Tacchi Alti

Well done, @GrlNxtDr88 My experience is that most women appear to be threatened by men in heels, as they regard heels as their domain and don't know how to cope! A lot of male heel wearers are in the closet because they know that telling their wives/girlfriends would break up their relationship. I'm very fortunate in that my wife tolerates my heel wearing but only if the heels are not obviously feminine. I wear wedges or block heels most of the time although I have some thinner ones I wear when it wouldn't embarrass her - I've been shopping in stilettos but only away from home and when she hasn't been with me. The amazing thing is that I've never had anyone mention them to me, even when I've worn stilettos.

You're a rare woman, and your boyfriend is very lucky to have you, as no doubt he knows.

20 hours ago, Cali said:

Can you get the women in your car to bring their stilettos?  Make it part of your car's uniform.

A lovely idea but although one used to wear stilettos a lot she now often wears flats. I think her joints are getting painful. The other one I know well just doesn't wear heels at all. I've only met the third one recently so I don't know. Perhaps I could get that idea going for the next big company conference in July, as people tend to dress up for that. Anyway, this day should prove interesting, if only to clarify the goalposts.

On 3/29/2018 at 5:44 AM, HappyinHeels said:

Tacchi Alti,

You may be reading too much into it. I don't know what kind of company this is so I cannot begin to know what their corporate culture is. This may not be the best venue to stretch your freestyling envelope. If you wore a skirt and if your wife was okay with it and if the other women actually wear what they said they would then it may all work out. Notice the three "ifs" in the last sentence? When there is this much uncertainty the above comments of Shyheels and Steve63130 may prove prophetic indeed. Perhaps save your skirt and alternative heels for home time or a time and place outside your local area. Only you can best gauge what is in your best interest. Thanks nevertheless for throwing the topic up for discussion at the virtual bar with virtual beers all around.   HappyinHeels

Thanks. I appreciate everyone's concern and wise advice. I won't get sacked, as I'm self-employed, and something actually written into the company's mission statement is the word 'fun', so it would be taken in good part by everyone if (that word again!) I get the support and contribution of the ladies in question. I always wear heels to company events anyway, so that wouldn't be new. Perhaps stilettos would be new... I'll just wait and see what happens. I'll wear my block heel boots and possibly put a pair of stilettos in the car.

Perhaps the post would have been more appropriate in the Ultra High Heels forum. There's been various discussion on these lines previously.

22 hours ago, pebblesf said:

The thing that concerns me is I think you said this is a business trip/outing.  Generally speaking, it is usually best to keep your work and personal lives separate.  But, I am not you, and I know nothing about your work environment.  Nonetheless, I would give it some thought before jumping into the skirt. 

On the other hand, you have worn block heeled shoes/boots with your coworkers before, so no one will be "surprised". 

I would certainly bring the skirt/gear on the trip though, just in case you decide the occasion is right. 

You mentioned the wife also I think, so certainly make sure she is OK with it before going on the trip...

Have fun!  I'm envious for sure....

These guys look great.  The combination of feminine and masculine gear screams confidence, would love to be able to achieve this look for sure

I wouldn't bring the skirt myself. I'd say that if they wanted me in one they should bring it. That will put the onus on them, and a get-out for me. I doubt this will get beyond fantasy, but we can always dream. I sent one of them a FB message just saying my male brain was trying to process the signals they gave out, from the initial remark to the detailed discussion about clothes, and ascertaining how serious they were, as I didn't have the female seventh sense. She thought my message was hilarious and said the bit about the matching colours was serious, as was the bird pattern - an extra touch by one of them. I didn't mention anything else specifically. Anyway, it's sown the seed. It's obvious they regard me as 'one of them'. The one I contacted had already said in a group message that they should call me Charlie, and they were the three angels. I saw her and another of them at a business presentation last evening and I greeted them loudly as 'my angels', much to everyone's amusement, and there were hugs and kisses. That's not unusual in this business, BTW. These aren't giggly teenagers - the youngest is in her thirties and the other two are in their forties and fifties.

I wouldn't tell my wife! She'd see the new shirt, of course, but that wouldn't cause any problems. Any footwear other than my usual heels would have to be smuggled into the car. I have some black suede stilettos with round toes and heels just over 4 inches. I could take those and test the temperature - even just to wear in usual man mode.

I'm not particularly interested in wearing a skirt but as part of an overall good time and coming out properly in heels it would take a lot of beating, and if my heels were on show I'm sure I'd get some comments, including how well I can walk in them, etc. Everyone says I have great legs (modest...) so there might even be a bit of light-hearted bitching there.

