Histiletto

For the sake of discussing guys wearing heels, this forum thread has been provided. Certainly we can be just as avid about wearing flat heels even though their height description may hold a less than one to zero digits. My understanding of heels was any dressy footwear gals stereotypically wear, so flats should also be considered heels. Now I know others feel that heels have to be at least two inches and above for discussing them in this forum, but we can't negate one's preference to wear less than two inch heels.

As an up-date, the heel tips are not as strong as they should be for the 3/16" diameter shaping. After the second public display of going from my front door to the car for the purpose of getting to the job site and then returning, the tips literally wore off, leaving only the studs. With a bit of ingenuity, I was able to create temporary tips for the time being. With a bit more effort I can make more adequate and stronger tips for the needed task while maintaining the gorgeous appearance of these extra slender, but sturdy stilettos. Otherwise, having these pumps as part of my shirt and jeans outfits have been exquisitely delightful. I'm looking forward to wearing them as I head out to public venues for shopping and other activities after the tips are improved. I wonder how much difference it will make with these exposed platform stilettos than the less obvious hidden platforms I have been wearing. Oh well, here's to progress and the better enjoyment of life to its fullest.

Again, it depends on the heels and how well they support the desired visions for the look you want as one of your personality selections.

About two, maybe three years ago, I caught an ad for a pair of Sebastian stiletto platform pumps, but they were sold out in my size. I did everything I could think of in searching the internet to find them in my size, but to no avail. Since then I kind of followed the Sebastian brand and found some other terrific looking pumps, but they were still not the ones that got me head over heels. Then in September I went searching through an eBay listing and there they were. I couldn't believe it, at first, they were there and affordably available. There was no question in my mind, I had to get a pair, but the financing was going to take a bit of adjusting for some expenses and income factors during the next two months. By the first week of October I saw a way to make it happen, but there was still going to be some sacrificing. At this point it was more of a stress not having these pumps than the anguish brought on by my financial status. So I put a pair in the cart and checked out. The elation of knowing the heels I had longed for were now on there way to be delivered to me is an ecstasy I'm sure is quite a normal experience for high heel wearers and now it was happening to me. In just a couple of business days my order of Sebastian black patent leather, 5.5" high and very slender stiletto heels with 1.25" platform pumps (item id: SB-LOLA) was in my grasp and the elation continued as I carefully opened the packaging and finally revealed the shoe box. The anticipation heightened as I removed the lid and saw the labeled tissue paper coverings. As I pealed back the papers the glossy shine of the stiletto pumps were exposed. OK, your imagination can do a much better play by play of the remaining sequences, but I will say that the pumps fit perfectly as I walked around my residence. These are the type of heels your never want to take off, but reality deems this want impractical - impossible could be debated though.

I have related this chronology of events and passions to describe the normal feelings most people who love wearing high heels experience. Something along these happenings are both women's and men's experiences as they discover and select their high heels in the stores or on-line.

As long as I'm wearing the heels I prefer, the reaction of others has to be considered part of the scene, since I'm forcing an unexpected surprise appearance on people who haven't really been familiar with a guy in heels. I wear my stilettos much the same way gals wear theirs with boot-cut jeans, usually with the toe box, single soled or up to a one and a quarter inch platformed, being revealed along with maybe 2 to 3 inches of usually fairly thin 4 to 5.5 inch high stiletto heels. I think my heels are usually spotted as I approach and their eye tend to stare down, at the toe box being as they are usually patent leather and either pointed or almond to rounded shaped. Then they see the heels as I am leaving, which usually means I'm not aware of their total reaction. When I'm shopping and standing to pick items, people don't seem to care that I'm wearing stiletto pumps, for they just go about their business. Occasionally, I'll get a smile, but that is about it. I have been wearing at least 4" heels to get my hair trimmed and a while back I wore some light beige colored stilettos and my attendant and the others in the area wouldn't acknowledge my footwear, even though they were obviously displayed. I guess it part of the unexpected syndrome they aren't prepared to deal with yet. Maybe later, after a few more visits they'll loosen up and they will expect my heeling appearances.

