manololover

hey thanks for all the advice, have calmed down a little now so thinking about things with a clearer head. thighboots2- he knows about the site, he has even posted here a few times, it was infact, him that introduced me to the site, so now i cant even tell you guys completely how i feel and get the advice i need cos i know hes reading this.

well it cant get any worse by me posting her, told him i told one of my best friends about his shoe wearing habit, cos i dont want to keep anything from him, she doesnt see anything wrong with it by the way. well he was not impressed, dispite the fact hell probably never meet her, they have nothing in common and shes the most trustworthy person ive ever know. he spent the time i was with him not even able to look at me and i got upset and walked out, which probably wasnt the right thing to do, but i didnt want him to see be cry, which i did as soon as i shut the damn door. i know its his business but i just need someone to talk to about it ever now and again who isnt in our relationship, he doesnt seem to get that. i didnt do it to upset him or anything like that, and i trust my friend even if he doesnt know her, and now im at home and im really feeling quite tipsey, and i know drinking wasnt the answer but its not cos i want to forget the shoes its cos i dont like the thought of him mad at me and i dont want to loose him cos ive never felt this way about anyone, with or without high heels. at the end of the day the shoes are just part of him and its him i want and i wouldnt change anything about him for anything. what the hell is wrong with him, i can have sex with him wearing his high heels but i cant explain how i feel about him or why i need to talk to someone about his flippin shoes. argh manololover x

hey thanks for all the advice its all very much appreciated. its definately something i get more and more comfortable with over time. i dont really think i would be anything less than accepting, but maybe thats just cos i think this guy is really something special so ill accept anything he does, but then again it might just be cos i love shoes. really quite liking his latest pair of hhs, may have to borrow them a lot. take care x

jo- yes i said everyone, if a guy likes wearing heels its something he must try x

dr1819 Thank you very much for your information. As a shoe lover I am familiar with the history of heels but hearing such things is still a comfort. Thighboots2 I fully intend to keep the manolos to myself, I completely accept my boyfriends choice of footwear, and he has now tried on a number of pairs of mine, however this hasn't included my manolos, jimmy choos, or loubotain's, as I can't even bear the thought of a risk of them being stretched. Chris100575 You speak the truth, now i have seen him in them several times they become less obvious to be, although they make him well over 6ft 4. Kneehighs There is a quality difference in the shoes we wear. I'm sure there are people that would argue against me, but there is nothing like the feeling of a pair of jimmy choos. it is infact something i recommed everyone try. it isnt just me either, i know i have several pairs he prefers to his own. I hope I am not misunderstood in any way, I have completely accepted his heel wearing, I don't necessarily find it werid, how could I when he simply loves what I love most, but sometimes I'll just have a thought about them that I don't like, that heels are my thing and if he does it to then maybe I don't have a thing, do you know what i mean? Manololover x

I've been seeing a guy for about 9months, and from the start he told me he enjoyed wearing high heels, but that not many other people knew. I was a little shocked, but decided not to let it put me off as he seemed like a nice guy. I didn't mention the subject for a while, until a few weeks later I asked a few basic questions, like how long he had been doing it for, and what were his shoes like, he was happy to answer my questions and seemed glad of my acceptance. Over the next few weeks my curiosity got the better of me and I asked more and more questions until, as ridiculous as this sounds, I had enough courage to ask to see them. I was worried seeing them would put me off him as it would make it more real, at this stage I think part of me still wanted to deny what he was doing, I'd not known anyone who had done this before. Seeing the shoes didn't put me off though, and my love for shoes got the better of me, and as soon as I saw them I forgot all about there being anything unusual about him wearing them, and tried them on without thinking, conveniently we happen to be a similar size. I wasn't, and still am not a fan of all of the pairs he has, I prefer all of the pairs I own to his, although this is to be expected as I bought mine because I loved all 60 odd pairs. It took me perhaps 3months or so to ask him to put a pair on in front of me, and when he did I was suprised at how little I reacted, they just didn't look that bad. I know my boyfriend is incredibly glad of my acceptance, as am I as he's a lovely guy, however I still get moments where I think of it as weird and find myself pleased I have shoes I consider to be much better than his, but I hate these feelings. Does anyone have any suggestions on how I could overcome this? As I don't want to find myself using at as a point to argue with him in future. I know I seem very accepting of what he does, and on the whole I am, there have even been many times in the past 3months when I have worn his shoes when we have been.....intimate... although I'm just not ready to have him wear them at this time. just think I need someone to talk to about it, as I don't feel I can talk to anyone I currently know, as my boyfriend is reluctant to tell anyone about his habit. manololover