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  1. I can't believe how long it has been since I posted here. I am still getting out. I just don't feel the need to post as much as I use to. Here is a recent photo I took while out and about.
    4 points
  2. Happy Palm Sunday, everyone. It sure was cold and rainy for the load-in yesterday. It was cold and less rainy for the load-out. I had to set my camera back in the garage so it wouldn't get wet. One thing about the major religious holidays is that church attendance is way up compared to normal. Next Sunday at Easter there is a chance we'll have a packed sanctuary, which I haven't seen in years. As an aside, my Jewish friend from the Twin Cities just sent me pictures of her Purim service, and it looked well attended also. She wasn't wearing heels, though! I didn't necessarily wear anything different than normal, but I did get caught up on ironing last week when I was sick, so my shirt and pants haven't seen the light of day for some time, even though they are not new. Also having not gotten much love lately (judging from the cobwebs I had to knock off of them) are my BCBGeneration Sassafras boots. I figured this was one of the last chances I'd have to wear them for the season. The only thing I really don't like about them is that they are really too big around for me, and an inch too tall by my estimation. I hadn't been walking for 8 days because of my illness, and I almost overdid it today. I walked 3 miles (in other boots) and wore these boots for about 4 hours directly after. My feet actually cramped up a little bit as I was trying to get the boots off.
    3 points
  3. Walking in heels. Something I never thought about until the first time I wore them in front of my wife. She was just my girlfriend at the time but we had been dating for several months. I met her on our first day at college. We hit it off from the first moment we met and when it became apparent that we were going to be more than boyfriend and girlfriend, I decided that it was time I told her about my life long love of wearing heels so that if she had a problem with that part of my personality, she could call it quits before we became to involved. One evening coming home after nice dinner at a good restaurant, I decided to bring the subject up. I thoroughly explained my situation along with a complete history description. I even told her that I owned several pairs that I would occasionally wear around my room where I was living. She told me that she had thought there was something unusual about my choice of footwear because my shoes, even though they could be worn by a man, were of styles that could be found in the women’s section of any shoe store. After a lengthy discussion, we decided that the following day I would bring a pair of my heels over to her place and show them to her. I picked her up the next afternoon and we drove to an excluded place out in the country. I chose a great pair of black patent pumps with 5” heels that I had owned for a couple of years, that were very comfortable and I could walk for miles while wearing them without discomfort. I changed into my pumps and we got out of the car and started walking down the road. While we were walking along, I explained that I realized that this desire was unusual and that over the years I had tried my best to stop. But after not wearing them for several weeks, my attitude became troubling and the desire so strong that I couldn’t help but start wearing them. So I decided since I couldn’t stop l would never try to quit wearing them again. Her reaction was one of curiosity. She asked many questions about my parents reaction and my experiences wearing heels in public, One of her comments was how surprised she was that I could walk so well without difficulty while wearing heels as high as these. How long did it take me to learn to walk in them? I replied that I had been wearing heels since before I was two years old while playing in my mother’s clothes closet. So, wondering about how I learned how to walk in heels was something that I had never thought about. Walking in heels was as natural to me as going barefoot. We walked back to the car and drove home. As she was getting out at her place, she said that I had taken her completely by surprise springing this upon her the way I did and that she would have to think about it before she could decide how it would effect us. She asked me not to call her for awhile. She said that she would call me when she sorted things out and had some idea how to deal with it.
    3 points
  4. Couldn't find another topic page with this topic, although I was sure there was one, so I started another. I have too many pairs of high heeled shoes/boots/sandals/whatever. That means I can only wear them when I am not working, working out, sailing/flying, or hiking/hunting. I have a dedicated pair of boots or shoes for all of those activities, then at least fifty pairs of heels that are just for fun. Need to downsize, my LA apartment is too small for such indulgences, but I can't get rid of most of them. They were either a conquest in finding what I had been looking for, or lucky breaks. Pretty sure the right thing to do is to actually look at which ones I really wear, which isn't many, and get rid of the rest. Anyway, you have the floor. any advice, stories, or even commiseration is welcome here. Some of the shoes I have could be sold for a few bucks, but most can't. Just a loss...
    2 points
  5. Great boots and leggings for sure
    2 points
  6. Here are my latest. The brand is ALDO. I got these on a local buy and sell for only $25. And the previous owner only wore them once, so they are in mint condition!
