Iwearheels

Just wanted to thank everyone for sharing there thoughts and ideas on my situation. I have been thinking heavily the last few days on what everyone has shared with me. It is in my best interest to shy away from life in heels. I have alot to lose. If I were to be found out, much would be lost. I am not willing to take that kind of risk. I know I will never be accepted by my wife, family, or in the community where I live. If they knew I wore heels, I would be labeled some sick freak homosexual and theres nothing I could do to change that. I am not gay. You all have helped me to understand that many other straight guys like me also wear heels. The more I read on this forum, the more I want to wear heels, and that is not healthy for me since it leads me deeper and deeper. So, the best thing for me to do is to back away. Nobody on here has offended me in anyway, and have given heartfelt advice. This will be my last post. I will read respones for the next few days, but that will be the end of it for me. Best wishes to everyone on the forum.

I get the message that everyone is trying to tell me. I dont want to ruin my family. I dont want to be unhappy all the time either. I wish I could forever purge be a normal guy. The family is more important. I am happy being a man, and do not want to live as a woman. I like and enjoy wearing high heels. I dont desire to dress out in public. For these reasons, I keep my heeling very low key. Right now, I only own one pair. They are well concealed. It is not impossible for her to find out, but very unlikely. I dont think I am being a dishonest person, as I have never cheated on her or even considered it. I have had the opportunity. If she ever finds out, I will deal with it then. If she really loves me, she will stay and we will work thru it. For now, I am content to keep things the way they are. It can be deppressing sometimes, but nothing I cant live with. Life is not always fair. I accept that.

South East, US

I think it is a mistake to think that it is an unworkable situation you are in. I have explained it elsewhere elaborately how I do it, but in a nutshell we agreed with my wife that I will not expose her to me wearing heels. I'm only a little older than you are and have been married happily for the better part of a decade.

I wear heels often, with no trouble, no self esteem issues. I'm aware of what she thinks of it, and I respect her request. I'm aware of what the world thinks of it, but I live it out and that is that.

Are you in the Northeast?

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She does not accept me wearing any kind of womens shoes. For this reason, I just keep it low key and only keep around a few pairs of heels that I like to enjoy when the occasion arises when she is not around for a while. My sitiuation is probably unhealthy, but I am not dishonest to her in anyother way. I have no other choice right now.

Thanks for sharing. With my situation, opening up to her is not an option. I would love to be able to though. She is the type of person that could not and want accept this.

I have been down that road, getting rid of my heel collection a couple of times only to find that it was a costly and regrettable mistake. It takes ages to rebuild a collection and I miss some of the heels I got rid of because as I can no longer find them any more.

I remember confessing my passion for heels to my wife after reading posts here at hhplace. I was dreading telling her because I didn't want to hurt her and was worried that it would ruin our marriage and also that she'd think I was a freak.

When I sat down and told her, she had already kind of guessed that I had a thing for heels and was happy to accept it providing it was kept private and away from the children. During my chat with her I told her about hhplace and how it had helped me to realise that I needed to be open with her about my collection. We even sat and looked at a few posts on this forum and this was definitely helpful as it helped her to understand that I wasn't the only guy out there who had a thing for wearing heels.

Telling the wife was a hard thing to do, but having read posts here, it helped me realise that by not telling her I was being deceitful and disloyal.

I understand that for others telling your over half may not be an option, but for me I just couldn't carry on hiding it as I love my wife dearly and didn't want any secrets between us. Telling her was the best thing I ever did.

As I have no desires to heel outside, this never needed to come up in conversation but for others who do have the desire, this may make telling your partner more difficult than it was for me understandably.

However, I have found that the general consensus here at hhplace is to take things one step at a time.

Hope this advice helps.

I just wanted to thank everyone for there advice, it is good to know that your not alone.

I guess I am leading some sort of double life. For now, I will keep trying to enjoy heeling when the opportunity arises. I really dont want to lose her though. I know she will never be a part of this side of me. It would be nice to have a female friend that understands and accepts.

Impossible to ever get her to accept it. I have discretley hinted to her about the subject before. Will have to hide indefinitely. She does not wear heels and does not plan on starting. I have tried different times to get her to wear them with no luck. Im by myself on this one.

Welcome to this forum, Iwearheels :-)

You found a good place where do discuss without beeing judged.

Just be yourself and don't let others judge you.

About your wife, how long are you with her ?

Maybe it is still time to slowly introduce your passion to her

and see how she reacts. It is never to late to tell the truth.

How long will you be able to hide this from her ?

Does your wife wear high heels ? If she does, did you ever

compliment her on her shoes and said to her how good she looks in them ?

Depending on her answer, it may be a good starting point ...

You decide, you are the judge. Is-it worthed ? I wish you good luck.

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Thank you for telling us about yourself. Everything you've said in your post is so much like many of us it's amazing.

You'll find peace. I have, and this place helped immensely.

You'll get it...

How old are you?

Hi to all, new to this forum. First of all, Im a guy. I know that pretty heels and guys dont mix to most of the public, but I cant help myself. I know Im not gay, and Im only attracted to women. I have been torn with this since my childhood. I am a closet dresser and dont really wear heels in public that much. I have successfully on a few occasions. I do not want to live my life as a woman. Wearing heels and skirts are a big turn on for me and I cant help it. The heels more than the skirts. I am married to a woman whom I love very much and do not want to hurt her or our marriage. She does not know that I dress. If she ever found out, it would = instant divorce, so I keep it to myself and never consider coming out to her. After surfing on this forum for a while, guess theres alot more guys out there that suffer from this than one would realize. As a man, I have no feminine features. If anyone ever seen me dressed, they would see a man in a dress and heels. What an ugly sight. I only wear my skirts at home, and sometimes heels in public when I think I can go unnoticed. I have purged many times, but cant help but doing the same old thing again. Where I live, I will never be accepted as that men that crossdress are ridiculed and made fun of. Around here, its ok if women put on a pair of guy shoes, or guy jeans, or guy shirts, but better not be a man wearing anything fem. I wish I could take the desire to dress out of myself and be just like any other normal guy, but I cannot do that. I hope that someday, I will be able to find peace within myself. I am being very honest with everyone about myself and just trying to make sense of all this and do not intend to offend anyone, male or female.

I like your idea, but Im not brave enough to do that in public.

The trick is to wear a skirt with slingbacks.