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Hi Micha, Sorry to hear about your diabities. Hopefully through diet and medicines you are able to reduce the effects of it. I think what Firefox meant wasn't that only if your perfectly healthy can you wear heels, but rather if you are good at what you do and get things down (in other words, a very productive worker), then you will be judged by your work. If you slack off or aren't very good at what you do, then they might look for any reason to get rid of you and heels would just be another reason they could try (he is very strange and very distractive, etc). Scotty

Firefox, You are exactly right. I am highly regarded within my company and the customer site because I get things done right quickly. I might be looked at strangely if I weren't very good at what I do. Also since I am a programmer and people things we are odd types anyway I am sure things like wearing heels are also over looked. Scotty

Micha, Pounding the table would probably be the fastest way to divorce court. I think Shyguy is going about things right by going S-L-O-W. I do hope he can convince her to keep them. All this trouble just to send them back sounds silly. Scotty

Apparently she MAKES these and her previous "creation" got ALOT of bid.

http://cgi.ebay.com/ws/eBayISAPI.dll?ViewItem&category=1469&item=4163764707

Scotty

To all you shy guys out there that need encouragement to wear your heels in public: I work for a VERY large company (probably most of you would have heard of my company) as a computer programmer/consultant in the Washington DC area. My clients are DoD (Department of Defenese, i.e. military). As a result, I work on a military base with government employees and military personnel. As you could imagine, my work environment is probably one of the more "tense" as far as fearing being "different". When I first started at this new client a few months ago, I was afraid to wear anything too "wild" and dressed "conservatively" although some of you would find that wild too. I am in an office with 5 other guys and 1 woman (no walls so everyone can see everyone else). I stared off wearing 2" block heeled shoes. In the meantime, alot of you know I have been working on perfecting hidden inserts. I recently perfected them and have been effectly wearing 3" heels to work. I also have 3" block shoes at home and on the weekends have been wearing them out shopping with the hidden inserts so effectly wearing 4" heels. Last Thursday I wore long pants and decided to try to wear the 3" heels to work with the inserts. I was so nervous someone would notice or say something. No one said a word. I've even realized sometimes while sitting my pants ride up high enough you can see the whole shoe! Even the woman in the office who would probably notice such things (she sits directly across from me) and never said a word. Now the guys (and girl) in this group are known for jokingly picking on each other, so I am sure they would have ribbed me about it if they thought it was strange. Since that went well, I decided to just keep on wearing them and have been wearing the same shoes for a week now. Not one person, co-workers, clients, guards, etc have said 1 word negative about me wearing 3" block heels! For all you shy guys out there, try getting some 2" or 3" block heels and wear them out shopping and see if you don't experience the same positives I have. It is VERY liberating and alot of fun. I also noticed I work and feel better at work because I am more relaxed and feel better about myself when I am wearing them. Hopefully this encourages others to try getting out in heels! Good luck, Scotty

Hi Daz, I agree with you about telling them right up front as I did with my wife, but since Zepan is already married, I think it is important for him to go slow. I agree about not being ashamed. Since I just told my sister-in-law as a "matter of factly" that I just like wearing heels and showed her the ones I was wearing, she agreed they looked unisex and looked good. If I were nervous as if I was doing wrong, she would have reacted negatively. Scotty

All,

I need help with two pairs of shoes in the "opposite" direction.

I got these a while ago and they are too big. I've already worn them out a few times and I doubt I could return them. I have tried putting pads in them under the foot and also behind the heel with limited success. Anyone know how to "shrink" a shoe?

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On the other hand, we got these for my wife and they are slightly too small. She normally wears a 6.5 and they only come in whole sizes. We got the 6 figuring they would stretch. I've tried over the counter shoe stretcher with limited success. Any idea?

Thanks,

Scotty

Daz, I might just be remembering your story and relaying it. I didn't have to do that one but I remembered reading someone here doing just that. Scotty

Primarily I like wearing heels (block heels in public), but when I can't wear block heels, I do wear women's sandals which have more of a wedge platform. To me, men's shoes are drab and boring. They just look big/boxy and boring. I guess the comparison between mens and womens shoes are like the difference between a boxy station wagon vs a sexy sleek sports car. Which would you rather drive? Scotty

Years ago when I first started buying/wearing heels, only wore pumps inside the house/bedroom. It was purley sexual (or atleast I thought it was). I then realized that I just like the way my foot feels when it is at an angle and wore them more and more as much as I could get away with (around the house, driving, etc). Once I found this website and got encouranged to wear heels outside, I started wearing more "discrete" heels in public and found I like wearing them the way someone else might wear a leather jacket. Now I pretty much now wear block heels during the day for the way it feels, and reserve the pumps for more "private" moments Scotty