Anyway, heeling is a personal choice and others won't understand the feeling of satisfaction such activity has to offer as long as they continue in their ignorance and judgmental bigotry. By the way, how are they suppose to know they can have and share such experiences if they don't see other guys actively engaged wearing heels. They may scoff now, but once heeling by guys is an everyday occurrence, they could learn a bit more about tolerance and even experience heeling on their own.

I too am happy for you and your wife seeming to break down the barriers that heeling gets from the social attitude right now. Sounds like a memorable date night to add with your other special occasions.

Does your mom know about you wearing her 4" heels? If so or even not, discuss with her about helping you to put together an outfit using the pair you preferred with an offer to buy or help her buy another pair of heels she has been wanting. I know you said she wasn't very happy about cross dressing, but if you could help her to understand that wearing heels is just the same as wearing trousers and similar apparel, this would help her to know a little better of the intensity you have to wear heels. When your mom understands how you feel about this and is willing to help create your costume, she is probably the best source to get a good fit with the pair of heels you desire. I don't know your mom, so this is totally your decision to use this opportunity to bond a little better with your mom and talk with her to have an understanding between both of you. Parents have expectation for their children, without really getting to know all the aspirations their children have. For now focus on the Halloween costume, but this could open the door for later discussions.

Most of the time we create our own world by what do or don't do. It can be our prison with no way out or our platform to open the doors to access more of life's choices. Life can be like a box of chocolates with all sorts of known possibilities to be involved or it can be like a couch potato viewing the television programs with no personal interaction or input ability to hardly any of the situations. It's our choice whatever consequences and/or rewards we choose to accept. This message is eternal and will not self-destruct at any time.

Hey! P08C,

Your footwear looks great! They are close to the height of most heels worn publicly and they have a casual look about them for most any public and social activities. As long as your wife is supportive, the only thing needed is your acceptance of the high heeled look you want and will be displaying. Other people will act or react as they will and you can't control that, but as long as you and your wife are together on this, there is really no problem.

From taking a second look, I noticed a bit of a gap (approx. = .375") between the back of your shoes and the heel of your foot. Are the shoes really that loose.  Shoe sizes vary, but a usual rule of thumb maintains that a little over an 1/8 of an inch determines a sizing unit. Have you tried on smaller sizes? I'm wondering if two sizes smaller in these shoes would be a better fit for you. Mary Janes can fit a bit looser than other pumps because of the straps holding the shoes on, but if your feet kind of flop around in the shoes or the shoes feel too roomy, they may be too big and this will cause the strap to break sooner. Then again, I've always liked my pumps to be snug, but not tight when I selected their fit.

Yes! They look like a good choice to wear with jeans and a multi-colored pastel top or other complementary colored tops.

Hey! jerbare,

That's the spirit. KEEP ON A HEELING!

It is actions like these that will help to increase the high heel selections for men. If you see a pair that you want, but your size isn't available, ask if it is available or see if you can special order it.  

These kind of opportunities can happen more to avid heelers. Good for you Steve63130!

It seems to publicly wear high heels, our programming interferes with our logic. Yes we know heels are another choice of footwear for those who desire to wear them, but we can't get past the societal attitude that they were only made for women. Obviously, men haven't been openly wearing high heels as a whole and therefore the common perception. There are ways to change this, but wishing and hoping without action will result in a lot of unfulfilled wishes and hopes. I'm sorry that I haven't been more of a catalyst to spur the movement for men to wear heels. Had I been more of an activist with better social skills in this matter, perhaps things would have been a bit more conducive for high heeling men's public presence. Having professed a few of my regrets and inadequacies, there can be no doubt that the world has changed, especially with in the passed thirty-five years. The internet has been a major factor in this change. People with no apparent status of power and means have the ability to present their comments to the world. However, it is the boots/heels on the ground that will actually make the difference. Media waves can introduce information, but the concepts won't get realized without the actual activities bringing them to life.

Are these eBay sales or a particular brand/site?

Those that witnessed these guys wearing heels can attest that high heels are not just being worn by women. As such occurrences happen more often, people won't be so apt to think men in heels is just for comedic skits or passing fads. We know men have been and are wearing high heels, so lets join or meet with the right crowds to make them more aware of these facts. There will always be the nay-sayers who want to take away our choice to wear heels. Even women have been and are having to deal with these anti-high heel wearers.  

