.. and strutted in.. once seated.. she never got up until it was time to go.. when i came by... to 'inspect' she had them off her feet. when it was tim to go.. she did her million dolllar walk out with her husband. waited at the curb for him to pull up.. many other women asked her how could she do that in such tall heels.. she smile and said.. one foot at a time... one step at a time. she got into the car, waved and they drove off. the men seemed very pleased.. the women seemed pretty jealous and weren't saying too nice of things about her. i came back for another event two weeks later at the same hall. many of the guess were the same as the last event.. many had higher heels than last. she came back again, but in 5 inch this time.. she seemed more relaxed and did a whole lot of walking about and didn't wait at the curb for hubby this time.. but walked with him to the car. seeems to me she's a whole lot more comfy in 5 inch than 6. but she was graceful in the six inch, but walked considerably slower. RPM

i see the point the original poster makes.. i do recall the site.. but no links comes to mind. one example that the majority of us are talking about.. i've got a friend that is stunning in her heels!!! absolutely stunning. her shoes always look fresh straight out of the box never worn look. maybe a slight wrinkle if you look close enough. however.. when she takes pics.. if you catch a glimpse of the sole of these shoes.. you can tell she's done a lot of wearing of the heels. but the surface looks impecable!! that is the ideal sexiness for me.. a woman who knows how to work her heels.. strut her stuff.. there is proof of wear in the sole.. but very little proof on the surface. i'll eventually post a pic.. I got lucky and got one.. just havent' uploaded it yet. I like that well maintained but frequently used look!!!! better than the modeling look or the abused look. the posted pics above is bordering on abused to me... emphasis on bordering. they will work ok in most casual work settings, everyday heeling settings, or social settings.. just not in topnotch or formal or conservative settings. RPM

ok.. NY may no longer be the worse place to drive.. I can live with that. I just know one thing.. we've got a lot of idiots on the road who don't know what they're doing. unless in the US..we have a stricter way of qualifying who should drive and who shouldn't... we'll have one of the worse set of highways in the world. thankfully.. some are paying attention and are better drivers.. but the whole mental make up of th US will not move in the direction of safer drivers any time soon. by the way... speaking of africa.. when my dad lived there... he said if you had no idea of the mind set behind the wheel.. you'd be in a world of hurt.. he's driven in many third world countries.. you have to know the mindset to survive.. if not.. you're blow off the road. so... either way.. everywhere has nutjobs on the road.. our job is to steer clear of them and not get hurt. sadly.. not everyone is that fortunate RPM p.s. even if your car was painted bright yellow with flashing lights.. some idiot will find a way to run into you eventually.. it's only a matter of time

Katherine, i'm happy the law has changed for the handicap parking in NY. cuts on the number of cars with the sticker! The baby onboard story you told got me thinking. what if there was no baby.. but you guys thought there was because of the sign.. which got me thinking more.. if you do have a baby.. have the courtesy of taking the sign down when your child is not onboard! that way.. if a wreck happens.. a search is on because you did loose your baby.. not because you forgot to take the sign down. NY drivers.. if you can survive them.. you can practically drive anywhere! RPM

sure man made.. but not synthetic... i think that is the main difference... RPM

I saw two girls in a car once displaying a "baby on board" sticker, and when I pulled up alongside them there was indeed a baby in the back. They were also both smoking with the front windows open about an inch. Obviously damaging the poor wee beggar's lungs was a lesser concern for them...

Chris

one of those things that should be illegal but won't. shame.. big time shame!!!

I don't see the point of them either. Its usually the baby in the back that survives a bad car crash when everyone else is killed. It would be more to the point to have a 'Granny on board' or ' Beware there is a woman driving this 4X4 ' sticker.

Of course in these mad times of political correctness, it could be there to warn you that it might be sick or pee on you, or even give you a nasty suck!

i never understood the whole ' i got a new kid.. i need a 4x4 now'. to me it's an excuse to get one.. that is it. space is not really an issue.. the kid is so small. and if you're saying.. you're trying to feed the child.... while driving.. then you're a big risk to the kids health and the health of others!!!

for those who suggest turning on rear-facing fog lamps to get folks off your bumper.. haven't driven in NYC. you can get shot for that in some parts of NYC!!!!! and the slowing down to 'teach' a lesson to the followers.. i've seen folks get rammed off the road and seen cars get flipped over for that.

in the story posted with the trucker.. you guys got off the hook well. that is not the most common outcome for that.. most times.. the car gets squashed!

so.. my thing.. drive with your head on your shoulders and ignore the signs. not like most parents have it. my mom once got it.. and it only lasted two weeks.

we've got too many idiots on the road.

oh.. on the subject of lights and signs... i hate tons of bumper stickers and signs on a car that means nothing or say nothing of importance... also.. i hate folks that tailgate you with their highbeams and don't move to overtake you.. but stay behind you for no reason with their highbeams. i hate that with a passion.. (there are enough street lights to drive without lights.. let alone high beams.... excluding those with a missing/broken bulb.. the law requires highbeams until you replace the bulb)

i can rant and rant on about idiots on the road with stupid signs.. but i've got to sleep now..

