RPMindy

welcome aboard high priestess of heels!! glad to have you in our midst!!! look forward to your contributions here! 250 plus pairs.. now that is a collection i'd be envious to get for my lady!!! one day.. one day!!!! i'll check your group out...

Firstly, welcome aboard Poppi!!! I must commend you on the desire to make your hubby happy. That is a wondeful thing. In addition to all the posts here, i'll just rephrase what I just said. I"m glad you made the choice for yourself to go into higher heelings, with one of the benefits being your hubby is happy and you're happy that he's happy. You were given tons of wonderful advice. I won't repeat them. Practice is the mother of all learning. I like to believe that paying attention as you practice so you can learn from your choices is the mother of all learning. look for what shoes fit better, what shoes are more comfy, what about the shoe makes it more comfy and more wearable. find out which heels lets you go the longest in them. then.. fine tune your shoping to what works. for my lady... i know what works and i stick to that when i get her heels. she's progressed up to the occassional 5 inch. she's thinking about going above, but isn't sure yet. i'm not pushing either. i'm just supporting her amazing progress. i'm also a strong believer in physical conditioning. heels put stress on your body. but the better in shape you are, the better your body handles the stress.. .plus. the more flexible you are, the easier it is to handle heels (ankle strength and flexibility being of emphasis) I wish you much success with your heeling adventures. from what i've heard from the gals on my site, it's an adventure and you climb your way up. as your legs get stronger, you can go higher. but each woman has her own vertical limit and should never be pushed to exceed it. you've already hit 5 inch.. sounds to me like you're a natural (some women are gifted that way). enjoy your blessings. I look forward to chatting more with you here. and if your hubby reads this.. man.. you're one lucky bastard!!! and I say this in all kindness!!! you're one lucky fella to have a lady who wants to go high heeling for you to enjoy!!!!!!! and it's her choice at that!!!!!!!!! You have no idea how many fellas i hear on my site who wish they were so fortunate!!!! RPM p.s. Poppi, make yourself at home!

that is what I call sweet dreams!!!!!!!! can't wait to see and hear more details about the footwear!!! how tall are the Red or Dead sandals.. the pic doesn't show them that high. RPM

Susan, to your closing question, you're right. Great clear post. I don't have more to comment.. especially after Guy N Heels said what he said. RPM

hummm.... I love seeing my lady in heels.. that goes without saying.. however.. she's mentioned plenty of times she enjoys watching me walk away for very similar reasons that Mrsheels enjoys it too.. but in my case.. i don't have the heels on. at first.. didn't know what to think.. but am glad she likes to see something about me!!!!! from what she told me.. she now likes the fact I like her feet/heels.. because I'm also very attentive to everything else.. all the other guys she dated who liked something else weren't as sensitive and were too focused on just what the liked. RPM MrsHeels.. just like I think your hubby is lucky to have you... I feel lucky to have my lady!

indeed cool finds

i'll check that out soon! now you've piqued my interest

the distinction of Western women here is fascinating.. never really thought too much about how other cultures have their gait and how it differs between men and women.. fascinating. RPM

thanks! my next challenge.. in the new trends of wedges and plats coming out.. picking something she likes visually and also is comfy. i'm getting there. RPM

i've met one fella who took it beyond just the appearance and also one gal who did.. it's like to her.. she steps into the role with her heels... and becomes more dominant in behavior with her heels. to him.. high heeled gals were treated automatically as more submissive even if they weren't. to him.. only submissive women wore heels..and he truely believed that. hence why i said that to me the distinction stopped at the appearance. ur one funny lady Guy N Heels RPM

Jim, thanks for the explanation. I think you hit a great mix.. I would love to have that luxury of a pair of heels my lady would wear around the house that tall. i almost envie your situation!!!!! in more ways than one!!!! reason why I said border... more scuff.. more wear.... verge on material breaking.. then the cumulative wear almost looks abusive (but not in the negative connotation). but... well seasoned heels have so much memories and great use. the use you've described suits me well!!!! if you got a shot of those with hose.. i'd love it!!!!! but if not.. thank your wife for modeling them anyway!!! RPM p.s. i do like the seasoned heels my lady has and sometimes encourage her to pull them out!

very nice... though i like tight fitting boots.. thanks to that skirt.. those boots go perfect!!! RPM

it's been a while since i've posted pics..

so.. a few i did recently.

