Histiletto

On flat and level surfaces, I find walking on 6" stilettos with 2" platforms to be veritably the same as 4" heels and no platforms, except for the height differential and the sensitivity feel of the actual surface. Now uneven and unleveled surfaces are the game changers, for platforms tend to follow the slope of the total surface they encounter. Normal walking is the forward and aft motion of the foot and ankle. With platforms, the side to side motion is more of a factor and if the ankle isn't strong nor familiar enough to negotiate this action, falls and injury have and may happen. The taller the platform, the more severe the side action.

Step-mom? Sounds like your two children have at least three immediately significant adults in their lives - you, your present wife, and their birth mother. If one or both mothers don't accept your high heeled footwear choices, the situation becomes a lot more complicated when you seem to falter in your own support by showing a need to hide your heeling from others and more importantly from their mom figures. In a few years, your girls will be questioning everything and if you and your wife are at odds over this matter, it could create a lot of unnecessary confusion as to your social legitimacy and trustworthiness. So, if you want a good relationship with your daughters, improve your marriage relationship so that you can support your wife and she in turn supports you. Parents are suppose to be best friends, soul mates, personal confidences, and just plain individuals in love with each other. This doesn't mean they have to lose their personal identity, for their real strength comes in supporting the other to succeed and achieve what ever their life's dreams and goals are or will be. Since wearing high heels is with in your desires, this makes it just as important as any desires your wife may need to be satisfied. Seeing accomplishments in these things can solidify a marriage and bring you both the happiness you desire. Hurdles and other obstacles of life will need to be dealt with and together these rock and hard places can be overcome a lot easier. I hope you and your family enjoy all the good things life has to offer.  

We live in a world ruled by attitudes of the present traditions. Most people have only seen women wear high heels in the usual course of a day. If by chance they become aware of a guy wearing heels, it has usually been under the heading female impersonations, in drag activities, or guys revolting against social expectations. Hardly ever is it seen as a matter of one's personal agency to adorn their appearance by what their desires and tastes are. It's kind of an attitude that if you aren't playing by our rules and expectations, then you can't interact with us.

I can't blame Payless for wanting to make a better profit on items that sell better than others, but sometimes businesses raise their prices for more selfish reasons. Some people might call it: milking the system for their piece of the wealth. In the girl's section, they have a thread about the quality of Chinese footwear available on the market. Some styles are tempting, but the quality is has been questionable. E-bay seems to be flooded with new heeled footwear from China.

I have some pumps that uses the zipper digits as decoration, but as to having to use a zipper fastening on footwear other than boots, I view it as ridiculous.

After re-reading your post to understand your comments, you have been quite active in wearing heels and other women's labeled items. The economy has made a lot of us cut back in our spending. There are always some heels I also want to buy, but they will have to wait until I can afford them. I'm sorry to read that because of the jealousy of your girlfriend and her walking out, you had to return the 16cm metal heels back to the shop. Maybe in time she won't be so offended or controlling about your footwear choices.

The idea for men to become women has crossed most of our minds when we realize that we, as men, desire to wear clothing items society has deemed for women. That use to be the only alternative any man could do with any social legitimacy, but now I know most all clothing items can be worn by those who wish to wear them. It is society that has the problem by trying to take away my right to choose my own personal appearance from the selections of apparel available. 

Having to chase your dog through the neighborhood in heeled sandals sounds like quite an experience to look back on. I guess only the girl had the courage to ask about your outfit with heels. Everyone else didn't really seem to care all that much.

Some Mary Jane shoes are fitted with snap fasteners that won't stay connected once you stand up because of the shortness of the straps. That is so frustrating to succeed in getting them fastened only to realize they won't stay no matter what you do to reconnect them.

Controversies over the wearing of high heels have been on-going from their creation. This is just another episode from a person with some influence and/or power, who feels it is their duty to determine what other people should want and do, since they have come to a conclusion of what is right and works for them. The ornamentation of ones own body is a natural right that stems from the fact only individuals know their own thoughts and what they desire. Society has used its power to usurp the agency of people to choose their own appearance. Based upon the same principle society uses to determine what I should wear, the laws of justice tells me I should have the same power to determine what others should wear according to my preferences and tastes.  So you see society clearly has no defense for its rules and standards in deciding what I should wear, but for the fact that it has been an established and even an institutionalized tradition to ignore individual rights to choose their own apparel to wear as they desire.

