Amanda Posted September 9, 2012 Share Posted September 9, 2012 I noticed that a lot of older threads have been locked. I wanted to revive this one because it's a topic that interests me. Some people feel that wearing heels is a sign of submission. Personally I find it to be the opposite. I see them to be an essential badge of status and assertiveness in a female lead relationship. Submissive or assertive or neither? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alicia Posted September 9, 2012 Share Posted September 9, 2012 As a business lady, I am more concerned about the footwear styles available for wear to work as well as the style of fashions. I usually invest in more high heel boots for work because these days the business needs might require footwear that are dressy especially in the admin or management . High heel boots not only show my authority position in work but also define me as a assertive person. Getting dressed up……work’s almost as good as Friday night out. The secret to effective dressing is to do it all the time. You will feel more motivated to do your best everyday. The red boots can get all the attention but the black boots can definitely let the whole outfits speak Boot me up, Boot me down Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shafted Posted September 9, 2012 Share Posted September 9, 2012 [Moderator Mode] I can unlock the old thread and merge it with this one. Just need the name of the other thread. Thanks Shafted, the boots that is! View my gallery here http://www.hhplace.o...afteds-gallery/ or view my heeling thread here http://www.hhplace.org/topic/3850-new-pair-of-boots-starts-me-serious-street-heeling/ - Pm me if you want fashion advice or just need someone to talk to. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amanda Posted September 10, 2012 Author Share Posted September 10, 2012 Thank you but I think this one will do fine without being merged xx [Moderator Mode] I can unlock the old thread and merge it with this one. Just need the name of the other thread. Thanks Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
meganiwish Posted September 11, 2012 Share Posted September 11, 2012 Oh gosh, assertive, totally. Unless you've got them so high that you're effectively hobbled. But contrast them with that piece of male wear, the necktie, often seen as a sign of authority. and which originated in the noose worn round the neck by slaves. Shoes are beautiful things. Who drools over a necktie? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amanda Posted September 11, 2012 Author Share Posted September 11, 2012 Well technically a neck tie is a display of ownership. The wearer of the tie being owned by that company, club, society etc. I see ties as a submissive badge rather than authoritive. However, I don't find myself drooling over them, I prefer the look of a stout leather collar on a man or even a metal one. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
meganiwish Posted September 12, 2012 Share Posted September 12, 2012 Do you use a leash? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amanda Posted September 12, 2012 Author Share Posted September 12, 2012 I have indeed used leashes Megan along with all manner of other restraints. :-) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Roxyinheels Posted September 12, 2012 Share Posted September 12, 2012 High heels, and of course, high heeled thigh boots, are universal symbols of the femenine power of seduction. I like high heels as part of all that "paraphernalia" typical of Dommes., high heels, leather, long gloves....whips and floggers...I consider this so sexy and attractive In fact, I came into this BDSM world strongly attracted, first, by the classical aesthetic...and then , the implied authority that grants women Some people feel that wearing heels is a sign of submission Amanda, I think they have no idea. Elegance is my second name Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amanda Posted September 12, 2012 Author Share Posted September 12, 2012 Amanda, I think they have no idea. Very possibly not. By the way, did you have any idea that your HHP mailbox is full? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Roxyinheels Posted September 12, 2012 Share Posted September 12, 2012 LOL you are so right!!! In fact, I havent any idea about the new HHP system Elegance is my second name Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amanda Posted September 12, 2012 Author Share Posted September 12, 2012 (edited) I was going to send an interesting link to your mailbox. Do let me know if you get around to clearing it out xx Edited September 12, 2012 by Amanda Snake Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
killer heels Posted September 13, 2012 Share Posted September 13, 2012 Hmmmm....I have a slave collar I've utilised once or twice ....these and whips complement heels and leather clothing perfectly. I'm not all that happy with the one whip I do have....is a long tailed lash. I'd like one with shorter leather tails.....any suggestions welcome! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Roxyinheels Posted September 17, 2012 Share Posted September 17, 2012 I like high heels associated with female domination because the glamour, elegance and seduction of a beautiful woman are the powerful tools of sexual power. However, I'm not interested in punishments but simply be the most desirable to be served and obeyed. My concept of sadism is not be the other side of a masochist but the breaking of the rules. High heels in everyday situations, especially boots, is one of the rules that I like to break. Men have a very attentive radar to detect women who break rules. Usually they have a very gallant and submissive behavior that causes me much pleasure. Elegance is my second name Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sly Fox Posted September 29, 2012 Share Posted September 29, 2012 I don't think it is down to the shoes themselves, but more the attitude of the wearer. A submissive person won't change their personality trait because of their shoes (although they may feel more confident for reasons mentioned in one of your earlier threads), and equally someone who is dominant won't change if they wear flats. I know of enough women who are submissive and wear high heels - I (rather unkindly??!!) wonder whether there's a small element of seeking male approval behind some of that - maybe that is what people view as being submissive? I'm sure there will be a chorus of disgust at my writing that..... sorry!! I think that a lot of the discussion comes down to the confidence and heels thing, and whether wearing them makes you feel more confident and why. Once I'm at work I am compelled to wear flat shoes, but that doesn't change my attitude or my status. The latter is what I've worked hard to achieve and what makes me dominant, not my shoes Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
killer heels Posted October 10, 2012 Share Posted October 10, 2012 Despite what I wrote above I am aware I'm more submissive than dominant and would accept there's an element of male pleasing in my look and choice of heels, I feel ok admitting that kind of thing here Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
raphaela Posted October 10, 2012 Share Posted October 10, 2012 I am clearly more sub and I like heels together with corsets and tight clothes, and also quite long nails, because of their restrictive aspects. Mostly, for daily wear at least, it is more a lifestyle for me than a BDSM thing, although I would like someone forcing me more into this in private. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
killer heels Posted October 11, 2012 Share Posted October 11, 2012 I feel similar Raphaela, not sure I like heels for their restriction.....but also love tights skirts and sometimes corsets. Love having long nails too where practical.( or not lol) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amanda Posted November 4, 2012 Author Share Posted November 4, 2012 So heels can be seen as restricting or empowering. it's an intersting topic. I wonder how the male members of the site feel about it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
raphaela Posted November 4, 2012 Share Posted November 4, 2012 So heels can be seen as restricting or empowering. it's an intersting topic. I wonder how the male members of the site feel about it? Yes interesting... But I think you would have to ask that in the everybody-section to get their responses Yes interesting... But I think you would have to ask that in the everybody-section to get their responses Oops, sorry Amanda, seems you actually did :-) http://www.hhplace.org/topic/20459-restriction-or-empowerment/page__pid__300441 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amanda Posted November 4, 2012 Author Share Posted November 4, 2012 :-) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Roxyinheels Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 Girls....among us....in sex questions, .the fem - submission is being forced to do what the woman actually likes Elegance is my second name Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amanda Posted November 5, 2012 Author Share Posted November 5, 2012 Girls....among us....in sex questions, .the fem - submission is being forced to do what the woman actually likes Topping from the bottom as it were? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Roxyinheels Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 Absolutely my dear. If you wanna know a real Domme girl, go to a BDSM forum and look for submissive girls. Elegance is my second name Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
raphaela Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 Girls....among us....in sex questions, .the fem - submission is being forced to do what the woman actually likes I agree. And I am sub :-) 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
meganiwish Posted November 6, 2012 Share Posted November 6, 2012 Yes, my chap, when I had one, thought he got what he wanted, but.... well I don't want to push this too far. Oh, what he wanted was much what I did, but he didn't know. All right,I accept the title of World;s Worst Femme Fatale Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amanda Posted November 11, 2012 Author Share Posted November 11, 2012 http://www.dreamloverlabs.com/theory.php I can recommend this useful tool for those of you interested in initiating female lead relationship. Xx A Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MartaGanz Posted November 12, 2012 Share Posted November 12, 2012 This looks great! Thank you, Amanda. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amanda Posted November 13, 2012 Author Share Posted November 13, 2012 This looks great! Thank you, Amanda. My pleasure, I think it may be a potential way forward for mankind given its current crisis condition. Some of my close friends have also been experimenting and have been very pleased with the results. I didn't mean to "derail" the thread but I cant help wanting to share such an important discovery. Ill stop here though before I get any further warning points. feel free to mail me here if youre interested and in need of advice xxx This looks great! Thank you, Amanda. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amanda Posted November 16, 2012 Author Share Posted November 16, 2012 http://www.brassiered.com/tamingthecagedbeast/introduction.html I found this link for one of our members here, she likes the idea and this provides some more detailed insight. You'll need to click bottom right for each chapter. "Enjoy" (Gosh I dislike that catch phrase) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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