RPM

Dianeheel.. to me it was funny the first time I heard it and still brings a smile to my face. in light of the humor.. you'd be one of the best lovers here.. and only your hubby would know that for sure. but.. for the controversy.. hum..... you're only as good as you feel you're good.. there will always be someone taller than you.......... let me leave this one alone.... don't want to embarass anyone or myself i'm just glad someone picked up my comment and made it more than just a lost comment thanks Dianeheel RPM

yeah.. those crack me up.. rarely see a baby on board anyway. just makes the parent feel good.. that's all. if you're going to get hit.. you're gonna get hit period. RPM

all well said. my lady loves her heel collection and brags about it all the time. but only wears heels once a week.. on Saturdays. maybe once or twice she's done it during the week to surprise me.. but that's it. no amount of compliments or talk will change that about her. besides..it's a nice compromise.. considering before I met her.. her tallest heel she wore rarely was 3 inch. now.. she does 4 inch, 4.5 inch and at times 5 inch.. but only on Saturdays. what i'm saying.. respect what your gal is doing. don't try to change her. she does it every now and then on request.. make it a special day when you make a request. take her somewhere super special or something like that. leave the expectation checked at the door. embrace the fact that as a flat-girl.. she wears heels for you every now and again. who knows.. she may one day surprise you.. but then again she may not. by me accepting what I can't change.. i've lessened the headaches I get. i used to get upset all the time with my gal about her reluctance to wear heels. she got stressed out about it. fortunately for us.. i got over myself before permanent damage was done. i'm not proud of my insistant ways.. but i'm happy i'm letting it go. i find that now that i've eased up on heels.. she's more apt to surprise me with a pair on her feet. (will it every get to everyday.. most likely never) i've also learned to not 'rub' in her face that i've got tons of friends who know I like heels and are willing to wear them for me if I ask.. and sometimes even when I don't ask. stupid mistake on my part to mention it to her.. hurt her even. but she forgave me and I won't do that again! focusing too much on the subject could have gotten real expensive for me emotionally. bottom line to close this long post. she will do what she will do. love her and embrace her inspite of you not getting what you want. it's her body.. her choice. let her have the freedom to do as she pleases without you getting upset about it (i know that is hard. but it works when you're accepting) RPM p.s. by the way.. now that i've eased up a lot on the pressure.. she seems to be more open to higher heels now.. and is looking more for them more then ever in my 4+ years with her. her collection 'exploded' once i eased up on the pressure. yes.. still mainly on Saturdays she wears them..but now they're starting to show up more on hot dates than before (which was never or close to it)

i'm 5'9". never felt short.. though I joke about it some times.. love my height. feel it's perfect! i can fit in most any cars comfortably and drive... as if the cars were made just for me!! and being i love to drive.. it's all gravy. my lady is 5'2.5" she seems to always feel short. but when you look at her... she carries herself such that most assume she's at least 5'5" without heels and a good 5'7" with her 4.5 inchers. only when you get next to her you realize she's not that tall. i have no idea how she does it. either way.. i grew up with the addage.. short people make better lovers. i have no way of proving it though. one of my brothers is nearly 6'. he likes it.. but finds sometimes it's a bit much in smaller cars (he loves to drive too). and most women to him are too short.. so now he's going exclusively after tall ones. oh well. what matters to me.. whomever you are.. be comfy in your own skin. you can't change it. and if your'e a tall gal.. dont' use that as an excuse not to wear heels. one of my pet-peeves with tall gals. RPM

again.. well said. the classifications are pretty much what most folks will consider them to be. it's just heelers (meaning chronic heelers in mid and high heel area who 'shift' the heights upwards. RPM

i can live with that DR!!! RPM

glad to have u back!!! i'm still praying for you!! RPM

a slight wobble at the right time and place can be super sexy.. too much wobbling.. excessive wobbling.. denotes lack of skill and is a turn off. a coy wobble.. a play of the foot to seduce... or the slight wobble that comes from over extending your gait to reach a given destination.. sexy. leaning excessively.. not sexy (like hoverfly mentioned). but a slight lean.. either inward (rare) or outward (more common) can be sexy in some instances. RPM

bare legs can work if you've got great skin and great legs. if not.. hose em up!!! don't care if it's hot. ok.. let me stop being silly. i prefer hose.. i only dislike barelegs in pumps. that to me is just gross. not sure why. won't complain.. just don't like it. bottom line.. it's her legs.. she's gonna do what she likes with them anyway! so.. i've gotten used to it. RPM p.s. too hot in Florida for me.. so.. dont' have to worry about the bareleg thing anyway.

