Histiletto

I can't recall how I actually got the cash to buy my first pair, but back then I would do all kinds of jobs, mostly yard maintenance. At maybe, 75 cent to a dollar an hour, I'd work under the desert sun, during our summer vacation period out of school. When we were attending school regularly, I would work some weekends doing the same kind of yard work. After the day's work was done, I'd stop by the local "Dairy Queen", if possible, and get the largest chocolate milkshake they had with a straw, to make the trip home bearable and worth the day's effort. Back then the cost of a milkshake was not quite an hour's wage. As far as buying my first pair of heels, I've told most of it in another thread. A week or so before my first purchase of heels, the school period was to begin the next week. My dad brought us to the store so that we could get the clothes we needed. While the others were busy picking out what they wanted, I wandered over to the shoe department, because I had noticed their display had some high heels that I had to get a closer look at right then. Of course, I was pretending to look at the boy's shoes, which were near by. Once I saw the 4" white patent stiletto pumps, I knew I had to have them. I wandered back to where my brothers and sisters were shopping for their school wear and discovered they would be going to the shoe department, soon. I can't remember who all needed new shoes, but I did talk to my mom about getting the heels (I secretly wanted). She declined, so I had to figure out another strategy. I had a bit of money put away from the odd jobs I had been able to do. I didn't have quite enough right then, but that weekend I was to get paid for a janitorial job I recently obtained on a regular weekend basis and the rest is a history you can finish reading about in the Everybody section under the heading of "Age you WISH you started wearing heels?".

Hi! Shorty82, You don't need to be concerned about how or where you were brought up. Hold on to the good stuff that helped you make it to where you are. It's what you do with what you got, that will determine what you can achieve. The important thing is you have realized how much people can be mislead, because they don't make the effort to become familiar with things they don't understand. These type of "educated people" scare me the most. They don't seem to have minds of their own and often follow the popular roads or the roads of the least resistence. These people can't seem to cope with the anything that requires effort out of their usual realm. One of the signs of the maturity of a person is how well they can accept others as human beings, whether they seem to be or are different from them. Furthermore, they have no idea of where they will end up nor do they have goals to do any different.

Hey johnieheels! I haven't caught up on the Ohio heel meet, but I plan to read about it soon.

Why do women/men automatically assume you're gay when you're in heels?

Cus you ain't fitun them social ideals they growed up with. Their edjamacation ain't up to par neither. They ain't been learned that people have their own set of likes and dislikes. They further ain't been told that it is a right of choice for each person to choose for themselves how they want to exhibit their personage. Wish they'd let me choose their personage and see how they like it. Wouldn't that be fair?

I apologize to those who are unfamiliar with the different dialects of the English language in the United States.

For heeling in public, you can take what ever measurements you want, but how do you rate being with and around others when you don't really think about time, distance, social encounters, and etc.

Right now, for most men to wear high heels publicly, it does take a bit of mental preparation. Hopefully real soon, men won't have to feel so intimidated. Next time you look into the mirror, mentally leave your position and try to see what you look like from "all" angles. Are you achieving the look that you have pictured yourself portraying? What do you need to change to better put forth the look that is you? It is one thing to heel in public looking like an advertisement for men's high heels and quite another depicting you as coordinated and sharp wearing high heels. When you have fully evaluated your appearance, is this look - you or within your desired need of what you want to be perceived as you? Once you have found the look that you are proud to be seen wearing, public scrutiny should not matter. They are not in your shoe, anyway!

Take back your personal right of choice. Others can advise and advertise, but it is you who knows what you like. All the social decrees and standards can't change who you are.

Yes! The longer the distance is from the back of the heel tip to the ball joints of the toes, the greater the time needed to properly land the toebox. This usually results in the clapping or slapping sound as the toebox lands. The greater the distance, the louder the sound. It reminds me of the sound a young child makes when they are learning to walk and they just started to wear their first pair of shoes.

Has TODAY heard about our High Heel Forum? If I could afford to have the YSL pumps being shown and worn by Amy Robach, only in my size, I'd go on TODAY also to help them be aware that men also are into high heels just like women are.

http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/261848...94322#27194322

Depending on the type and height of heels, the angle your foot has to be adjusted so that you don't break a heel or cause them slip out. This will become obvious as you practice walking in them. You should walk on different surfaces while in the practice mode. Even correct walking in heels will be subject to unstable conditions on different surfaces. You may have to take even shorter and more sure steps to prevent falling on some walk areas, such as smoothed, polished or cobblestoned. The type and material of the heel tips will also be a factor as to the length of your stride. As has been said, when you are comfortable with your appearance and your mobility in heels, the more you can enjoy the experience in any situation. Our fears are mostly self-imposed. Most other people are willing to live and let live. Have fun!