Zepan, I would caution you to go slow but you definitely need to tell her. I am lucky in that I told my wife when we were still dating and after 18 years of knowing each other (14 married) it still causes some tension every now and then even after that much time. You know her best and can judge her moods. One suggestion someone else mention that I like is to just start talking about the topic of heels and inquire how they feel and how hard it is to walk in them and stuff. Just say you don't kow why women always complain about wearing them. If she seems open, try to "bet" her that you could probably in them, it can't be that "hard". If she goes for it, then you have an opening. Good luck regardless, Scotty

For those in the USA (I think the contest is only for those in the USA),

Coke is starting a new contest today. Basically, you buy packs of cans of coke and hidden in special boxes there is a GPS/Cell Phone made to look like a coke can. If you find one of these "special cans" you use it to call a preprogrammed 1-800 number. Once the can is activated, you must carry it until they come and "find" you (thus the GPS unit). Apparently they can show up "anytime/anywhere" within 3 weeks. You must have the can with you at ALL times.

I think it would be so cool if one of us won it! Perhaps they could catch ya street heeling

Anyway, I guess once someone activates a can you can also track them from their website. The url is http://www.unexpectedsummer.com.

Good luck!

Scotty

Firefox, You are so right. When I told my sister-in-law about wearing heels, I just showed her my shoe and said "Yeah, I like wearing high heels". Since I didn't sound like I was doing anything wrong or seeking her approval, she just said "Oh, ok, they actually look unisex. If you didn't say anything I wouldn't have even noticed". If instead I acted all nervous she probably would have acted negative too. Attitude is everything:) Scotty

When you get them, just ask her if you can keep them instead of sending them back and that you will ONLY wear them now and then. I agree, the trouble of getting them and mailing them back isn't worth the effort. Good Luck, Scotty

Dawn,

Actually I made that sound more "couragous" than it actually was. First of all, the sandal I got was more like the typical type of sandal you see people wearing in the summer. It's a leather sandal (or leather-like since walmart is selling it ). It basically has a wedge heel, slightly higher in the back than in the front, but if they were flat they would be men's sandals.

It was more riske' for me though because 1) it was a woman's sandal 2) I had to remove my 3" heels to put them on, therefore showing anyone looking that I was wearing a woman's shoe and putting on another woman's show.

I did kinda cheat in that my wife was looking at kids shoes and I went, got them, brought them back and tried them on where she was. It was a good thing too. I originally got a 10 1/2 and found it was too small, so I went back and took my time and looked more carefully and got a size 11. Imagine how silly I would have felt if I got home and found they didn't fit!

Even though they aren't what we all would find "high" (maybe a 2" heel, 1 inch toe), I do plan on wearing them with shorts this summer! I did wear them back out later today and rolled my jeans up so you could see the entire shoe. Not one person looked or said anything.

Scotty

PS: The heel looks something like this, except it has more straps and no bow-string.

Well, this weekend has been the BEST! I got two more pairs of shoes from ebay, the ones listed above and these:

My wife and sister-in-law helped me look and pick BOTH pair out! I should have told my sister-in-law a long time ago, she thinks they look perfectly normal. My wife now even is relaxed about me wearing heels. I wore my 3" with the lift in them shopping today. Normally my wife goes nuts if you can see any heel. I wore jeans that you could clearly see the entire heel and she didn't say a word. My sister-in-law was with us and didn't think anything of it either.

We went to Wal-Mart and while there I bought a new pair of women's wedge sandals (not strappy sandals, more like normal summer sandals except the heels IS slightly higher). I even tried them on! My sister-in-law said they looked nice when I did

I think things are really turning around for me now, I am so happy

I guess it shows what happens when you just have patience.

Scotty

Hey Bubba, Actually I am just guessing her reasons for wanting them, I have no idea. My thing is I don't really care why, she wanted a pair and I made them. Plus it gave me a way to bring up my heel wearing to her so it all worked out. I am sure she has her reasons for wanting them Scotty

I said this in other posts.

ALWAYS tell your significant other FIRST (unless you are currently single, then I would say a trusted member of your family or best friend).

You seem to be on the right track Mickey. Good luck!

Scotty

Mickey,

I knew my wife for 18 yrs, married 14 years. My heel desire has been a secret all this time (except for my wife who I told when we met). I have only been wearing heels out since September of last year. Go SLOW! You will get there.

Scotty

PS: Here are the shoes I just bought on Ebay. My sister-in-law didn't think they were strange at all and thought they were fine!

