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    Married father of 3 wears skirts, heels to work because ‘he can’

    in For the guys

    Posted · Edited by jeremy1986

    Just perused his Instagram

    Some nice looks indeed. The one video shows him walking pretty well and naturally in boots (though not as high as his stilettos)

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    Added Sunday 25th:

    The story actually appeared on a news site my wife frequents. I was wondering when she would see it and if she would mention it, or if I'd pick it up with her.

    Anyway, she mentioned it to me last night, showed me a few of the pics (which I have seen of course) and asked if I'd like her to send me the link,I said yes pls. 

    I brought it up with her after. she was on the one hand intrigued (she said she had read the whole article, to try and understand him... And me), but on the other hand seemed like she just wanted to shake it off, as though it was too much for her to contemplate.  She was in a rough mood in general, and wasn't interested in speaking about it more. Pity, but it is what it is.... 

    Even small things like this may have a positive impact, at some point in the future.  who knows.  Maybe negative too 😞

    Me and my girlfriend

    in Your Favourite High Heel Pictures

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    3 minutes ago, MMM said:

    Thank you Jeremy. Hope this loooooong answer doesn’t bore you.

    Indeed, I’m referring to a behavior that touches all aspects of our life... our interests, our needs, and beliefs. I have shared with her this forum and we talked about some struggles a lot of us go through in our relationships. 

    Heeling, understood here as a passion, desire or appreciation of a type of shoes... from just buying them and using indoors to be our main choice of footwear is just one aspect of who we are. Could be our choice of espiritual belief, sport to practice or a craft.

    Its not fair to have any aspect of who we are, that is not destructive, being cut out or thrown in the back burner because its not accepted by someone we choose to share our life (our whole life... not part of us).

    Easier said than done though. The fact the most of us have problems accepting ourselves and specially when comes to heeling, the main stream screams to us that is something wrong... doesn’t make that acceptance easier to accomplish. To deal with this matter in our relationship, first we have to deal with ourselves.

    After two marriages, two kids and 40 years... I first met my girlfriend in a professional setting, and from the start noticed her standings in many topics... politics, religion, race, tolerance, sexuality,... she was obviously not main stream. Very tolerant to differences and empathic to life situations of others, I grew very fond of her, although never expecting anything in return.

    Very early in our relationship I told her I was fond of high heels and enjoyed some closeted crossdressing. She was very excited and asked immediately to se me wearing that stuff... the one thing she took very seriously was to make sure I understood where I really stood in terms of understanding my sexuality.

    And being very sure of what I have interest and what I don’t like gave her total confidence that I was in peace with my feelings and not in denial for example of being gay or bisexual... and she had done in such a sweet way that she said - its not a problem if you are bisexual - I’ll just have to compete with everyone one out there, and I was ready to compete only with half of them... keeping a good sense of humor and being totally honest put me in a very comfortable situation when sharing something so intimate.

    And from that point she became a full supporter and a true partner in everything related to heeling. It was a turbocharge in my own acceptance. We have done amazing things together and now she says that’s not something she is doing for me, but for her. Its part of her life and something that she doesn’t want to go away, but only to grow and be enjoyed without judgment or prejudice.

    Sorry for the long text. I just feel I needed to share after reading so many struggles with most of us and living those struggles for so many years.

    Really hope everyone have a chance to live a life as full as possible!

     

     

    Dont worry - i read it all ;-)

    Thats great that you have this precious relationship, and i hope it continues to grow.

    You are right- i think we all WANT to believe in acceptance of everything, but easier said than done - many of us grew up with certain beliefs, or are parts of communities etc, where things are always easier said than done, and as you say - it started from "home", ie, ourselves. Probably not many have the chance to think and consider themselves and really make decisions or adopt practices  that are true genuine to ourselves.

    Complicated. But it seems to have certainly got there and are reaping the fruits of your labour. Amazing!! Thanks for sharing!

     

     

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    Don't anyone scoff 3 inches....

    in For Everybody

    Posted

    2 minutes ago, at9 said:

    Seeing as men are boasting about size I've been using a pair of 24" screens for many years. So there:-)

    With thin bezels they work almost as a signle ultrawide screen. You can get ultrawide screens but they cost a lot more than my pair. I suppose I could use a single 49" 4K TV but the height on my desk would be ridiculous.

    Same. My pair of 24" have been seeing me well for years. I don't know how one can work with only one screen... Such a time saver having 2...

    Just now, Shyheels said:

    I'm envious - because of space restrictions, I do nearly all my work on a laptop. I could love a nice 27" screen...

    Prices have come tumbling down.  You'ld love it.  