I had a very interesting time on Saturday, out for the day at a business meeting with three ladies. One of them took her car so we converged on her house to get a lift. When I arrived, they said, You're the odd one out - we're all wearing skirts! I said it's a real shame I didn't know the dress code before I arrived! I was wearing my usual 4.5 inch block heels, but no comment was made, although I'm sure they know I wear them. I've known two of them for over three years. Even then, could you really sit next to someone in the back seat of the car for over an hour without that other person seeing what you're wearing? Anyway, the four of us are going to another business training on 14 April and we've decided our clothes will match for colour (blue) and our tops will have pictures of birds on. I'm now just waiting for a few prompts, as we're on a separate FB chat group. I would absolutely love the opportunity to wear something more daring in the way of shoes - some blue stilettos, perhaps? It will be a 'safe' environment - the company's head office - with moral support from three others. However, I don't want to force the issue, obviously. Perhaps I should get my blue heels in anticipation... One of them might even provide a skirt! I shouldn't get my hopes up too far, but it certainly made for a very interesting conversation.

Now those toes are pointy!

10 hours ago, pebblesf said:

Killer booties for sure, can't wait to see you in them...

I love them!

On 26/02/2018 at 10:06 AM, Shyheels said:

Interesting story. 

The comments are predictable, of course, from 'good for him' to 'how dare he'! One particularly vociferous idiot also shows crass ignorance of fashion and history.

21 hours ago, at9 said:

In the phone settings on my phone (an old Samsung S3) there are 2 different ways for it to connect to a PC. From memory (fallible) one is as a storage device, the other is as a media device. Ihave it connected as storage. It's fairly slow, takes a few seconds to recognise that the phone has been connected and occasionally needs a 2nd attempt.

Tried all that! It simply doesn't recognise anything - not even the phone! The other phones I've had were fine, and yes, there are two storage bits - phone and SD card. I always save photos to the SD card.

3 minutes ago, at9 said:

Idea:  Email the photo to yourself from the phone.

I transfer photos from my Samsung phone to my PC witha USB cable. The PC recognises the phone as a storage device. Have to go down the file system to DCIM\Camera to find the photos.

I used to be able to do that with every other phone I've had. On this one I've even tried installing the company's own software to facilitate it but it simply won't show the drive anywhere!

17 minutes ago, Rob said:

Thank you.

A UK men’s 7 or 8 (an 8 in narrower shoes, a 7 in wider) which generally makes me a 8 in UK Women’s (but occasionally a 7).

They have a 7 in black or burgundy but not an 8. They are reasonably wide and my size 8 feet fit quite easily into the 8, but of course I can't say whether your feet would fit. This is the link. https://www.ebay.co.uk/itm/161841100417

8 minutes ago, jeremy1986 said:

oh well - would love to see if you work it out!

Here, I hope, is a picture. I've had to connect via my phone.

46 minutes ago, Rob said:

Nice boots, and fairly masculine.

Do you have a link to their Ebay listing please?

Not sure they're still available, but will check. What size are you?

1 hour ago, jeremy1986 said:

Well done - sounds like it was a success - even if no one landed up chatting with you about them. maybe on Wednesday? 

I hope so, if we get there! Not sure what the weather will throw at us in the next 24 hours! It's been snowing here, and is now snowing again. I took a couple of pictures of my high heeled footprints in the snow. An interesting shape - cleated sole and fairly narrow wedge. I can't upload it direct as I'm on a computer, the photo is on my phone, and I've never found a simple way of transferring files as the SD card is not recognised as a drive when I attach the phone to the computer! I have to take out the phone and insert it in the card slot on my computer, and this computer has no working card slot...

On 23/02/2018 at 10:48 AM, Jkrenzer said:

Ok, now I'm curious, what kind of conference causes you to get glitter on your face?

It was the last one before Christmas and I won a place in the VIP enclosure. Most people there were getting glitter applied, with gel put on part of the face (in my case above one eyebrow like a lot were having done) and glitter attached. One guy I know well had a line of it right along his bald head like a Mohican job. It's a network marketing company and you couldn't ask for a more friendly and open bunch of people. Probably at least 80% are women. The word 'fun' is actually written in the company's mission statement. If anyone in the company asks me, I'll say to start with that I'd noticed that a lot of the successful people in the business wear heels, so I hoped it might give me the edge. I'll then go on to tell them the 'bad back' reason.