Hi All, I have some great news:) Remember how I have been wanting to tell my sister-in-law about wearing heels? Well, as I posted in the modification thread, I made her a heel lift. Well she is staying with us this weekend and she brought her lift with her. Her question was that with the shoe she tried it with, it lifts her heel out completely of the shoe and wears more like a mule. I told her my shoe was a higher back part so the heel of my foot still goes inside the shoe. Well, she said she would have to see how my shoe was. When I showed her (I had on my 3inch shoe/boots at the time) and she said "Oh I see, you have a higher heel than the one I have too". When I said "Yeah, actually I like wearing higher heels. These are actually womens since they don't make mens like this" she just said "Really? They look unisex to me!". I then told her these are 3" and with the insert they are 4", she said wow, that would be perfect. Now she is nterested in getting the same shoes I have So, I went a little more daring and told her about my boots and another pair of shoes I was bidding online. The only comment she made was the ones online (which are 4") was that I won't need the inserts with those ones. But she is completely OK with it, not a flinch at all:) When I told my wife what she said about my shoes she seems to have relaxed and said oh, ok. Anyway, now I don't have to hide my heels from her and I think she would probably help me shop for them too The only thing I think I am going to do is stop wearing stilletos/pumps completely for a while (even when alone with my wife) since things seem to be going great now with the chunky heel wearing. It seems like everyone is starting to accept that now Scotty

Hi Heelfan, Yes I can. Since they are both short, they can look "taller" by wearing a heel and looking taller;) Plus they can reuse their current footware which doesn't have a high heel and gain some more height out of it. Scotty

All,

I am "kinda" back. Please read this topic.

Scotty

Heelfan, Great collection! And you look great wearing them too! Scotty

All, Although still kinda taking a break, I am "sorta" back and would like to pass on a few things that I think would help others avoid some of the problems/issues I have encountered. I think there have been several things going on with me and my relationship going on with my wife and I think it is important to share some of this with you all to perhaps help you with your mates. First of all, my daily wearing of chunky heels I don't think she has a major problem wtih as long as I keep it descrete by wearing non-obvious heels and long pants. Where I think I started making her feel uncomfortable is when I have been recently "pushing" the limit, wearing pumps (courts) and my new chunky pumps in public. The main one that set it off was my suggestion I wear the chunky pumps to the store the other night to go shopping. I never stopped to realize maybe I was pushing her too far too fast. I have agreed to stick to wearing only chunky heels in public and descretely and she seems to be ok with that. The other "part" of the equation is what I wear around the house. For the last 3 years I have been "living" in a hotel room during the week and wore my pumps when in the hotel room (even to sleep in). Well I am not back home and not living in a hotel room. Since I had gotten very use to wearing heels, I started wearing them around the house and in bed. I think this made her VERY uncomfortable and also raised concerns about what if our daughters got up and saw me in pumps. Chunky heels is one thing, pumps is another. So I again agreed to not wear pumps casually around the house. I think when I am alone (in the car, if they are gone, etc) I am probably ok with it, she just worries about others seeing me in them. Again, I have to respect her feelings in this. The last part deals more with intimacy. Pumps turn me on sexually, I am sure alot of guys (maybe women) feel the same. My wife tends to be more on the quiet side where I am more agressive. So, for YEARS now, I have been wearing my heels and asking her to wear heels during sex. She has always said yes. Well, after talking with her and LISTENING to hear, I realized that she isn't as turned on by heels as I am, especially when I am wearing them. I am sure it probably makes her feel like she is with someone gay or a woman. So once again, we agreed we would limit the heel wearing during sex to "occasionally" vs "always". I think these things will make her feel ALOT more comfortable with things and make us both happier. Guys, I encourage you to make sure you consult your "significant others" feelings and even if you get a quiet "its ok" make sure they are REALLY ok with things. As Gene pointed out, it is VERY important you respect their feelings in this whole matter and not get so wrapped up in your own. I will probably post here now and then, BUT, I need to be more careful in not getting caught up with the "hey, guess what I did" where I keep pushing further and further just so I can come here and post "I DID IT". I think that is what lead me down that path. Thanks for listening, I hope all this helps others. Scotty

All, I am going to take a break from the site and take time to reflect and gain perspective on things. My wife and I had a major blowup lastnight, and once we both finally settled down, it became clear that while I have been caught up in pushing my limits further and further whith my street heeling, I stopped thinking about that my wife, although supportive of me wearing them, it's really big on a man wearing heels 100% of the time. While I plan to stop posting for a while, I will stop by occasionally and read some of the posts. Also while I do plan on continuing heeling as much as possible, I need to spend less time in them while around my wife. Thanks for everyones input and I wish you all well. Take care, Scotty