As a young child and teenager, I would see women's and girl's footwear and wished that I had the same opportunity to freely wear the same styles. Like some of the others have posted, I would have been fine if I could have grown up like the girls wearing the appropriate height of heels with the progression of my maturity. Some how at the age of 15, I got the money together to buy my first pair of 4" high stiletto white patent heeled pumps. Of course, I told the clerk they were a gift. I had to sneak them in through my bedroom window. However, I had been sneaking or temporarily borrowing, in secret, assorted flats and heels where-ever and whenever the opportunities were presented on prior ocassions in years passed. My sister's shoes were the easiest to access much of the time for an evening or bedtime stroll. In the morning though, when she would discover her shoes missing, her open display of anger would find them upon my feet before I could even wake up. Neither the imposed house rules, nor how well she hid them, could take away my desire to wear and have my own pair of heels. Now, at 15, I had my very own. For a while, I was able to keep them hid, but eventually, they were discovered and I was forced to give them to this same sister, who had been the victim of my prior ventures. Since we never really communicated, I don't know how she felt about her newly acquired footwear or the times I would borrowed them later, but they were soon destroyed from her use of them. Later, I secretly purchased another pair of black patent stilettoes and they met the same fate, so I decided to wait until I was on my own. Needless to say, the relationship between my sister and I never really had a chance to develop, because she always saw me as the maniac brother who had to wear "feminine" shoes. Come to think of it, the rest of my brothers and sisters never had a discussion with me, either. My parents were clueless as to any meaningful solutions, because of the social attitude that boys aren't suspose to want to wear girl's shoes and they had the attitude that this was just a phase of life I would eventually grow out of. So they kind of ignored it, even though they had to show some disciplinary measures at the time of each incident. They never really approached me to try to understand anything more and I didn't know how I could impress upon them any greater, the importance this desire was for me to complete my identity of the real me. So these matters were left alone and I had to forge my way in secret thinking I was the only boy to have this desire. A few years later, I heard about some lifestyles that seem to coincide with some of my feelings to wear high heels. Finally, I wasn't the only individual of this world to have these desires. From this point on, I knew most of the world really had no clue or wanted to deny that men and women were more alike than the propagandize differences constantly promoted. I never doubted that wearing heels was within my right to choose and forbiding men to wear heels was merely this era's imposition. If the many men and women, who have this desire would open up and at least, confirm and express the wearing of high heels is a right of personal choice, this present taboo could be considered another historical issue that needed correction toward the liberation of all, like the matters of civil rights and women's suffrage.

As citizens of the United States, we take pride in our system of government because of the many checks and balances that we supposively have in place. This means that our system of government is a citizen powered machine. We can't sit back and depend on everything to run they way we expect it to. It runs the way those who are active in it tend to be. Unfortunately, there have been those who are driven by greed and are of questionable integrity, in these overseeing positions. They failed to check and sufficiently disclose the damaging practices many businesses were engaged in while these businesses dealt with the wealth in our world economy. So, if we want to straighten this mess out, we have to get involved in our governmental process, making sure the right people are going to be dependable in doing the business of running our government.

O. K.! I've read enough and I have been waiting for this change for such a really, really l o n g time. Those pointy winkle-picker toes that are on the market up until now are so hideous, they should be banned from being worn at all, out alone forbidden to be sold, in my opinion. Where can I find or what places do I need to contact to shop for these new, in-style "Killer Heels", like the pumps Gwyneth Paltrow is shown wearing in the article? Detect any fanaticism? If you don't, I have a lot more! All right, I'll try to calm down (but it won't be easy). Help me! Pleeeeze! I'd like to have a chance to at least see them, before they are sold out with no chance of taking advantage of a pre-ordering process or the next batch of restocking.

This bit of so-called rage comes from not getting an order that I put in about six months ago. Four to five months is kind of expected, even though I was told about six weeks at the time of ordering, for many high heeled court shoe to be made. But six months, going on seven, with no up-dates as to the progress, has got me so wound up. I'm starting to leak or emit this energy that I have kept inside for my order's anticipation. I hope it comes soon or at least some word as to when I can expect it, OK! C.

