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  New Year’s Eve and I’m going to stay up past midnight.  Not to cheer in th new year in but to make sure the old one is gone!

5 hours ago, hhlvr72 said:

Just curious what other kinks folks have that drew them to wearing heels.  I know I felt the urge from my first memory and have evolved over the years on how I act that out.  Would love to hear about others stories if you feel like sharing.

Other than wearing heels and stockings (because of the shoes) I am a boring as hell normal male 

Life continues despite current conditions.  This morning, on my way to visit a client experiencing business difficulties due to “the virus,” I stopped at one of my favorite restaurants for breakfast.  Since temperatures for this region have been significantly below normal over the past several days, I wasn’t surprised to see several women warmly dressed including boots.  One lady in particular, was wearing a pair of knee high black boots with rather thick 4” heels.  Very attractive with cuffs at the top.  It isn’t often these days that I see any woman wearing footwear that appeals to me.  However, this particular pair caught my eye to point where I admitted that I wouldn’t mind owning a pair for myself.  Before I could approach her to inquire as to where sh purchased them, she had finished eating and had left the restaurant.  I was wearing a pair of black suede Nine West Ankle boots with 4 3/4” heels, which I bought in the spring of 2008 and are one of my favorite “go to” pair of cold weather footwear.

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The only thing I can remember is that one day she quit appearing on her site and another member kept the site going until he lost the source code and the site went off line. 

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Lots of words about women’s shoes being uncomfortable but I haven’t read anywhere about women’s shoes being crafted to make their feet look small and dainty.  The fashion for over a couple of centuries has held that female feet are not part of their anatomy that should appear to be “large”.  Dainty is feminine.  Women’s shoes are  made to be close, or tight fitting. Large is masculine.   Men’s shoes are practIcal.  Whether dress shoes or work boots they are crafted to enhance masculine characteristics or to withstand work situations.  

Years ago, there was a member here that took a part time job as a salesperson in a women’s shoe store thinking that it would facilitate his access to buying heels for himself.  Which I it did.    As an aside to this experience, he enlightened many of us to his learning about women’s shoe buying habits and practices.  Mainly their insistence on purchasing footwear that was, on average, a whole size smaller or narrower than fit their feet properly.  Main reason, feminine appearance.  

 Now most of us here can personally attest to how uncomfortable and painful wearing ill fitting footwear can be.  Over the years, I have worn styles of heels that were very uncomfortable— but not for long.  I’ve obtained my “girls shoes” in every way conceivable. From buying on line to my wife buying them for me, as well as trying them on in stores,  

I wear heels of one style or another daily without discomfort of any sort.  Mainly because I only wear shoes that fit properly.  Granted, at my age, my feet tend to become tired if I wear 5” or 6” heel for extended periods.  But, rarely do I suffer from sore feet after a day in heels.  Bottom line, (observations by me, a man with a wife and two daughters) most women wear shoes that are poorly constructed or do not fit properly.  

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On 12/21/2020 at 11:49 AM, RonC said:

That was my first thought, just a slightly different melt rate.  I also saw a pair of heels in Costco the other day, though like your sighting, they were relatively tame.  A pair of Michael Kors black patent leather loafers with about a 3.5" chunky heel, like these.  I recognize them as I have desired a pair for myself, but the size 11 runs rather small and were too tight on me, and that is the largest size.  Anyway, the lady wearing them had paired them with black leggings and sheer black nylons.  She looked quite nice in them.

I have several pair of this style.  One pair with 2” heels, a pair with 4” heels and a pair of brown suede with 5” heels.  The first two pairs are my “go to anywhere shoes and the 5” heels are worn on special occasions.

I must say that outfit is rather eye catching!

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OThe old saying that life is a crap shoot is really true.  There is absolutely nothing more complicated than a relationship between two people.  There are about one hundred and thirty seven billion men and women in this world and one hundred and thirty seven trillion ways longterm committed relationships can unravel.  What’s acceptable this morning can be be totally infuriating and world destructively irritating shortly after 12 pm the same day.  Reasons for dissolving this togetherness are as many and varied as there are relationships.  Our archives are loaded with stories from heels wearing men telling about their relationship breakups. Everting from “she can’t stand the thought of my wearing heels” to (one of my favorites) ”I went broke from my wife buying expensive woman’s clothing for me to wear”.  Some breakups are devastating.  Some are absolutely mind saving and Hugh reliefs.  One thing is abundantly clear— sanity and insanity forever will reign supreme.  The prime absolute in all relationships is what psychological conditions are hibernating within each person and not knowing which thought/feeling will cause one to pull the trigger.

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Even the most mundane things can be done while wearing heels:-)

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I I’ve had several different hobbies over the years.  Hunting, fishing, skydiving, flying, as well as others.  All of which I have had (or, would have had) no problem quitting if the need arose  ( I have given up the more strenuous ones due to my age).  However, when it came to wearing “ heels and girls shoes”, some of my earliest memories are of my playing in my mother’s clothes closet and clomping around our house in her heels.)  Over the years I’ve tried to stop wearing heels.  But, the urge to wear them would reappear after a month or so and become more intense as time passed. Giving into satisfying this urge only to have it reappeared just as strong, or stronger, in a few weeks, just added to my pent-up anxiety. (Take it as fact. The desire will never go away.)

 About the age of 16, when I was in high school, I decided to stop trying to quit and accept the fact that wearing heels and girls shoes would be always be with me.  And, from that point on, I have never tried to stop.  In fact, I have always owned more girls shoes than I ever owned boys or men’s shoes.  I actually enjoy wearing my heels and other feminine styles.  And continue to wear them every day.  
 
The main problem with being a man wearing heels is dealing with the “male wearing female” accessories problem, which is ingrained in children from the moment of their birth.  There are many different ways of dealing with this aspect, beginning with a thick skin and attitude of going about one’s business as normal paying no attention to those around you.

And, there are some real problems associated with this practice.  Perhaps the most troubling is that of telling a prospective mate about your wearing high heels. My advice on handling this situation, and one I used myself, is to tell your prospective mate about your wearing heels as quickly as it becomes obvious that your relationship has the possibility of developing beyond the normal” boyfriend/girlfriend level.   
 
Each and every potential life long relationship must be built on absolute trust if it is to endure beyond the point where your mate discovers your secret.  Most likely, your wife (at that point) will, in all likelihood, wonder what else haven’t you told her. What other secrets are yet to be learned.  The stakes are even higher if she finds out and there are children involved.  Should the revelation be such that she isn’t able to handle and want to split, the effects could be life long for yourself, your wife and children.

She deserves the right to decide whether to  become more deeply involved with you based upon everything about you.  The truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth.  (Likewise, she is obliged to reveal her true self to you, also)

The archives of this site are filled with stories about the consequences of men that waited until after marriage to disclose their true selves.  Some of them heart wrenching to say the least.

11 hours ago, mlroseplant said:

My wife threatens to send me to Thailand, where they can do these sorts of things much cheaper, on a regular basis. I am quite sure that she's at least 80% joking.

Keep checking the credit cards to see if she bought you ticket.

Did you use the same pass name?