    2 points
  7. Now, back on topic. Seeing a man wearing a pair of high heel shoes evokes impressions of a man dressing as a woman which could be considered as being mildly sexually deviant in today’s society. Since high heels have been associated exclusively with the female gender over the past couple of centuries, any male sporting a fashionable pair of elegant Black Patient leather pumps with five inch heels on his feet would be an unusual sight and could become subject of intense conversation when he’s wearing them in public. While the practice has become increasingly accepted these days, it still largely remains controversial. It seems that in the past decade people have become more likely to discuss the pro’s and cons of crossdressing (which some psychologists believe wearing only heels to be) than to openly condemn the practice. Those men that have been wearing their “girls shoes” openly in public for years can attest to this measurable change in attitude, having personally experienced the “slings and arrow” rebukes, insults and criticisms intensely directed in their direction in the past. The degree that any male desire to wear female attire, whether it’s 100.% passing as a female or occasionally mixing items of women’s clothing, such as shirts, blouses, jackets or shoes, is immaterial. For the most part, the person dawning the clothes is usually doing so to satisfy their own desires and not to try to deceive or fool others into believing they are something they aren’t. The accepted norms for female fashion is much more complicated and complex than male dressing as those of us that have female partners are aware. The choice of clothing to match the event, color and proper accessories accenting “the look”, among other attributes, is intensely important. The main accessory that can “make or break” the overall appearance of the “look” is the shoes. The choices for men are is severely limited - work, play or dress up. Women’s choices, on the other hand, are as numerous as the different species of flowers. Fashionable dressed women work over time selecting “just the right pair” to succeed in accomplishing their dream appearance. The aspect that is most common to both genders, when it comes to wearing high heels, is walking while wearing them. Whether you’re a man or a woman you have identical problems. You have to learn how to walk properly while wearing them. Some men/women are natural wearers. They pop on a pair and trot on off about their business unaware they are even wearing high heels. Others encounter physical difficulties they cannot overcome. It’s those in between that need training and proper instruction. For those “first time” wearers, it is only to human nature to try them on the first time they get their hands on a pair. Once they have satisfied their curiosity and decide to continue wearing them, it would be a good time to talk with an experienced wearer, comparing and discussing sizing and professional instruction, should they feel it would be helpful. Keep in mind that acquiring professional instruction early on would be very beneficial before developing harmful practices and hard to break habits that could lead to physical discomfort. Thoroughly reviewing websites on the internet and using email evaluate course content could be very helpful. Most importantly, be aware that wearing an absolutely beautiful pair of high heels is an enormously satisfying and thoroughly pleasurable sensation that there is. Once you’ve began, you’ll never quit.
    2 points
  8. Good to see you around @Mr. X
    2 points
  9. Ah, a subject near and dear to my heart, and one which I have probably spent way too much time contemplating. Aside from a few fetish people, the most recent example being the "leaner" guy who posted elsewhere on this forum, I think we can all agree that the ideal situation is to appear as though walking in heels is completely effortless. I do agree that there are a ton of fairly useless videos out there, and a few that actually give horrible advice. As you have surely discovered, there are a few exponents out there who still advise walking toe-to-heel, something I defy somebody to actually accomplish. We'll make exceptions for ballerinas and professional Latin dancers, but it's a patently ridiculous assertion that anybody should ever walk this way. Nobody walks that way, even in bare feet. That being said, one definitely does not want to strike the ground aggressively with the heel, it is there to act as a stabilizer for just an instant until the ball of the foot can contact the ground. Ignore this advice at your peril! Don't ask me how I know. So it all comes down to what you really want to accomplish with your walk. It has been the subject of much debate just exactly how much femininity, if any, that a guy needs to emulate while walking in heels. I don't mind striving toward the more feminine looking walk, but more important to me is attempting to minimize my natural bowleggedness. Therefore, I spend a lot of effort trying to walk with my knees together, something that is not traditionally natural for me. This becomes more and more difficult the steeper you go, for reasons I cannot really explain. I see I have STILL not answered your question, and I cannot do so at this time, as I have run out of time. I gotta go to work. If there is still interest in the next couple of days, I will continue.
    2 points
  10. Here's a little outfit I put together to run some errands yesterday when I got to feeling a little better.
    2 points
  11. Hi all, After many many, many years of just reading, I feel I owe it to you all to finally introduce myself. I first stumbled into the high-heel topic as a teenager, but at the time still from an "onlooking" and not "self-wearing" perspective. About 12 / 13 years ago I told my then-girlfriend that I wanted to try out some wildly-ambitious ballet boots, like the ones I had just bought her. That didn't exactly go over well, but eventually she said why not. We still have a pair each, but the ambitions have normalized over time, lol. Over the course of time we added more and more "wearable" heels to the collection, and have pushed the boundaries of where and when to wear them. Today, we're happily married for 9 years and have a decent variety of matching options from a wide variety of brands. I look forward to sharing some of our adventures and interacting with you guys, who unknowingly gave me so much encouragement for all these years. Best regards, Clarity
    2 points
  12. It’s been an interesting challenge. Anybody can photograph a guy in heels and bake it look provocative and confronting. I set myself a challenge of shooting an image, or images, in which one doesn’t at first glance notice the heels although they are in no way hidden. I think I’ve got one that fills the bill. it’s odd for me because as a photographer I’m more comfortable behind the lens than in front of it - and this has nothing to do with being in heels. I wouldn’t mind sharing it with people on this forum but I’m less keen on general circulation.