RPM

p.s if too big.. i'll just set them as thumbnails....

i bet your GF will be surprised to find that the wobble is more linked to ankle strength than the hip... although a wider hip makes it easier to experience an 'outsided' wobble!!! RPM

of the many threads here.. the consensus here and elsewhere is that once you clear 3 inch.. you're now into the high heel area! most will not argue that 4 inch is not a high heel. fetish heels are now being seen in the 5 inch area whereas a few years ago.. you had to be 6 inch to get the fetish distinction. sadly.. the information age has also produced more 'dummies'. and in that regards.. plats are now considered high heels. ex.. 2 inch plat with 4 inch heel is considered a high heel although by definition.. that is a two inch rise and hence a low heel. a 1 inch plat with 4 inch heel is also considered high.. although the actual rise is 3 inch.. and that is the border of mid to high heel. though young in age... i'm old school. a high heel is 4+ inch including subtraction of the platform height. fetish heels are 6+ inch. but enough said. RPM

i've posted an entry in another topic on choosing comfy heels. my lady started wearing heels when i was able to show her that she won't have to totally forgo her comfort. it was a long patient process of loving encouragement (and realizing that being pushy subconciously doesn't work either) and picking heels that she found very comfy. the bottom line.. the day I told her that i'd be just as happy with her if she went back to flats as if she went to 6 inch.. made a big difference for her. she was less guarded that i was trying to change her. she's gone up to 5 inch totally on her own (she never tried it when i bought it.. but bought one on her own and wears it for herself.... meaning i've not yet seen her do it) forcing.. locking a gal into heels.. never works in my opinion. my lady's love of high heels grew on her own time for herself. she wears them when she's in the mood. i dont' press the issue.. i no longer make a big deal when i hear she wears heels for herself but not me. i embrace her for who she is.. and that to me has had the biggest success. she now has many many pairs of heels.. the tallest ones now being purchased by her whereas the more every day wear and lower ones being purchased by me. she's happy. and i'm happy because now she has a wide collection and can vary as she feels like it.. and i love her collection.. they're very sexy!!! a win-win situation. (different than my vision of 5 and 6 inch, but sure beats 3 inch and less also!!! and far more stylish now!!!!) RPM p.s. she tends to wear 4 to 5 inch now.. and the greatest joy is when i get her a pair and she'll say.. "huh... not as tall as i wanted.. but cute!".. and the next week.. she gets one that is tall enough!!!!!!!!

My new girlfriend is enjoying my shoe fetish (heels on her, that is) but seems to like me picking them out. On the other hand, I want to get her shoes that are comfortable for her. Are there any brands that you women find are more wearable than others? ... more comfortable, or better-made?

My lady also enjoys me picking out her shoes and buying them for her. as long as I don't try to influence too much how often she wears them.

but she has told me that i tend to pick very comfy heels for her.

I look at many factors beyond brand to pick a comfy heel for her. (and i've only twice not hit a comfy shoe)

I look at the material.. does it have some give, but not too much give.

I look at the at the stiffness of the heel and sole of the shoe. I want a flexible sole at the front with padding inside the shoe.. and i want a much much stiffer arch support and a heel that doesn't wobble under pressure!!! (that is realy critical for her longer wear)

I look at how much toe-cleavage there is... the more cleavage, the less support for the toes.. the more pressure on the toes

i look at the toebox shape.. the more closely it resembles the shape of her feet (bear withe me here).. the better it is. she likes pointy shoes.. but not all pointy shoes are pointy the same way. some are pointy favoring the big toe.. others are pointy favoring the middle toe. given her foot shape.. i need one that favors the big toe.

I know she's a bit flat footed.. and i look for a shoe that has a bit of an arch built into the shape of the middle of the shoe.. i find that those are more comfy for her and she feels more confident in them.

for 'open' shoes (beit open side.. open toe.. open back... ex slings).. i make sure the shoe isn't going to be biggish on her so that her foot fits snugglly.

lastly.. the inside sole.. is it padded.. gel or foam..and how extensive is the padding.. does it go into the toebox or stops short.. in the toebox.. is there a 'print' of a foot or not. (the 'print' helps her foot not slide forward into the toebox and hence less toe squeeze).

when i stick to those things.. i've got a 90% plus chance of her loving them no matter the height of the heel. when i miss a point in the list.. she finds that they get uncomfy rather quickly (meaning after a few hours with them on) i've gotten good enough.. and she's bragged enough.. some of her friends want me to help them shop for shoes.

took a while to get this good.. and i've got a long way to go to be really good at picking heels for her. (same rules apply to her flats too)

but either way, she loves it when i pick out shoes for her and she tends to wear mines more than the ones she gets. but now.. she's buying hers along a similar criterion and is steady increasing the heel height she's wearing.. and that makes me super happy!!!