I wore the block heels this time and had no comments at all although I know quite a few people saw them, including ladies sitting either side of me. One of them has since friended me on Facebook so it couldn't have freaked her out. She had some lovely patent stilettos on, herself. There were lot of lovely heels around, including some orgasmic single sole red sandals with heels at least 5 inches, and the wearer's feet were quite small. I wish I'd had a chance to talk to her and compliment her on them. It's always interesting to see how well people walk in heels, too.

I'll wear the same ones on Wednesday to a company training in London. I'll be in the car with a couple of ladies and the light levels will be much higher in the room, so I'll have nowhere to hide them!

On 23/02/2018 at 10:16 PM, Puffer said:

You could try 'painting' the plastic patent loafers with a semi-matt (satin) varnish; it should 'take' if the plastic is clean and ought not to crack unless unduly flexed.   A solvent-based varnish would be better (more durable) but nowadays is less easy to find than water-based.   An aerosol might be easiest to use - try craft shops.

I've used shoe dye on several pairs, although of course this would be no good in this case. Anything that cracks would be a no no. I've thought of getting a brillo pad to them but that might destroy the surface completely.

I have a pair of peep-toe booties with block heels, bought on an impulse, but I've never worn them as I don't really like peep toes as I see them as too feminine for the conservative look I generally favour. I'm looking everywhere for a pair of closed-toe wedge mules to wear as slippers, possibly with other people around too, but can't find anything.

7 hours ago, HHMafia said:

Stilleto penny loafer Just bought these, something about penny loafer stilleto that I love. Yes I know the heel is border line, but it is the thinnest I've seen as of late in a loafer this high

You know, I've been looking everywhere for a pair with block heels and ordinary leather - not patent. I found some cheap patent ones and bought them simply because they were the right style, but I've never worn them in public. If I could remove the shine I'd probably wear them, but they are plastic, not leather.

5 hours ago, Cali said:

All in due time.

The due time has been over three years! I'll be travelling in the car with three females, two of whom I know fairly well, so I don't think they could possibly miss the heels. They are nice boots and as masculine as could be with 4.5 inch heels!

I've probably told everyone here before that at the previous such conference I travelled back by train in my usual wedges and also with glitter on my face. Three people commented to me positively on the glitter, but no one mentioned my boots although they'd have been clearly visible while I was sitting down. So people do comment about some things, but possibly thought my heels were something beyond the pale and not to be mentioned.

23 minutes ago, CAT said:

Go with the less noticeable boots. However, if you want to get noticed wear the stilettos I know I would and do.  

Also if you think you may get in trouble from your wife or others you might as well make it worth the trouble and wear the stilettos!!!!  LOL.  actually it’s not worth upsetting your wife over a pair of shoes.  I always put my family first when I think about where I am going to dress appropriately.   

CAT

I couldn't care less what strangers think but I don't want to upset or embarrass those close to me. So if I wore stilettos I'd have to make sure it didn't get back to my wife or anyone else who might be upset! Probably not worth the risk although I'd absolutely love to wear them - perhaps the 5.5 inchers in my avatar... Well, perhaps something a little more restrained!

2 minutes ago, jeremy1986 said:

Well keep us posted!

I suppose it's possible a lot of them have seen them but are waiting for me to mention them! They are really lovely people and perhaps are afraid of embarrassing me by mentioning them. The first time I wore them I told the girl who took me in her car (I actually got her to take them and some longer trousers from me earlier in the week and put them in her car, as I hadn't told my wife I was going to wear them), and afterwards I asked if anyone had said anything to her, but apparently no one had. That was three years ago. I've worn those wedges to every conference since, apart from one when I wore my hidden heels. So if I wear 4.5 inch block heels will someone comment???

8 minutes ago, jeremy1986 said:

I think we would all like to be noticed and complimented. It feels great! If that's what you're looking for, choose the less safe choice!

The main thing for me right now is to get a conversation started. Once someone mentions them (and I know the girl quite well who will be driving - I'm sure she's noticed at local meetings, if only because of my change in height) I can perhaps see how things go and lead on from there. My story about my back will be more convincing if I wear more subtle styles. If the conversation gets more specific I could see how things go for suggesting other styles. I love Cali's attitude on this: If I have to wear them I might as well make the most of it! I've worn my wedges to at least five such conferences without so much as any sort of audible comment. I actually want people to know my story so that they can tell other people. Then I can wear other styles, such as sandals, to more informal meetings. I'm not going to blurt it out; I want someone to start a conversation.

4 minutes ago, jeremy1986 said:

Yes, I like the other choicee (even the wedges - which are fab!) more 

Much more subtle, and not so obviously feminine. I'm hoping someone will notice and mention them! There's a bit of an exhibitionist in me!