It hasn't been that long ago that the only males wearing heels were female impersonators, men in dresses or skirts and blouses, and those in the process of male to female reassignments. Now, men in heels has been seen in fashion shows and more people have become aware that the everyday, home grown males wear them. Even the internet has been somewhat more favorable to such happenings, depending on the site. Changes may be slow, but they're happening. You and I didn't wait to enjoy the experiences in public.

It has been a few years since I have ordered from them, so this may not be of much consolation. I remember that any direct communication with Elite Heels ended after the confirmation they had received my order. The time seemed forever and I started wondering like you are doing now. Gina (Queen Of Heels) was a bit more active in participating with HHP forum members during this time and gave me a bit of assurance that my order would be delivered, which did finally happen long after the originally posted completion time. My forced patience was rewarded, when I finally got my stiletto pumps as ordered.

Hey! Bcup,

I think you are correct in that assumption. I'm fitting into a half size smaller comfortably now, where before they were too tight. Of course, if this is really the case, I have a closet full of really loose fitting heels and I'll have to buy some inserts to fill up the slack. 

Then again, maybe the shoe manufacturers are trying to transition the sizing, so that men's and women's footwear fit the same sizing marks. Since more men are catching on to wearing high heels with their outfits, there would be less confusion in finding the right size, if we didn't have to use women's to men's conversion charts. Then again and again, this is the first day of April.

If we are trying to be everything we want our friends/associates/mates to be, we have a better possibility of being found by the best person to share our life with. No one likes an idle personality that has nothing of good report to bring into a relationship. Enrich your life with the things that exhibit a progressive lifestyle, whether it is in heels, tennis shoes, or sandals. Seek occupations and/or learning opportunities in the things you have the interest to know more about. If such a field doesn't exist, isn't studied, or not being researched, then you might be able to bring something new to human understanding. Make yourself the person you most enjoy and look up to, because others more likely feel as you do about you while building relationships. 

The extremely elongated toes would make walking in crowds and up stairs a bit awkward, not to mention annoying and dangerous. One of the reasons I enjoy wearing heels is for the way they shorten the appearance of my feet and how they are lovely looking pedestals for my mobile support.

While we are discussing wardrobe with heels, it should also be mentioned that when some of us say heels, it doesn't necessarily mean stilettos, spikes, or even pumps, sandals, or various boot types. The array and types of heels spans from none to extreme platforms, with solids, cutouts, layered, and other artistic concepts in between. Even the notations of cfm's and stripper heels have changed while these type of heels have become staples in everyday outfits. The heels in my avatar use to be considered porno heels, but they are now commonly worn with any outfit, because of their wide acceptance and general appeal. 

What it all comes down to is: We are individuals with our own specific tastes. Whether heels with bib overall, jumpsuits, shorts, sweats, skirts, dresses, or etc., it is what we like and feel comfortable in wearing. I may not like your combinations, nor do you have to like mine. Yes, there are some dress codes that ought to be known and considered when we select our outfits for the activity. Wearing stilettos while fishing in a boat might not be the best for staying afloat. but neither is wearing sports shoes or flip-flops to a formal event considered proper. However in my opinion, wearing 4" stiletto pumps with jeans is a social staple and should return to be a common public sight. Yes, men and women should spruce up their public appearances instead of wearing apparel items that are due for the rag bag, discarding, or the washing pile.

Sounds like everyone had a good time and I see why you are excited over the purchase of the buffalo pumps. Did you wear them for the rest of the activity? The only abnormal thing about your activity was thinking it is. Hope your group of "Menonhighheels" will continue to meet soon and often.

Giving an answer from spontaneity was probably the way you should handle this situation. A pat answer might come across as less sincere. I'd be interested in hearing about your next grocery store encounter with her, should the subject be revisited.

Hi! Johnieheels,

 Yes, it is good to see your posting again.  