RPM

p.s. hope this really helps. and yes.. many of the brands suggested to you do carry shoes that fit the bill. ChineseLaundry, Steve Madden, BCBGirls, Aldo,Apostrophe,Guess just to name a few

i've got so much bio under my belt.. i hate to look into it to comment here.. great long thread. men and women... equally conditioned will do equally well in heels. there are a few anatomical differences that can't be argued or adjusted for, but they dont' bear impact on the ability to wear heels. men and women have a difference in their pelvis that affects the angle to the ground their feet makes.. which can impact the planting of a heeled foot to the ground. but that effect only affects how the stride looks. Men tend to walk more from their shoulders (higher center of gravity) and women more from the hip(lower center of gravity). that difference in walking style can easily be adjusted with a little training to eliminate that difference. weight only plays a factor in endurance in the high heels. the more you weight, the more pressure on the various joints and surfaces of your foot in the heels. that can be easily be accounted for in study.. get a man and a woman of the same weight. bottom line.. as funny or weird as the study was... men and women with equal exposure and experience in heels will perform about the same. it's the social conditioning that makes the biggest difference!!! no.. i don't wear heels.. but i've won a bet and outperformed a seasoned heeler. i've worn heels twice to please my lady. i still don't call myself a heeler or one who knows much about walking in heels.. but i understand how my body works and apply that knowledge to walk reasonably in heels (up to 5 inch.. haven't tried taller) my point of view.. RPM

i've not commented before. women in heels tend to appear more dominant and more powerful to me than women who don't wear heels. but the amount is not very much. sexy women are more dominant in appears to me also however.. the appearance and actually being dominant is two different seperate things that i've not linked nor want to link. the only time a woman in heels looks more submissive is when her ability to walk about is highly restrained and limited (as in a woman in heels much taller than her ability). granted i would love to see a lot more women in 6 inch (not realistic at all)... that image can be very dominant looking and very powerful looking with the right outfit with it. bottom line.. the more comfy you look in your heels.. the more you look dominant compared to one who isn't.. who looks submissive. to me.. the distinction stops at the appearance level. RPM

A lot of girls don't like skirts or heels and only wear them to get a boyfriend. But I wonder how many girls tell their boyfriends that they don't intend to wear skirts or heels when they are married ?!

that here.. you touched on a topic many of the guys I knew who got married well before me are now facing.. they married women that looked like barbie and always dressed up when going out.. but once married (bait n swich idea) the sexy outfits are gone!!! especially now that kids are starting to come.

these guys are very very frustrated. why? they had no idea.. and don't want to speak up too much for fear of being reproached for being too shallow.

many of my close friends who are dating women who always look super hot on dates... often wonder if that is going to last at all. i've told those guys in the past.. they need to learn to adjust because getting bent out of shape over her lack of skirts and heels won't help their relationship.. there is more to that then the exterior. some took the advice and worked it out.. those who didn't.. well... they're either single now or unhappy in a marriage that is falling apart because they're hung on the look.

back on topic.... honesty is always key from the start.. but... in the event that didn't happen..... one has to really think hard about where they want to end up and the big picture. skirted-uk raises some very good points of wisdom. i much rather marry my woman and be happy than fight over how often she will wear heels, skirts, or not. (in my case.. she wants me to at times try heels around the house for picture sake and laughs sake.. i don't see the point nor am intetersted... but... for her enjoyment.. i'll try...i like making her happy)

flexibility is key from both parties.. to the one who hasn't told his wife yet.... keep ups updated.... and hope that skirted-uk's points helped a lot!!!

RPM

you're so right... what i thought was pursuasion (which worked well with other women in my life) was taken as pressure by her and she wasn't comfortable with it. now that i've changed my approach and embrace her as she is... she's now doing more heels and taller heels. i wrote my long essay to help enlighten anyone who felt like they were being nice and found out they weren't. RPM