You might Google 1968-italia-boutique eBay store. I didn't see the exact shoes you are looking for, but many of their heels have the larger platforms. You need to know your Italian sizing. If you can find a pair of heels you like in the auction phase, you might be able to buy them for considerably less, but the exact price depends on your ability to bid the highest. They also have the option of making an offer on some footwear, but I haven't tried that way yet. Otherwise, their footwear can be quite expensive.

What a change for you! I am happy you are having so many good experiences wearing high heels. I know it was scary at first to make this change and now you are finding that wearing heels is so enjoyable that you are having the fun wearing heels is meant to be.  

I'm all for wearing high heels while exercising in any activity one chooses to participate. Just use your discretion as to the extent you are able to join in and select the heels that will best support your movements.   

True or untrue? The fact is your brother is actually helping you to wear your heels, unless in your brain wearing heels is wrong for men, or more particular you. You may have the desire and access to wearing them, but the conflict in your mind needs to be dealt with. People, like your family, are going to continue causing you to deny the very activity you are already spending/wasting much time and resources craving to openly do, as they find any evidence that you wear heels. Being honest with yourself is just as important as the respect and trust of others. Prisons are not always locked rooms. The limiting of our association from those we care about and want to be with is also a type of prison. 

This is the first moment of the rest of life. You have control and power over the present situation. It can be idled, charted, graphed, and/or planned. Some of it will leave no matter how you deal with it, but the attitude and perspectives maintained or created in it will continue. May they all be used to live in peace and joy with a clear conscience knowing we took the chances to experience the best life has to offer.

Why can't everyone turn off their social critique programming that poaches other's rights to decide their own personal agency and be happy for the person that finds what they like and that brings them joy? May be it is because they haven't been told such agency exists.

Hey jim102,

The reality of this situation is that you have a desire to wear a particular style of footwear that most men haven't been wearing for the life span of most people who will see you. So you are going to get those demeaning comments and/or snickers/laughs when others become aware of your wearing high heels. You have to develop a sense of humor and prepare a potential scenario list of things that could occur, to figure out how you are going to turn any negativity into a positive experience for you. Controlling other people attitudes and opinions is impossible, but you have the power to decide what actions you will present. As Thighbootguy pointed out, your personality and confidence can be that positive factor to generate the diminishing or even eliminating the bad experiences and turn them into letting people know how happy you are and how good you feel in choosing to wear high heels with your selected apparel. You know what styles you like and the way you want to portray them. Women have struggled to gain their spotlight for wearing almost anything the fashion industry has produced, including heels, and men will have to bear the same type of struggles to increase their access to the selections of appareling items they choose to adorn with.  

Lvemadomina,

Apparently, your Pandora's box has been found and you have recovered your chosen footwear. So there is at least two points of actions known to have happened that will probably have to be dealt with. If you are sure it was your mom that discovered your heels, I would approach her by saying something like "I understand you found the shoes/heels I had hidden and you took them away. I have since retrieved them. Could we talk about this?" First of all, does your mom like wearing heels? Why? Has anything similar to or connected in anyway to her discovery of your heels ever happen before? In other words, have you been known to wear similar footwear prior to the latest sequence of incidents your mom would know about. If so, you can refer to such point(s) as evidence of your desire for wearing heels. If not, tell her you like the look of high heels and you have been wearing the heels she found. As was said before, be honest and open while discussing yours and her concerns as much as you feel comfortable revealing. Good luck and may all things go well for you.

Hey Majo, There's a tattoo on his neck that I couldn't totally read and the picture is no longer available right now, at least on line at the Flickr site.

I have seen a person wearing pumps that were once high heeled, but apparently one of the heels had broken. So that they wouldn't be total losses, both heels were cut shorter on the angle that used the part of the heel still remaining. The pointed toe box sloped up severely and the arch was too exaggerated for the height of the heel making them look like shoes cartoon characters would wear.

The idea of lengthening a heel's height would cause the vertical support of the heel to be compromised, although I have seen some shoes that seem to have been fitted with heels shorter than the construction of the shoes was meant to have, because the vertical look of the heel sloped so that the heel tips were more toward and under the arch than the heels of the wearer's feet.