Morse has been used for yet another communiqué. Had to do some brushing up on the old code. Thanks Steve!

One certainly needs to be suspect if the unordinary starts happening, but it is still kind of a boost to one's ego to think someone else thought it was worth such an effort.

Besides getting critiqued by more experienced heeler(s) and learning some specific exercises for heeling, making new friends with similar interests sounds intriguingly fun. Just getting a DVD of this class may help some, but the open association with others would be far and away more rewarding. As of yet, I haven't found such a course anywhere close to my location and driving four to five hundred miles one way is not an option, at this point.  

Yup! The scenario that portrays the desire, attitude, and most importantly the action of Bryan Oknyansky is definitely inspiring and motivating. Some day, making our own heels or any footwear for that matter to our specifications will be more affordable and practical. However, we already have aesthetically lovely and comfortable fitting high heels with in our grasps and budgets before I would pay such a price for footwear that looks like fashionable toy shoes. Any entrepreneurial idea or movement needs this same intensity.

It is great when the sales people make it seem that your interest is very important to them. In helping jim102 find his best size, they seem to be more than just cash register supervisors. We should all have pleasurable experiences when trying on heels at retail stores, but alas, there are those with offensive attitudes and bad hair days.

Hey! Jim102,

My parents also did not accept my wearing of heels, either. In my childhood, I would often get my sister's dress shoes without her permission, of course, and wear them until I was caught wearing them and reprimanded or I returned them without her knowing. This activity was an on- going happening (even day to day at times), until I was able to find other sources to somewhat satisfy my desire. When I grew old enough to make some money from many different small jobs, I bought my heels a couple of times. When my parents had discovered where I was keeping them, I was confronted with their disapproval. However, they were not as condemning and labeling as your dad has done. So, to say that I have an idea of your feelings would not be true at this point. After their initial reprimands were over, the first time I had to get rid of them. The second time, they took my 4" heels away and gave them to my sister, which made buying heels a bad investment at that time, so returned to satisfying my desire to wear heels as I had previously done. Actually, in this scenario of having no heels of my own with the conscious separations and then seeing heels at different places caused this desire to increase. Eventually, it developed into an all out obsession by the time I was on my own. So, just buying a pair of heels was not enough. I became a high heel shopaholic at times and then purged them for different reasons and situations at other times. Then I realized purging was not the answer, for I came to really regret loosing those heels. Now my selections are more than adequate for wearing heels publicly and I still have the desire to buy more. 

Since then, my parents have passed on and we never really discussed any of this, with me at least. Like your dad, they saw it as trying to be a women or at least dressing in their clothes. The social attitude towards gender has caused them to misunderstand human nature. There are truths in the gender idea, but there are also inaccuracies, which has mislead most people into their traditional thinking. To change everyone's perspective and social indoctrination is like changing their religious beliefs, explaining to a person of the fourteenth century that the world is not flat and the sun doesn't revolve around the earth, or getting them to acknowledge that there could be human beings on other planets in different galaxies. We know what we feel and what we desire. No one else or learning can change this. It probably wouldn't do any good to turn the accusations and say women are becoming men for not being home makers and nurturing the kiddies (which is also false), but this is another traditional view. 

I wish you the best in life and in dealing with your present circumstance. As a person, who is able to understand and evaluate what you should do according to who you are, I have confidence in your judgment for you. Take care and post us, if there is any way we can be of help, for all of us need such an associations at times.

Boy! If minds were able to be in synchronization, I think it would be here in these postings. If we are not thinking about heels in some way, we'll soon return. We have brainwashed ourselves into this programming, because we have such a desire to have and wear heels, even to an obsession. Our spouses/girlfriends and possibly others may have a kind of inkling as to our mind-set, but I doubt they know the full extent of our daily thoughts for heels. The mere sight of them will ignite such a stream of feelings, we have learned to do two things at once as long as high heels in some way is one of them. Unless you have another theory, I think it has developed because we have had to deny our desire the satisfaction it has needed. Instead we have coward to the social expectations that are actually unrealistic for who we are and this is for all male heelers at whatever stage they are at. It all started with a desire that needed to be satisfied. Once we found how much we wanted and/or needed heeling to be a part of us, we have constantly had to deal with others who are taught that it isn't a guy thing. Obviously somebody doesn't know what guys are made of.