    Asos has size 46 boots if anyone is interested

    in For Everybody

    Posted

    1 hour ago, at9 said:

    From the blurb: "Available in sizes 2-13". Also if they had really meant child sizes then surely adult 1 would have been included. Curious sort order. 1x is often before 2 due to the sort method in use, but here 11, 12,13 are before 2 but 10 is after 9.

    Yeah they messed up the order. But you get the gist. 

    My first public heel adventure

    in For the guys

    Posted

    6 hours ago, balletboot said:

    Thanks!

    When the time comes (not that I think it's going to be soon) I think this is the option I'm going to try and wear around my girlfriend. Either that or the wedge boots I have so you cant see the heel unless your looking for where the sound is coming.

    Remind us what the wedge boots look like (said the wedge lover!)

    Jeremy's heel stories, pictures & thoughts

    in For the guys

    Posted · Edited by jeremy1986

    22 hours ago, Barr said:

    ..They pair well with flare pants (my fav) ...

    My wife actually said to me in the car that night after we shoe shopped, that I should get a pair of boot cut / bell bottom jeans so that I can sit at my desk with the kids seeing right away what kind of shoes I'm wearing.... I think it was a joke though 😅

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    Jeremy's heel stories, pictures & thoughts

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    Posted

    2 hours ago, RonC said:

    Thanks for all those comments Jeremy!  

    Unfortunately for me, age and health issues are causing me to go the other direction.  I am finding anything at about 4" or up is now beyond my comfort limit.  My feet just can't take the pressure on the forefoot, and my ankles are not as flexible as the used to be.  So I enjoy what I can wear.  That said, as I've expressed in the past, to my eye, a heel of greater than 4" holds no real attraction for me.  I do have to say that it seems the vast majority of HHPlace participants seem to like the more extreme heights.  

    Agreed. Somehow so many sky scraper pleasers!!!

    Jeremy's heel stories, pictures & thoughts

    in For the guys

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    On 10/9/2020 at 6:56 AM, Jkrenzer said:

    Wear the shoes, you'll get more responses.

    As for the shoes, yep they are OK. nothing special, not sexy, don't stand out. You wearing them out and about then nice. Otherwise I could be looking at the JC Penny catalog. 

    Model them please.

    I've posted "real wearing" heels pics, and still haven't received much response, in the past.

    Thanks for the blatant honest feedback about the heels though. Really heart warming. 

     

    On 10/9/2020 at 1:30 PM, mlroseplant said:

    I guess it means that neither of us has the celebrity Jeff B. 😆  I have had the same feeling on a number of occasions, that nobody is really reading what I put on my thread.  I tend to write in clusters, where I'll have a lot of thoughts or experiences in a short period of time that I think people will enjoy, and so tend to post a lot all at once. Then the thread will sit idle for weeks.....

    Sorry to take up a good portion of your conversation, Jeremy. Y'all have a good day.

    No worries at all, mate. Looks like we suffer from the same issues sometimes.

     

    On 10/9/2020 at 8:26 PM, RonC said:

    Jeremy, that is a nice story.  I only wish I had told my wife about my desire to heel when we were young.  I believe she would have thought it quite odd, but likely would have lived with it.  But after nearly 50 years of marriage, and health issues, it's just too late to go there now.  Hope you continue to make some progress. 

    I too wonder what my wife would have said if i would have opened up early on. I assume she would have accepted as well, to some degree. You know, love birds and all. But who knows....? 

    On 10/9/2020 at 8:26 PM, RonC said:

    And hey, if she can wear shoes from the male side, should be no problem for you on the female side, right?  lol. 

    Yeah, I tried arguing that at some point (prior to this latest episode when i bought the heels), But she just didn't 'get it'. That's when i realized, that i might probably never "get" her approval, and if I want to heel, i will need to "take" it for myself. Which led me to make those very clear statements when we went back to the shop. It saddened me in a way.... realizing i will probably never have the acceptance i truly want/need.... but it also pushed me to a place of action.  I know many of the bolder members here are scoffing - having "been there and done that" years ago.... But each at his own pace,  and whatever fits, right?

     

    On 10/9/2020 at 8:26 PM, RonC said:

     Also, I think those sandals are quite nice, with an attractive but walkable heel height.  That is a style and height that is in my wheelhouse so to speak.

    Thanks!! Attractive and walkable are musts for me 🙂 

     

    On 10/9/2020 at 8:26 PM, RonC said:

    I read basically every post, though there are a couple folks whose posts I typically skip, but I enjoy hearing about other's experiences and living the vicariously through the posts.  So please guys, keep posting.

    Got it - will try!! I too very much enjoy reading members stories and comments, and try comment back or even just react, whenever possible. 

     

     

     

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