It's hard enough keeping track of my high heeled pumps and now you want to tell me I'll have some parts to keep track of. I can see it now. A man with a belt of heels buckled around him like the bullets were on the belt of the old western gun-slingers. Ready! Load and lock 'em, Duke. Or will a bag of extra heels be stashed in a tool case or lunch box. Of course, the white collar gents will have their extra heels valise along with his briefcase and/or computer notebook. How about a soldier in his class A uniform falling into formation with the wrong set of heels or even missed matched? Well, all kidding aside, change is one of the things that can be depended on to be constant, so who knows what will come when men everywhere openly wear high heels.

Maybe it's just me, but high heels are the shoes that are made to be seen as they reposition the wearer's feet in a becoming pose. They're designed, styled, and made with materials that present the wearer with a pair of mobile pedestals. They must fit properly and look like they are the perfect extention to the wearer's outward appearance like any coordinated outfit. The heel of the foot should continue the contoured styling of the heels and one's toes should never extend any further over or out of the toebox area, whether in sandals or any open toed shoes. The wearer's feet have to look like they fully belong in that space and the feet can't look like they has been wedged or banded into the shoes either. As a matter of personal choice, I am most comfortable in pumps that fit snugly, but not tight. It drives me up a wall when the back of my court shoes are loose and flop off and on as I walk. This also tends to make me unsure of how the stilettoes are going to contact the surface that I am walking on. Falling is embarrassing on it's own, but to do it in heels is beyond the normal stage, especially for this social atmosphere.

A real man? Real men aren't always superheroes or extraordinary. They are individuals that live and do what they know is right. They don't always have everything correct, but they take responsibility and work hard to make things right and restore that which is lost as good as possible. When they fall, they think of ways to rise again and actively pursue the best choices. Quiting and failure is something they do or experience to get a break for renewed strength to continue on, no matter the task. They respect and care about others and offer a helping hand when they see the need. These are some of the properties to be a real "man", which are obtainable by either female or male. Wearing high heels is a pleasure we have the fortune to experience in our life time. If you wear heels to fulfil that personal desire, you are being true to the real you.

I believe that the attitude that men need to be tough and not express femininity is dated and has no place in the 21 century. It is a throwback to the caveman days of when men because of their typically larger size had to go out and kill a beast and bring it home as food for the family to eat. We no longer live in that society, and at one time in history we actually relinquished a lot of the "males are supposed to be tough" BS that has been fed to us throughtout history. Our forefathers dresses in what would be considered a feminine manner by wearing makeup, wigs, and high heels. George Washington wore heels to his inagural ball. Only during the onset of the industrial revolution did we again try to convert men to a soldier mindset with wearing of suits that make them all look alike. Men that have a feminine side and believe that they must suppress it are pshchologically doing themselves a disservice. Can you imaging not being able to express who you are because you are confined in a box that society has placed you in? On the other hand, women are encouraged to explore all aspects of their personality from the very feminine to the masculine aggressive side. Therefore, a women can really be a whole person. I really wonder if we would have so many wars, murders, and conflicts if men were taught by society not to be so aggressive and were encouraged to pursue feminine activities... I believe we as a society are doing ourselved a great disservice by perpetuating the concept that the Neandrathal Male is still desirable in the 21 century. It has been proven through research that men with a strong feminine side are less prone to violence and that they usually treat women better and make better companions and mates for them. There are a lot of women in the world that are attracted to a "feminized male". This is the type of woman that you should desire because it indicates that her thought process is highly evolved and that she is open-minded and is a free thinker.

Jamie,

I think you hit the nail squarely on the head when you came to the conclusion that a woman can really be a whole person in our social atmosphere. From their socially induced position of superiority, men rarely see the need to venture out of their roles. Therefore, most men have lost sight of what it is to be a whole person.

who the hell is lance bass?

Just adding to Tinkerbell's info. - Boy bander of the group known as "N SYNC".

Hey Tinkerbell,

I need to get some pink heels like those shown in your avatar. What's the info on them. Yup! Even straight guys like to wear pink. So much for the stereotyping.

Here's to sharing the same desire and keeping the high heel industry prosperous. We may not be able to get into the shoe closet to find that special pair to wear, but we have them somewhere in there. Some women have become well known for their collection of high heeled footwear. However, the list will probably double, if not more, when it starts including the high heels in men's closets.

When I see a pair of heels that are obviously smaller in size, but the styling is to die for, I'd like to think I can get that exact look in my larger size. However, many heels are made with the reference to the height of the heel, instead of the slope of the instep or sole. So, you may purchase the same brand name in your size, but chances are the heel height will remain close to the same as the smaller size and the look of the shoes will have flatten to accommodate your larger shoe size. To me that is a real gyp, because it is not the same look that was first admired. So, if having a shorter appearance in the length of your foot is important, than you will have to get the higher heel. Of course, then you'll have to practice so that your walking won't look unnatural for that height.