I like your comments and how you expressed yourself Susan. the topic of permancy in heels is not one I find too appealing... reason being is that it puts undue pressure on the woman if she's doing it for him. but before i finish that thought.. a bit more about me I've always enjoyed seeing women in heels.. grew up around women who wore heels at most dressed up events I went to with my folks. While dating my fiance.. i wasn't aware of how much pressure i was putting on her to wear taller heels more frequently. i always thought i was a very understanding and agreeable nice guy. and i wasn't taking a hint well either. took a lot of growing up to realize that though i don't have a fetish in the classical terms.. i can behave as such. my lady is now wearing taller heels more often.. but on her terms her way. i've learned to let go my wants and desire to let her be her on the topic of heels. what made the change? after hearing other women express what kinds of pressure they were getting from their mates.. and reading on this forum how much fellas wanted that permanency or higher more regular heeling.. and seeing women's thoughts on it.. i've started examining myself. i don't want a permanently heeled woman (and i've expressed myself all too well on that). what i came to realize.. there is a difference between what I want and sharing with my lady.. and insisting she does as i say. it was a tough pill for me to swallow.. learning that i wanted her to wear the heels as a show of her appreciation for all the good stuff i did for her was a hard hard pill to swallow and hard to let go the habbit of feeling this way. i share this for one reason.. a lot of times.. well meaning standup guys can be harmful to their mate and never realize it. i had no clue how much i was pressuring her until one day in tears she asked me to look into myself to understand my motives. she didn't say anything about heeling.. just asked me to examine my motives for encouraging the things i do and want her to change. i took a few days.. and really came to grips with myself and made a change in me for what i hope is the better. today.. i don't pressure her to wear heels and she's not shown me any signs that i do either.. she seems so much happier now and more content. she's more willing to wear heels now... but on her terms and for herself when she wants to. if i'm there to enjoy the view.. great... if i'm not.. there is a next time. whereas earlier i was pushing her to wear her heels.. now i'm more considerate of her and tend to remind her to bring her flats when she has a long day.. something that makes her smile and thank me for being thoughtful... may not sound like much.. but the nature of her smile is one like when we first hoooked up.. and i like that! it's not about me the heeling.. i'm just a bistander watching. she wears her heels for herself. she changed for herself. not me. by learning to respect that.. i'm more at ease with myself and better appreicate when she does wear heels. i really didn't understand how subtly i was pressuring her.. it could have gone for years and she'd tire of me. i had no idea i was hurting her like that.. because i thought i was a very nice guy who was very helpful. today.. when she asks me to buy her a pair of heels.. i look hard for what i know she likes and buy it for her.. instead of what i like. and that has made so much a difference in her acceptance of me wanting to see her in heels. because now.. she feels i put her needs first and value her thoughts. to her.. that made all the difference from wearing heels a few times to be cute and starting to wish she didn't.. to now.. she does it because she wants to and i like her with and without her heels.. the same. my post is long.. sorry.. but i do type a bit fast and loose track of how long a post is. but i shared a lot of my personal self with one goal in mind.. not all guys are jerks (no one said anything about that prior either)..some guys through ignorance or just lack of introspection can behave as jerks and never realize it and hurt someoone they love. and by learning not to pressure my lady to do what i want.. i've seen (and this may not be duplicable) her interst in heels rise significantly and her average heel height has gone up farther than i expected.. with her top end heel height taller than I thought i'd ever see... although the frequency of wear is the same. but i'm cool with that now!!! thanks all for reading my novel. RPM

i'll be watching this thread with some interest to see how it meanders about. while our society seems to keep hold of double standards, as chris pointed out, when it comes to fashion and relationships.. that double standard can cause some serious strains. brief example... women can comment on what her man is wearing and have great influence on his final choice of clothing (some actually outright buy the clothes their mate are to wear). the reverse would be highly frowned apon and meet tremedous social resistance. i'm not going to say i'm generalizing or being specific in my example. i don't think that example is a good one in anyway shape or form. but it is an example of where negotiations get sticky betweem men and women (and not limited to fashion either). bottom line.. no one can make anyone do what they don't want to do.. nor make them feel what they don't want to feel. the stronger the person is and more able that person is on holding their ground, the more they can inadvertently ruffle feathers of those around them. I'll be back..time is pressing me.. but i'll be watching this thread. RPM p.s. Susan... i'm open to hear more about your heeling permanency if you're game (via pm's)

technically.. wouldn't the wobble (not the slight sexy flirting one.. but the just wobble for the sake of wobbling) be more an indicator of ankle strength? gals that I know have strong ankles (mostly from sports) don't wobble at all. very stable steps in some super tall heels. the ones who don't appear to have any physical activity in their lives.. they wobble more and usually badly enough to not be sexy at all.. and tend to complain a whole lot of discomfort and hatred of heels!!!!! that is my observation. i do like a slight seductive playful wobble when the gal is being cute and coy..... and you can tell when she's doing that.. because chance are good.. she's flirting with you and wants you to know it!!!!!!!! (or just stepped on a pebble and is playing it off) other than that.. it's no good. Bondgirl.. if you're needing a reason to go into taller heels.. here is one... we'd like to see it on this forum!!! RPM

for those who don't like toe-cleavage.. i've seen a few ads for pumps where there is so much coverage.. there is no 'accidental' chance of seeing any toe-cleavage. i understand the need for support. but visually.. too much isn't as appealing either.. a balance between no support and too much is needed. but fashion is ever changing.. so... one day.. extreme toe-cleavage may come back RPM