    1 point
  13. I ran across this ad on one of my social media feeds. I have been getting ads from them for some time now, but didn't realize they made high(ish) heels at all. They mostly make work boots or wannabe work boots. However, it is obvious, after the slightest investigation, that the juxtaposition of the ad copy and this particular photo is a complete accident. These boots are not intended for men, but I had hoped so for several seconds. I will say that they do up to size 12, not skipping `10.5 and 11.5, which is fairly impressive.
    1 point
  14. I just did a complete rearrange/reassessment of my collection less than a week ago. But not a complete inventory where I commit several hours to using pen and paper. I haven't done that in over two years. I kind of wish I were smart enough to get all of this stuff on the computer, but I'm not. I have several hand written lists that I've made over the years, and it's interesting to compare the lists to see how my tastes have changed somewhat in that time, starting somewhere around 2015. Anyway, I have 105 pairs of heels. It seems to me that it's too many, because there's no way I can really wear them all. Back when I had 50 pairs, I could sort of claim that I really wore them all and not be lying much. When I do get around to doing a current inventory, I think I should include a spot in each shoe's statistics that estimates how many times I've worn a particular pair in the last year, in the last two years. I think that would help me reduce my collection down to something more reasonable. Sometimes, that decision gets made for me. I got rid of about 10 pair recently because of damage, either catastrophic or incremental. I documented elsewhere that the heel snapped clean in half on my most worn, and on of my favorite pairs of shoes. And at the other end of the spectrum, I knocked the cobwebs off my Nine West Dance Card mules, which I really like, but have rarely worn. The colored portion was peeling off the leather everywhere. No fixing that! Anyway, hopefully I can report on my shoe situation soon in a little bit more detail.
    1 point
  15. I can even count all of mine. I know it’s hard to part with. I also have some that are ,to me, to nice wear and scuff up. Some of those have designs on the soles. Bought them to wear but just can’t. I also have so many that are the same just in different colors or materials. For now I’m not parting with any but I know I should
    1 point
  16. Those are very nice! I love ankle boots and these are very elegant in their simplicity
    1 point
  17. How best to walk? I know this is a mega popular topic, so if I've not seen some sticky on the subject, apologies and please refer me. This refers to middle-width 8 cm / 3 inch heels. Walking in heels makes me question every habit of how I walk and it's hard to know what's what. Basic things I'm doing OK are: heel first, walk with the feet a bit (or a lot) more in a straight line than normal, smaller, slower steps. So for so good. Beyond that it feels more graceful if in moving forward I roll over my big toe so my weight kind of drops forward, to be caught by the heel of the forward foot. This however feels like a lot of work for the big toe. My question is, is that normal? There are many Youtube tutorials. However many are very short and obvious, others are made by ballerinas and impossibly complex. Can anyone recommend a good one that's in between? Many thanks
    1 point
  18. Yup, I get you. It sure is nice to see that you're still around. I think we chose almost the same boots to wear, See & cf. my thread, p. 85. I like the slight pop of color along with it.
    1 point
  19. Here is my entry into the ALMOST worn to death. I know some of you (aka @mlroseplant ) might have issues with the word 'almost'. These have must several hundred miles on them, but they are still very comfortable. I wear them for running errands only, like today to Costco in the rain. Here they are next to their replacement. Unfortunately, these sold out before I could get a thrid pair and a oair in another color. But they are real suede, so they hold very well.
    1 point
  20. I've had the same issues with outer materials peeling. Agreed about quality of the materials and the fact that I wear older shoes when not wearing my Chinese spike stilettos. I love my 5 inch stilettos but they do wear out fast. Most of my older better built (structurally) heels are Pleasers and they are well known for surface issues. All that said, I'm still fine with the situation. I'm financially in a good place to keep a steady supply of new not so well made heels coming in.
    1 point
  21. That looks like deterioration similar to what I've been experiencing lately. In fact, I just got rid of about half a dozen pairs because of it. Unless your shoes are full grain leather, I think this is bound to happen sooner or later, and I will venture to say that it will happen with increasing frequency over the next few years. You see, neither of us much like what is being offered these days style-wise, so we are pretty much stuck with older shoes. Unless those older shoes were particularly expensive, and sometimes even if they were, this is going to continue. As far as the heel cap goes, I feel your pain. I wouldn't give you two cents for the heel caps on those hollow, plastic molded heels. I remember when me and the ex-wife were first married, she bought a pair of what I thought were expensive shoes at the time. Somewhat similar in heel height and style to your Cathy Jeans. Within a month, she had lost a heel cap, and I was horrified to see what that heel was actually made of--plastic. I didn't know all that much about shoes at the time.
