Jo_Happy

I believe it's simply a fashion prefrence and if you like wearing heels as much as the rest of us, than do so. Just be your self and God will love you unconditionaly. Heels or not.

Trust me, I will

t's what society today think is "right" or "wrong".

If society sees more men wearing heels and skirts then it will be "ok" and socially acceptable

Listen, the advice on this board is great and very worthy. But, at the end of the day (or after whatever religious/philosophical argument) you live under your parent's roof. So you need to decide if and how far to argue or if and when you'll move into your place (or give up/hide the shoes).

Good luck either way.

This is my apartment. I am sorry, I must have left that out.

In a way, it's demeaning to women, as they aren't to be taken seriously. The western culture raises them to be sex objects or sexually attractive. Otherwise, why expose the legs, makeup, lipstick, nail polish, high heels, revealing cleavage, etc.? And if they try to dress and act like men (in suits or whatever), then they are not feminine, or worse.

I guess I never saw it from another point a view, but you do have a point there.

johnieheel: Society put a gender on clothing not God. Unfortunatly this is how people think that is the way God wanted it to be.

NewfieGuyInHeels: I am sorry your parents did that to you. Luckily most of my family are pacificist and the most the will do is look at me funny.

Keep in mind that the bible was written a couple thousand years ago by people who thought the earth was flat and for whom a wheelbarrow would have been a significant technological breakthrough. There is no need to feel like you have to debate ignorance when quotes like that are put forth.

Unfortunately, it seems a lot of Christians these days espouse the views of your father. Very sad.

It is very sad and upsetting indeed. Fortunately my father just said what he needed to say that night and never spoke of it again, but I know he is still thinking about it in the back of his head.

Your dad reminds me of mine - he'd quote bible verses at me in an attempt to modify my behaviour, not that I'd thought of wearing heels when he was alive. However it took me until my mid thirties to finally give up that born again Christianity.

Hehe Actually, my grandparents were the one to always start quoting scripture and verses to me. I see where my father gets it now.

It's an off topic, personal question, but I just have to ask. Does your mother wear pants? I'm just really curious and it has nothing to do with this topic. Just curious.

If you want to discuss it with your father, you might see what he thinks of the New International Version Study Bible. It explains in the footnotes that the clothes aren't the point of the passage.

My mother does wear pants, but she will accept whatever I do in life as long as I take pride in doing it.

That is a good point the New International Version Study Bible bring to mind. I know once I discuss that with him he will just say "Oh ok" and go about his business again.

And I do get more positive attention from women since I have started heeling

Religion has nothing to do with whether you wear heels, or skirts, or whatever. Wear your heels proudly and enjoy them to the fullest. You are definately among friends of a like manner here.

Just his comments yesterday rubbed me the wrong way a bit, but nothing has changed I will just wear my shoes.

Hello everyone. First time poster, long time listener. Here is my issue, my father sees on of my canvas/ballet shoes while I am taking a shower and getting ready for work. When I come out of the bathroom he ask "Son...ummm...your shoes over there are alittle....well..girly. Are you ok?" I was a bit shocked at first and I responded "Hehe, dont worry about those and I am fine." Some things to know about my father. He is a southern country Baptists preacher that lives by the Bible and lives strictly by the old ways. I get back from work today. When I walk in the door He says "Son, can we talk about something? I don't mean to pry into your life, but I just have to ask you one question. Are you ok with your sexuality with being a man?" My response is "Yes Dad, I am straight." He then shows me a Bible verse stating women should not wear garments of a man and a man should not wear the garments of a women. I first thought that was foolish since in the World Wars women could only wear dresses, today they can wear anything at all and no one thinks anything of it. When a man wears anything from the slightly feminine he gets regarded as sick, perverted, gay, etc. That situation left me quite upset. My father said nothing more on the subject and went about his business. I imagine he now thinks differently of me now and I do not know if he searched around my things and found my heels. Sorry about the long story, but I felt like I had to share this with someone.