I would like the opportunity to at least make a pair of heels, under the tutelege of a reputable shoemaker.

Hey Cassie, Enjoyed reading your blog. Certainly all gender assignments for objects of design, color, and textures are socially originated. Since society hasn't recognized all individual personality differences, they have contrived to solidify their doctrine of gender by trying to brainwash everyone to believe in their teachings. Their scheming might have worked, if their doctrine were true to reality. Since there are so many contradictions, they have resorted to discrediting those differences in any way they can find support. Any truth that is manipulated to present a derivation, is subject to contradictions and causes people to follow paths of persection and ridicule toward those who differ with them. However, time and the need to correct inaccuracies has a way of brining out the truth. The people who find that they do not fall into the slot that society has set for them tend to have questions about their differences. This helps to free their thinking and they are more apt to see these manipulated truths. There are a number of things I would like to elaborate upon, but I will restrict my comments to this thread. Since society assigned gender to clothing, people may have not followed the standards all the time, but generally they accepted it. These standards seem to be subject to the social whims in each era before the 1800's, which meant certain clothing styles were worn by both men and women, at times. Within the last 200 years, clothing has become more specialized to certain gender selections. However, there has been some gradual, but steady unraveling of this assignment. Surprisingly, it has been brought about by those who had the freedom to choose and wanted to make every style and design an option within their list of choices. If you haven't got a clue by now as to who is really responsible for revealing the folly of our social clothing assignments, take a view at what women are able to wear with society's blessing. Does clothing have gender or are people closing their eyes to reality so that this false and warped premise is maintained to keep others from their right of choice? Thanks gals for generally wanting what is right and seeking equality. You have opened the door to liberating all of us. I hope we are men enough to see what we are being given and incorporate this freedom into our way of living and thinking.

If you are active in finding a women to share you life with, then you a have already made a contract with yourself to live life to its fullest, because you want to present to her the best you that can be. So wearing heels should be an active part of who you are. Living any less of an existence means you are willing to withhold the truth (lie) in order to obtain the love of the most precious person, who will be hurt upon discovering who she has come to have feelings for. The trust factor is an important foundation in any relationship and if you have started off by manipulating the truth about who you are, you'll have to take greater measures to refortify that trust. If you had been open and active in heeling, the field is narrowed quite a bit, but that special someone will be able to know up-front to whom she will commit to. Chances are she can be more supportive and willing to join you in your heeling. Anything less, will cause at least one of you to make a sacrifice for the rest of your lives together. If you never find each other, then you will still know that you are in the process of being the best you possible and you will have lived a full and rich life in high heels. As a ray of hope, male heeling is getting out of the closet and showing some promise on the streets. Perhaps being a male heeler won't be so awkward as men realize they have the right to choose high heels just as they would choose a shirt or some trousers. When this is accepted by society, everyone will have more freedom to be who they are. Yes, women have earned their status of freedom in our society and now men have to make the same choices to earn their rights to have the same choices women have struggled to achieve. The price of freedom is worth the cost. Make sure your actively making it secure.

Once I get home from work (where my wearing stiletto heels is out of the question, because of my duties) and when I get dressed on my days off, I usually put on 4 to 5" high stiletto court shoes with an appropriate male outfit to wear during the times people may show up at my door. Depending upon the response should an unsuspecting visitor acknowledge their awareness, I may say something funny, like since I washed my feet and I can't control what they put on or I didn't want to take a chance in stubbing my toes so I put these on. If they seem more serious, I may address their curiosity by saying something along the lines of always wanting to wear heels and so I have chosen to do just that. For those who already know of my heeling, they may ignore my heels or they might offer a brief comment. If they want to discuss it further, then we have something more to focus on other than the reason they dropped by, the weather, the price of oil, our health, and what's up.

The sadest of all is to have never taken the opportunities while living. We live in a time where male heeling is emerging out of the closet and on to the streets. Accepting change is usually the hardest thing a society has to deal with, especially in the light that our heeling has been perceived. I'd like to think that I have contributed to some of the enlightenment when I choose to publicly wear my 4 to 5 inch high stiletto court shoes.

If the dust is all that we have to hope for, then why are we so timid in our approach to wearing heels in the time we have left. Give those who will continue to be in this life, a better understanding of who you are, so that they can live a richer life with more options to express their individualism. Show those who are narrow-minded how to catch the vision of what life is really about. Help make this world a place that can accept activities like male heeling in the perspective of it being an individual's right of choice. Let those who may have to deal with your passing a chance to understand the real you, so that their grief will be for the absence of one who lived life to its fullest and not for one living a life of secrecy and evasiveness.