    1 point
  22. As promised, here is pictures from the autopsy of my Cathy Jeans Hells. The gold trim brought lots of compliment. Again the heel cap came off at the same airport. At about the same place in the airport Close up of the complete failure of the material. Split at the back.
    1 point
  23. Thank you for your comment, Shyheels. The identity slug, beneath my initial symbol above, shows that I have posted 13.3k comments over the time I have been a member here. I have related this part of my history before. A long time ago. It is the way it happened. I felt that if we were going to become involved to a point where a lifetime commitment was possible, then that commitment should be based upon the absolute truth if it was going to succeed. Our commitment was complete and successful. The only problem was that It didn’t last long enough. My wife passed away after only 36 years together. We were the same age. We should still be going strong. You cannot imagine how much I miss her. I realize that this is “off subject”. Please forgive me for reminiscing.
    1 point
  24. Yes having strong flexible ankles helps - I did lots of fencing in my youth and have retained a lot of that flexibility in my ankles ( probably thanks to many many thousand of miles of cycling since then )
    1 point
  25. I think it is also about building up your ankle strength. I saw a story in I think a New York Newspaper about how a Korean airline trained their flight attents to wear stilletos. It took me about 1 minute to go from 2 inch heels to 4 and 5 inch heels, but I had had years of ankle therapy after many ankle reconstructions.
    1 point
  26. I had a major failure yesterday. I flew yesterday and wore a pair of Cathy Jeans. Cathy Jeans were a non defunct company out of Argentina. One of my first pairs with about a 3 inch heel with gold trim. (Photo later.) One of my favorite heels, but being short I hadn't worn them in years. But I decided to wear them yesterday. First the heel cap disappear in about the same location as my other one did. But this was a one day trip, there and back in under 12 hours, so I NO luggage, i.e. no other shoes I could change into. Therefore I had to wear them in that condition all day. Then later I notice that the material cracking and delaminating. So sad. I will real liked these. I will take parts off of them and then donate them to HinH Heel Hill.
    1 point
  27. The other day I went to see a play. I was wearing some colourful trousers with 3" heel black ankle boots with slim block heels. Nobody seemed to notice except for one women who generously complimented me on my heels. She said they were cuban, which they weren't. I thanked her.
    1 point
  28. Yes own the look and nobody will care
    1 point
  29. The more normal and natural you look the less attention you’ll attract. That’s not to say that nobody will notice that you’re wearing heels because they will. But more than likely they will just take a passing glance with out any visible reaction. That has been my experience.
    1 point
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  31. Just be yourself. Don't act nervous. Just a walk in the park.
    1 point
  32. Pumps and jeans. Great look. Heels allow color matching and a clean look.
    1 point
  33. Yesterday's church OOTW. Less than special, but you can't hit a home run every time at bat. Besides, I'm kind of tired of winning.
    1 point
  34. It's inspiring to see how far you pushed it, for sure. Due to my position at work I still find it challenging to wear heels anywhere near as often as I'd like to, but I think that's more on me than her. (Despite all the D&I statements we make, I'd be concerned about the real world professional consequences. We're pushing the boundaries a little bit when we're going places around town where the risk is lower to run into employees, but I don't know how it would actually pan out if I / we did.) At least these days we're traveling a fair bit, so when ever we're out of town we are able to make use of our many mostly matching pairs and enjoy them together instead of me watching her. Remind me, does your wife wear any - elevated or not - footwear you can appreciate, or do you need to compensate for both of you at all times in that department?
    1 point
  35. So true and so disappointing. I’ve been experimenting with shooting images of myself in heels - not posing but looking natural, casual, as though it were not staged, and shot in such a way that the fact that I’m wearing heels is not immediately apparent although the heels are fully visible. It is entirely possible to photograph a guy in heels in such a way that it seems completely unremarkable -
    1 point
  36. I totally agree with HinH. We are indeed fortunate that mlroseplant appears amongst us both in comments and photos demonstrating that appearing in public wearing high heels and occasionally mixing Items of feminine apparel with his outfits is courageous and socially acceptable, much in the same manner as does kneehighs, casting aside any fear of being stigmatized as deviant. Their examples demonstrate the fact that while wearing items of clothing usually associated with male or females, they are really totally normal people who’s taste happens to include selecting color, shapes and functions not usually associated with males. I, for one, do not pay attention to what clothing fashion designers and models present during their shows. Often I have great sympathy for the models who have to wear these hideous designers creations. At times models must be humiliated and embarrassed having to appear on the runway wearing these unappealing creations. As to this forum, it’s appeal to me (or those of us that frequently login) would totally be diminished should either or both kneehigh or mlrosplant disappear or no longer post comments. Should that happen, given the decline in comments being posted, Hhp might as well pack it in.
    1 point
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