Hey! saudade,

First of all, let me say that there are no wrong or right answers here and opinions are just one's perspective. Since you have ask for my take on this ankle boot, here it goes. The Vadis boot seems very conservative and would fit best with dress pants and jeans. The pointed toe box seems to be shaped for optimal comfort, because the sides don't immediately straight-line to the point, but they rather conform to the natural top silhouetted view of a person's toe area. The covering leather over the in-step would bother me for it seems a bit constrictive, but as these heels are worn this area may stretch a bit to become more comfortable. The arch of the boot looks like it would be a great support for the arch of the foot, however, the stiletto heel doesn't look right to properly support the boot's arch, for it looks like the stiletto is only holding up the very back of the boot. To me this is a structural flaw for it is only an illusion of support that is off its mark for the purpose of holding up the whole heel of the foot.

Another consideration that I have, is that the heel tip should be as close to the front of the heel perpendicularly as possible. If you would notice when barefooted, the ankle is centered perpendicular above this same location of the foot's heel. The further the heel tip is placed in back of this point, after the height of the footwear's heel reaches the barefoot height of the ankle's pivot point, the greater the foot has to work in the process of walking while landing each step, thus causing the foot and ankle to become fatigued sooner. With the heel tip of the stiletto directly under the back of the boot's heel, there is a greater chance that the fatigue will cause the ankle to loose its strength and falter in its action, which could result in injury or extreme walking discomfort. 

As a person develops from infancy, they have personal criteria or desires that they seek to fulfill. Each person has their own way of approaching life. Who is to say what triggers anything, for we all have our perspectives and points of contact. In my toddling years of maledom, I had already reached the point of wanting to wear the black patent Mary Jane shoes my sister got the choice to wear over my pleas against letting her, even if I had put them on first. I still found ways to satisfy my desire when she was not immediately around or asleep. Of course, there were consequences when I was caught by her, but my mom didn't seem to mind as I wore them around the house. Just having the Mary Jane's on was well worth the opposition, even at that age. 

As time went on and my intentions to have my own pair of Mary Jane's was well known in my family unit, I was still denied until one day my sister brought home another pair after complaining that she could no longer wear the first pair. Now before the new pair, the meaning of ownership was something that had been a bad thing. However, at this instant, I was now the only one that could wear them so I proclaimed them to be mine. After a bit of stern discussion, my parents decided in my favor. WOW! This meant that I could wear my Mary Jane's all I wanted and I did! If I was at a place or social activity, my patent leathers helped me to arrive in the style for I was very proud to wear such wonderful footwear. The thought that the time would come for discarding my Mary Jane's was tempered with the outlook I could replace them with another pair like my sister had done. Until then, which seemed a long, long time away for a toddler who had no real sense for the span of time, I was going to enjoy wearing my perfect footwear each and every day.

That seemly great span of time passed so quickly as I had to declare a need for another pair. The trip to the shoe store was exciting with such glorious anticipation. I knew what I wanted as I saw the display, but my expectations were dashed away when I came to realize I was not going to get another pair of Mary Jane's at all. There aren't descriptions for the despair and feelings of betrayal I experienced in those horrid minutes among the tears and pleas. The road home was no longer filled with joyous expectations for there was nothing to go home for. I was just there. They may have denied me of the footwear I wanted, but they weren't able to take away my desire. My thoughts of living before I got my Mary Jane's came back and I could see no other alternative, but to learn the art of deceit in trying to find satisfaction. I felt alone with no one that seem to care or help me understand why. I just knew how I felt and I only had me to depend on for any answers and discernments.

In time I learned why my parents denied my pleas, but I can't see or understand the logic that society uses to degrade those who want to fulfill their desires like mine. The totality of my experiences up to now have helped me in becoming obsessive for owning and wearing particular styles of high heels. A fetish? Only if all men and women with such feelings and possessions can be rightfully labeled as such. Otherwise, I just enjoy being a man wearing high stiletto heel pumps.