For those who think in terms of an after-life, heeling is just as possible there. As I understand it, we will have all the faculties of our mortal body perfected. The knowledge we have achieved in this life will continue to be a part of our existence. Those who have mastered the craft of making high heels in this life will also be there, just like all the other people we have known. As a reference, the historically recorded meetings with those of another life dimension, like angels and heavenly personages, wore clothes. Perhaps it was for our benefit, but that is how they were perceived and therefore possible. So wearing high heels tends to also be an option. Have I restored any hope for those who believe in a post-existence? No need to fill the collection plate, just actively spread the joy of heeling. Again for those who choose to live in faith, death is merely a gate or step in our progression. Make the best of your life here, so that you can better cope with the challenges and opportunities later, while wearing your choice of heels, of course. That's right, you don't need my approval as to which pair to wear.

I can't help but wonder if putting a pair of my favorite heels in the casket with me would be beneficials for later. The pyramids were built for just such a purpose when the entombed were to be restored to life. Then again, the deterioration of the materials would probably render them useless, at least for wearing.

Does any one know what Adam and Eve's footwear was made from after they left the garden and had to deal with the jagged rocks, sticker bushes, and cat spurs. I suspect when the leaves wore out too quickly, they figured that tieing some bark to their feet would last longer, which would give them the distinction of being the first to wear platforms. Then again, maybe they figured the hoofs from some of the dead animals could be used, since the animals no longer needed to use them. Obviously, I have no real clue as to the initial origin of heels. The idea of attaching some sort of stop located under the heel of one's foot on the bottom of the shoe for those who use stirrups in horse riding seems a rational possibility to begin with. The elevating of the foot to prevent a person from actually having to come into contact with the mud, filth, and/or swale of the ground has just as much credence. The most logical origin in my mind happened when someone noticed a person's silhouette as they stood on their tip-toes. It was pleasing to see and soon this type of stance became fashionable theater; thus ballet dancing came into being from this practice. Since the silhouette of ballet could not be achieved by everyone, there came an idea to offer a type of heel support so that those who could not assume the ballet stance, could still reach a comparable height and produce a similar silhouette. This sight was also found to be just as becoming, so high heel shoes became the popular footwear, but the expense was too high for the financial ability of most people. They became a status symbol of the rich and powerful and then we know the effect of the French Revolution on the wearing of high heels. This scenario may have some truth, but it is purely my speculation at this point, but it seems more plausible than not.

A while back I stretched my budget and bought a pair of Miu Miu, Black Patent, 11.5cm high heeled, Double Strap Mary Jane Pumps. They looked fantastic, but when I tried to buckle the straps, one of the elastic bands that held a buckle, tore easily out of its secured sewings and damaged the patent finish. I was sickened by this result. Just because the name is well thought of in the fashion community, doesn't mean the quality is much better than some of the less expensive heels you can find on-line or in the more sensibly priced retailed outlets or stores. So, don't figure the higher price necessarily makes a better quality heel. If you can find a reputable supplier and can afford the cost, the chances of getting the better quality for the buck increases dramatically. The stiletto heels I have on now were less expensive than the Miu Miu's. These pumps were offered by Elite Heels, but they had to be made. The quality is worth the cost and the time I had to wait. When my budget will allow another puchase, I plan to order again.

Designer shoes may look impressive and the quality is usually better, because they take pride in their product. However, the cost makes you scared to wear them. Lately, I have been impressed with a couple of high heel styles from Bebe and Dolce Vita.

For everyday wear, the brands like you can buy off of ebay or Amazon can satisfy the desire to have another pair to wear, but the quality and fit may be sacrificed. Sometimes what you think you're buying doesn't match the product you actually get. So buyer beware!

Elite Heels, Burlesque Blue, Ernest Chausseur, Nu-High Heels, Banana Shoes, and 6 Inch Heels Forever have been a few of the sources I have bought some of my best high heels. If you can endure the inconvience of having to wait for an extended period that seems like an eternity (possibly up around 6 months) before your order is delivered, their heels are worth the wait. However, make sure you and them understand completely what you want. Before you actually order, communicate every detail of what you want and find out what they will or can do to help you realize your finished product. Some of them will even do some limited custom work for you. The cost is higher than most of the off the rack wear, but quite a bit less than some of the more prominent fashion brands, when all is said and done.