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About blacksmith25

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    Listening ti music, watching videos on youtube, looking for new outfits and heels to put together

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  1. all the advice given is great and I know I haven't been on to check my thread. I have been making some choices and dealing with things to better myself so thank you all for your words of wisdom it all helped alot to get different perspectives on my question
  2. Ilikekicks you sir are a wise man thank you for the words of wisdom
  3. Thanks for all the advice. Ilikekicks I get what your saying being blunts helps you did get a little off the question but I all made alot of sense so I appreciate it. Everyone else thank you very much for the responses they all helped alot
  4. Thanks for the replies they do help alot. The ultimate reason for therapy for me was to open up about other issues than just being me and wearing heels because I know for a fact that it won't stop the biggest mistake I made was depriving myself of my own individuality I won't allow that to happen again. For my child's sake she will be raised to know the difference between the stereotypes and have her own mind and own free will. She possesses that already and only a year and a half she's a little adult can't tell her nothing lol. In my journeys of researching and interpreting information about numerous things so I could understand them was that the idea of masculinity and femininity is more of mindset rather than something materialistic or certain objects and materials being categorized as such. And things are the way they are because someone once said it to be so and we as a people follow it. I started to question it all because I believe there are a quite a bit of flaws in this system but that's just me. Thank you guys for listening
  5. Thank you all for the advice. I haven't really had many people try to fully understand me but that's okay I just don't like the fact that they try to be my friend but quickly label me while contradicting their own self in the process.. I don't feel emasculated at all. It's just the people today still amaze me on how they are so quick to place labels on things they actually don't really know why they do it. Thank you all for the great straight forward advice Another question for you guys. I have been reading everyone's threads and experiences over the years and they really helped me with not feeling so alone in the world and gained alot of confidence to just be myself. So what I want to ask is in your lives have anyone ever told you guys that you should seek some sort of therapy? because obviously the world doesn't make anything easy. Many occasions I was told that I should talk to someone about this situation and for a while now I haven't considered it because there isn't anything wrong with me granted I do have a bit of a problem getting my feelings out because I was raised to handle my problems on my own I never ask for help I always listen to everyone else and help them out so I never really took the time to worry about myself. Now that I have a child and my situations are becoming alot bigger I still have this problem with speaking up because I am used to be the strong one the helper having the answers. So now I have tried numerous times to reach out to friends and family but it just doesn't seem to do the job and I'm wondering since I've been so stubborn all this time and not talking made it so I would have to seek some sort of professional help or what your thoughts would be greatly appreciated Another question for you guys. I have been reading everyone's threads and experiences over the years and they really helped me with not feeling so alone in the world and gained alot of confidence to just be myself. So what I want to ask is in your lives have anyone ever told you guys that you should seek some sort of therapy? because obviously the world doesn't make anything easy. Many occasions I was told that I should talk to someone about this situation and for a while now I haven't considered it because there isn't anything wrong with me granted I do have a bit of a problem getting my feelings out because I was raised to handle my problems on my own I never ask for help I always listen to everyone else and help them out so I never really took the time to worry about myself. Now that I have a child and my situations are becoming alot bigger I still have this problem with speaking up because I am used to be the strong one the helper having the answers. So now I have tried numerous times to reach out to friends and family but it just doesn't seem to do the job and I'm wondering since I've been so stubborn all this time and not talking made it so I would have to seek some sort of professional help or what your thoughts would be greatly appreciated Sorry when I wrote the last message it didn't come out that way until I sent it sent twice for some reason. But I hope you guys can understand it
  6. Simple no I like it thanks for answering
  7. Hi everyone. I know I haven't posted on this site in quite some time. I would like to get your thoughts on a situation. Do you guys think or believe that wearing heels or doing anything for that matter or the opposite sex have taken away your masculinity in any way? I was told that people don't understand why I wear heels because they feminize me and why would I want to do that. My take on the situation is I don't put labels on things and I normally ask the girls that have questioned me why do they wear what they wear and why aren't they questioned about it normally I can't get a direct answer from them on why they wear what they wear but it's okay to take away my masculinity because of something that I wear or put on my body. I know that for a long time things were said to be a certain way and it's still believed to be that way today I get that. I'm kind of getting off of topic because my initial question is do you feel like you are less masculine because of what you wear??
  8. for me was exactly when i was 3 and seeing my sister and older cousins in heels and other nice shoes. i was instantly lured to it. i hated my own shoes so i would try to wear their shoes obviously to big for me at that time lol, but i then grew up and that was all i preferred to wear with my clothes. couldnt though up until i was 17 but better late than never. even though its not really a fetish for me its a lifestyle and a part if my wardobe i also drifted off into trying new things that could go together like jeans and accessories and sometimes nails.. gotta admit thats when things became fun lol..
  9. in my opinion, i would think at the age of 16 would be appropriate to wear heels because at that age girls are at a mature enough level to handle walking in them and carrying themselves well and also gives them a sense of individuality. but honestly to each is own because people mature faster than others so good for her.. :-)
  10. i dont really think that women inspire me. i normal have a certain image i try to put together in between masculine clothing and womens jeans and heels. i have also noticed that the accessories tend to set off the outfit a little better such as the necklaces and bracelets. not really a bag fan for myself but alot of them do look pretty nice. i like to keep my own image and kind of work with different fabrics to make things look neutral if that makes any sense??
  11. Thank you all for your advice, I really appreciate it
  12. Thank you for your advice, think that i will bring it up to him. I am supposed to go to the bar with him saturday so I might just bring it up before we go and see what he says
  13. Hello fellow heelers, I have a situation that I could use some advice on. I have recently told who I thought was a good friend of mine that I wear heels. I have been friends with him since 6th grade, I am now 23 and I like to think that I have been a good person and friend to him, been there whenever he needed me. But thats not the point. His reaction was alot like the other people I have told, completely shocked and he says he doesnt care about it and that we are still friends no matter what, but he now avoids me like the plague, doesnt return my calls and if we are planning to hang out he cancels right before I leave to meet up with him. So my question is, is he trying to find a way to cut off the friendship without actually confronting me or am I just thinking to much?
  14. thank you all for your posts i really appreciate your opinions =]
  15. lol ok. yeah it isn't illegal your right and that is all they do (double take and looks) but why is it so hard for some of us to gain the courage to come out into public wearing heels, i was trying to say before the people with sagging pants and the girls dressing like guys they just did it and whenever i seen it noone even cared no looks no nothing so if we go out with that confidence like i dont care what you think kind of sense would that make the environment more comfortable and less looks would occur?
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