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my family doesnt know yet. my dad is very homophobic and against things he would class as been a 'puff' - not very open minded. as im still under his roof im treading that one very carefully. although away from home, i am wearing my heels on a frequent basis

actually i only have four. my other pair are ankle boots with a wedge heel, and are in a seperate post. although fascinated by footwear of the heeled sort, i have to limit my financial spending as they arent at the minute to be worn as much as my normal mens shoes

try tell joe public that. its modern image that says if a guy does anything remotely feminine, then he is regarded gay, which isnt anything of the truth or logic. looking female wouldnt attract other gay men anyway.

i do work in the back office, The bank would argue that although not illegal or 'not allowed' dress code, that it wouldnt look professional, because even if most of the staff were to agree/like it, there is a customer base of 30000 of which you can say will be a huge percentage who wouldnt stop their laughing for a minute to think about it.

another sad area of the female logic. a male dressing smart etc, would be surely to attract a female??

i was in our work staffroom, and we have a gay lad who was talking womens fashions with some of the girls, he was on about some thing someone had made him do dressing as a woman etc, and i joined in the conversation with a load of my opinions after some laughed. A short skirt is only like a pair of shorts just styled differently, etc, and we all came to a big agreement that fashion and 'someone' basically said that men wear this and women wear this, and people believe it. I said that people create half of that, eg if Paul (the gay lad) was to wonder in in high heels that theyd all laugh without thinking, when really it doesnt really make any difference to anyone, and it would be his choice. It was then agreed that yes they would probably laugh but after a few weeks or a length of time, they would get used to it and accept it, which has given me something to think about

it might sound daft but i went on my first outing in 4.5in stilettos not covered by long jeans, and i was v nervous (because id took the wrong shorter jeans) and my heels were more than visible. on the busiest day in blackpool i walked the golden mile in my heels and i only recall about 3 people actually noticing, and i didnt get a negative reaction, just an odd look, and it was more than worth it. it boosted my confidence a great deal. although i agree that a lower loafer is good for confidence, i never really wanted to wear low loafers, just fairly high heels, therefore i decided to go in head first to what i wanted. and i didnt regret it

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i agree. theres just not enough about of us with the slow want to wear heels, itd help society to have in in their face from more of us, and some celebs to see that it isnt so bad as when you describe it

my uncle

cheers although i do look and done seem toi have much search success

thsnks for the input. its good to have some positive results. Ps i am aware of the 'moody' look but my camera smile is even worse. i try and wear them with the same style as women, jeans etc, so it doesnt look so out of place, only the difference from the normal being a man as the wearer, which some people will just have to get over. Heelfan i dont think im going to try it at work. Im not the pally with a few people there anyway and im sure they would love the opportunity to be nasty, it isnt worth the hassle. Not yet anyway. daz

i know what catches you. they are an attractive pair. what is it with your wife mate? wont she accept it. do you have any heels yourself?

i did all these with the self timer what is it about those denim boots anyway???

thanks shyguy. all input is welcome particularly the positive i talk to richie, the author of the heels4men siite. i agree with his statment that most photographs from heeled men either cut off the body or dont show enough to indicate it is a man wearing them, therefore i wanted to rule that out first daz

im after something similar, that height with a metal heel. l like the look, but logo dont seem to stock any siz 8's from what ive seen.

thats what i think, and what my girlfriend thinks too, its a pity my manager wouldnt share our opinions. but when i get chance this is my style of appearence

As promised i have been fiddling with the camera and heres a few pictures of me in heels. will post more soon, its getting the time at the min.

ps. be warned my camera doesnt like to take a good photo of me . reminds me of how you turn out after using a passport photobooth

me in my work clothes, and my stilettos - how i wish i could go to work!

and again but in my block boots

me more casually dressed in my denim boots (bad photo but purpose to show heels)

also as a further excuse to wear, sometimes play my piano in stilettos too

hope you enjoyed

daz

ever completed outfit in your hat xaphod wouldve loved to join you, but my appetite for french foods and holiday availability caused a certain barrier, but hopefully a future meet will drop on one of my holiday weekends daz

then why dont people manufcture heels in his name or start trends. i wasnt around then but didnt something similar happen with gary glitters platforms.

i agree. although i am as bold as i want to be away from home, the facts are hidden from the people close to me with the exception of jade. i would say though that geting noticed has not yet given me a buzz, rather just wishing my levels of attention attracting are like that of normal female wearers now, where they can go about their normal life and work, clubbing etc in their heels and noone even bothers of the unusuality. i know its unlikely to happen, but i fould be much more comfortable and im sure a few people will agree too. Women have a big advantage on this one!

i agree. sometimes i get over boosted with confidence and go in stilettos and not care, other days im more timid. i cant say ive ever had stumbling problems, my thin heels have always been ok. must have good balance.

off the arguing subect, while we complain that men havent got equal rights to be entitled to mens heels and freely wear them, we have women complaining they dont want to wear them. that on its own is quite strange. now not over assuming but when a girl goes for a job as a waitress, hoping to impress for tips or whatever, she would naturally want to look attractive, rather in a similar way to when a giorl prepares herself to look attractive for the club night out etc, and ive never seen a girl out clubbing without heels yet. id say any girl wanting to be a presentable sexy waitress would choose to wear heels anyway. we have people at our work that wear what id class as high heels all day long without complaint. and i do agree that a boss sets the rules. if the employee doesnht like it, then theres other jobs they can enjoy elsewhere i think its a poor story personally daz

but theres attracting wanted attention, and unwanted jeering too, which is what we were referring to. i know these shoes, jusrt like stilettos are designed to attract looks and turn heads. on the positive i was in scarborough today and had a nice walk along the cliff in my wedge boots and noone even noticed anything different, had my stilettos been on instead i think i wouldve turned a few heads instead ;D

i like these shoes and have heard a few members say they have some, though i never knew they were metal tipped. the story above from exitman is a prime example of what ive always said and feared about my own heeling. He describles waking down the street with people pointing and laughing, the worst scenario for the male heeler. I know weve all heard heelfan etc saying noone cares, but its either location and people in certain areas arent bothered, or we care to notice more than these lads do, because i seem to feel the same as in exitmans tale. It is embarrasing and offputting. I hate to be negative and wouldnt want to discourage anyone, but this is the sort of thing that is annoying. Why cant we do what we want. its not like it hurts anyone. And what makes women so special that they can have any fashion choice on the planet, and then limit men to boring styles and choices. daz