l have just recently joined and I have was struggling with the same question 6 months ago.
Is it just a love affair with women's shoes ? (Fetish)
Or, am I now a cross dresser because I wear ladies underwear daily and spend more time looking for that perfect women's sweater or pair of jeans ?
I have chosen the later.
The cross dressing style that I strive for Is being manly enough without drawing excessive attention . As long as the cloths are women's I get the same sense of satisfaction and fulfillment wearing them.
Trying to incorporate is behavior into a marriage can be a challenge, my wife is very traditional but she is realizing quickly that there are more important things to take issue over in life.
Yes, I am a cross dresser I find women's shoes and cloths appealing and satisfying. I have recently opened up to a few close friends that have been nothing but supportative. I realize that not everyone is going to be so understanding so as I expand my new style I need to be aware of who may be in my company and the value of or relationship.
i hope this helps...