all that needed to be said has been said!

through reading some of your comments, Katherine, i've felt more fortunate than I realized. I love my lady and she's very supportive of me. it's her right not to want to be on all the forums I"m into.. or also not to be into heels like me. i was being unfair to her comparing her to women who do get that inolved in their man's passions. i'm just happy that she does what she does. and i'm going to respect her wishes more enthusiastically than ever. and i'm also going to show more appreication for the favors and negotiations she's done to accomodate me! enjoy your stay on this site and let it be long! RPM

thanks for the update!! i'll keep you both in my prayers! RPM

given the length of time of secrecy.. you're in a major bind. here are my thoughts 1- you can't come out to her alone.. the odds of you comming off wrong is too high and the risk for damage is great. 2-she can be open to you wearing heels as a principal.. but not open to the fact you felt you had to hide it from her and never gave her the choice.. major emotional betrayal and she may not get over the betrayal while still being ok with the heel wearing itself! 3-you know her well enough to understand her views on betrayal. 4-get a professional you trust to help set you up in the right path to tell her. also.. this person could help her ease into the news and optimize your chance of salvaging your relationship.. she needs to see it as you being more honest than ever.. instead of you betraying her with a massive lie. 5- you had 19 years heads up to get ready for this day.. don't expect her to get it in a few conversations.. or even a few months. it's a major life adjustment for her. she's going to have tons of questions.. let alone analyze the whole relationship to find out if it was real or a lie. 6-how important is it to you that you wear your heels around her? based on that.. will help you open up in a way most appropriate to her. are you telling her to let her know for the sake of you not lying to her or are you telling her because you're going to now openly cross dress.. 7- there are many other variables in this equation.. she's getting the short end of the stick, no matter which way you look at it. sure you're in a bind, but she's in a bind and doesn't konw it and when she finds out, she's going to be in a panic state (to put it mildly) and you've got to be prepared for whatever her reaction is going to be. (from being cool and staying that way.. to being flat out destructively upset and out of control) 8- i can't offer you any advice on how to handle this. i'm not in your shoes. and i've made it clear to my lady well before we hooked up that i loved seein her in heels and the taller the better. 4 years later... she's toying wiht 5 inch. if it was me.. within the year of her knowing she'd be up to 6 inch.. but that is only dream land. who knows if my lady will ever get comfy with 5 inch or even move up to 6 inch.. she wasn't a heeler when I met her. i just love her that much more for making the effort. it's an ongoing process. sure it kills me that friends dont' mind modeling in 5+ inch for me but my lady won't easily do it. but she's only had 4 years to get used to it (some folks take a long time to grow into something). but it's her choice. i respect her ability to hold her ground and be true to herself. i rather that than a gal give in and wear 6 inch for me and resent me. best of luck to you!!!! keep us posted RPM

at the time i saw the clips on t.v. they made it sound like a miraculous thing for ladies. there is a risk for all injections.. and if injected deep.. yeah.. it's a real issue!! i've also heard of collagen injection too.. for the short-term benefit for heelers who have an event or two to go to that requires heels. last about a week before the body removes it. either way.. too risky for my blood! RPM

welcome aboard.. what a lovely duo you two make. glad you're with us. i run my own forum and have wished my lady would join in. she doesn't see the point in disccussing heels with anyone other than her girlfriends. but she's understanding of my passion. (though I don't wear heels) either way.. glad you're here. as shrimper said.. many have accepted our fate in life. my lady will wear heels on her terms (nowhere nearly enough) and i've accepted that. she models rarely for my site.. which i've accepted. but she's the love of my life and i feel the warmth that Gary must feel.. to share his passion with you!! and so.. make yourself at home.. RPM

glad you're posting.. some nice shoes the lady has! RPM

i thought i had a lot of celeb pics on my site.. this place is loaded!

odd as the angle may be.. i like it.. why? shows off the legs in an angle not often used. really nice job with that! welcome aboard buddy!!! thanks for sharing the pic.. but to keep all of us please.. don't hesitate to post another from a diff angle. RPM